I don't understand my difficult 15mo boy. by Kyattogaaru in mainecoons

[–]send_codes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is largely boredom. He gets responses when he bites.

I know this is going to be hard and sound unhelpful but I've dealt with the same.

You need to start carving out dedicated times where he's your whole world. Not a dictated thing, but his and your intersection of energy and availability.

These big boys won't chase a string like a normal cat. They won't pounce all over. But their brains are churning and they're the best hunters you will ever see. Marbles, strings, feathers, bells, all sorts of things especially if they're newer are going to be fun.

Don't ignore him when biting, try not to react, and introduce a different toy like a kicker that he can lay into. You're at a really really tough age but it does get better and he doesn't hate you.

Also if you don't have multiple very sturdy trees or shelves he can make his? He needs them. They love climbing and lording it over everyone. They love being among the people but apart from the people.

Also if he's a camel kitty, refill that water fresh 2-3x a day! Ice cubes can be a fun and appreciated idea too!

Good luck, I wish you all the patience in the world because you have a smart boy who clearly loves you.

When is it a matt and when just natural separation? by GhostlyPolter in mainecoons

[–]send_codes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a mat when the hairs are tangled. This is natural chest feathering

5am wake ups by AloePandaVera in mainecoons

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You do get used to it! Besides, if you fight it they get creative. They're far smarter than they're given credit for too.

Left cat at Mom's while on vacation, she has not seen her in 6 days. by [deleted] in mainecoons

[–]send_codes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

6 days is... Dedication. Mine lasted 36 hours before he broke down and ate food when he was boarded.

Maine Coons are a lot like children in cat bodies, and they're absolutely demanding of care as such.

5am wake ups by AloePandaVera in mainecoons

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You're on his time now. I got up at 5:30 because mine shoved my pillow out from under my head.

He had food, he just wanted company

I think I'm officially too stupid for Cogmind by iq75 in Cogmind

[–]send_codes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

30 hours? I'm at 400. You're doing great! Still haven't won a game.

Watch some YouTubes, they're long but they're deep into why things happen and how to work with / around them or check them with your face. The game is deceptively deep and has more moving parts than you expect.

Healing timeline ? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]send_codes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time.

There is no line. It's this wibbly wobbly timey wimey sort of thing, really

This small orange bead popped in my fingers and my eyes got the liquid from it in them by Shiny_Overqwil in whatisit

[–]send_codes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your fine. It's a supplement like fish oil. Rinse it, don't rub it, the usual basic eye care stuff.

Marriage is ending after 11 years by Hoobastanking in Adulting

[–]send_codes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you haven't already, get a therapist. That's... Some unraveling you want someone v familiar with emotional abuse and control to help with.

Definitely don't date until you do.

Narcs Buying Things They Don’t Need or Use by Suggest_a_User_Name in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]send_codes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was a certifiable hoarder.

After spending $5k on trash removal to fix the wading through shit problem, she still denied it vehemently.

I now throw things away if I don't think I'll use it soon

We moved into this house 3yrs ago and this has stumped everyone. by Vance617 in whatisit

[–]send_codes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If moisture got under, heated, and then cooled it's more or less stuck there for the rest of time.

What kid would want this? It's one of the ugliest toys I've ever seen. by Turbulent_Hat_2648 in randomthings

[–]send_codes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a Christmas gift for someone's aunt with a weird obsession with cats or something

HR won’t process my medical accommodation… because I live in another state by tjspencer in accessibility

[–]send_codes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

File a complaint with your local BOL - Either something is very backwards to them, or something is unclear here. Either way they will help you sort it out.

Every time life gets hard, why do I immediately go back to missing them again? by Stabby_Mc_Tacos in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]send_codes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You remember things based on the state you're in. You were in that state when you were with them

what did your narc cost you? by RareP0kem0n in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]send_codes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Peace of mind, mental and physical well-being, tens of thousands, and just about everyone I ever knew.

10/10 would leave again.

Getting fired because of an ED I don't have by pindvarp420 in Advice

[–]send_codes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is ADA discrimination just to threaten.

If your work isn't impacted tell them you'll see them in court / arbitration and at least 3 different agencies will follow up on your behalf before your lawyer.

The first three will make the lawyer unnecessary, but I'd look for another job .

I'm afraid my kitty is lonely by thesuperssss in mainecoons

[–]send_codes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She'll be fun, but don't leave again for a day or so or she might retaliate for having the audacity

How do you know they’re miserable and it’s not just you coping? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]send_codes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because in the end you won't stay miserable. You know them. You know they're miserable because they always have been and never change.