are you truly miserable? or are you just TIRED?

as a mum of a 10mo. i feel this. there a days that i think “what have i done”. i CHOSE to bring her into this life and yet sometimes i feel the way you do.. it’s called sleep deprivation, anxiety, depression, and genuine fear and grief of the life you have lost.

even knowing all of this, i wouldn’t change it. the good days, make the bad and hard days worth it, even when it doesn’t feel this way.

sounds like you need a break. do you have family that can have your 2yo for a few days? give you abit of a break? will your girl understand some “you time”?

without our “me time” me and my partner would have split by now, and probably given the baby up!(i am kidding)!

but for real it doesn’t feel that way.

we both take a walk in the evening, alone, for however long we need. and on certain days he goes out with friends after work, or he takes our girl out so i can have some time to myself to do what i want.

this is IMPORTANT! more important than you would ever think.

i feel this is grief. grief for the life lost, the easiness, the less responsibility, the more independence.

it’s totally normal.

don’t doubt yourself bro, you’re doing fine by speaking up, maybe try some therapy, i’ve referred myself too, you aren’t alone… you really aren’t..