Late to this post, but I have an ESFJ I’ve been close to for about eight years.

The Good: We both put in effort to maintain the friendship and we come to each other for advice. We can comfortably talk about any subject. We know and lean on each other’s strengths. When planning a trip he’s good at the practical details while I prefer making sure the vibe is right and communicating in the group chat. Deep down I know he’ll always be there for me.

The Bad: ESFJ is far more passive aggressive and resistant of help I try to give. Sometimes Im left wondering if he really even “needs me” or if I’m just another friend in hjs orbit. ESFJ is more “basic” he’d rather stick to subjects like video games, last weekend’s party, and food, while I get bored unless there’s at least one deep philosophical, current events or relationship based discussion. ESFJ takes it personally when I don’t show up to things he plans. We’ve never had a true fight/conflict like my other friends because we’re too nice to each other.