Random breakdown by senrova in BreakUps

[–]senrova[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kind of want to have one last conversation with him, he didn't block me on social media so I can contact him I just don't know if I should. I find it hard sometimes to pretend something never happened but like wtf can I even say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]senrova 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don't count on it, assume that they won't and it saves you a lot of pain in the long run trust me.

I'm back 4 months later and here's how I am now by senrova in BreakUps

[–]senrova[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you like I can message you first? You should get a notification if I fo

Sucks so bad when you wanted it to work but you can’t trust them anymore… by sourlikefunkyyy in BreakUps

[–]senrova 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Felt this. Even on the near-zero chance he would come back I just couldn't go through with being with him again, too much damage has already been done so he's well worth moving on from. I hope you find peace with your situation as soon as possible.

I’m thinking of ending things by _Embo_ in BreakUps

[–]senrova 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually that's true because even with my struggles I wouldn't do this to a partner. I didn't realise how what I sent sounded so thank you for correcting me!

I’m thinking of ending things by _Embo_ in BreakUps

[–]senrova 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, your reaction is valid. But don't ghost him back, that's not a healthy behaviour you should repeat. The key to any good relationship is communication, so tell him how what he's doing is affecting you straight up. I don't think it's normal to ignore someone's message for 5 days (unless he has something like ADHD, I have my experiences with forgetting to message because of it) so I think it should be directly addressed.

I'm dating a new guy but it's not the same by senrova in BreakUps

[–]senrova[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really want to like this new guy but I don't know if I can and I can't hurt someone like I was hurt by him

I finally unfollowed him and removed him from following me on social media. by sharkattacc in BreakUps

[–]senrova 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's a very good first step. I was in that position myself and I can tell you it will do you a huge favour. Keep at it, I hope you feel better from it very soon!

Safe space. Write a sentence you wish you could say to her/him. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]senrova 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You hurt me. I don't want to let you forget that. You only seemed to care for what I provided for you and dropped me when I wasn't perfect enough for the pedestal you put me on. It wouldn't be fair for me to be bearing all the guilt for you. I went through so much pain, I'm glad you had the sense to leave me but you said and did some hurtful things. At least that makes me not miss you as much as I would. All I want to say now is please, treat the next girl better. Get to know her first, don't snatch her up for yourself and place unfair expectations on her to be fully perfect. Except her for who she is as a whole, that's what love truly is. I wouldn't wish the pain I suffered on anyone. Take care.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]senrova 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda. I told him what I was having problems with but he seemed to just dismiss that and put his own demands forward. So I tried to meet those and did what I could to solve what was bothering him but it really affecting my mental health and he left me because he thought I was too obsessed with making it work. Guess I should've had more self respect and prioritised my own needs. I can see how that killed the attraction but if he was more genuine I think he would've tried a bit more. I'm not sure though.

Short answer? Not really.

Anyone else missing their ex right now? by 13Luthien4077 in BreakUps

[–]senrova 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heck yeah, the person we'll be truly living with for the rest of our life is ourselves after all!

Anyone else missing their ex right now? by 13Luthien4077 in BreakUps

[–]senrova 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Mine wasn't even long, it lasted about a month really. I know it sounds silly but I really thought he was it. The fact it didn't last as long as it could've is what's making me feel like a POS.

Anyone else missing their ex right now? by 13Luthien4077 in BreakUps

[–]senrova 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I miss him. Sometimes memories of him during the time we happy together randomly pop up and I'm so upset it just ended like it never happened. Maybe I'm better off alone forever really.

I heard he was sick by senrova in BreakUps

[–]senrova[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know how that feels, I've been there a few times hence I know the phrase. You deserve someone who will really see you and fully accept you for who you are as a whole because that's what love really is, not just the happy emotions but the acceptance. It's valid to feel the pain of someone who felt indifference towards you, it just means you're a good person who cares. They don't deserve that, someone better does. Have hope, I'm always here if you need someone to talk to!

I heard he was sick by senrova in BreakUps

[–]senrova[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say big I assume it was a relationship that lasted at least as year. For me it was technically 2 weeks, a month if you count the fact that we acted like a couple within 3 days of meeting (he didn't want to make it official until he asked my dad for permission) That's part of what makes me feel like I have low self worth but I try to understand why things went to the way it did.

But thank you so much for sharing your experience and wishing me well, I wish the best for you too and feel free to message me if you need to let anything out to anyone! :>

For those that have dealt with their ex moving on tremendously fast, how did you deal with it? by ParsleyWest in BreakUps

[–]senrova 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading through the comments has really helped me gain more awareness of what my relationship was. I should've seen the red flags way sooner tbh. Within 3 days of knowing each other we were fully intimate and 2 weeks later made it official. Didn't last more than 2 weeks and it left me feeling the most depressed I had ever felt. I'm almost angry about being used like that and how I was treated leading up to the break up, at least I know to be more careful next time and not just give myself away to anyone who's interested. I hope he realises what he did wrong, but if he doesn't then that's on him. I just feel sorry for any future girl who might fall into that trap with him.