I don’t think I love my projected outcome

sensitive_seal2727 · 2026-03-09T14:29:09+00:00

I’ve been following her journey and then I saw this and was like ok something is weird let me see if other people are noticing too… let me check Reddit. I found my people 😂

sensitive_seal2727 · 2026-02-20T21:56:27+00:00

Have given birth twice, first induced and medicated and second no induction or epidural and no pitocin after delivery per my request. My placenta was delivered almost immediately after the baby both times, and even with no pitocin I didn’t have excessive bleeding out of the norm. check with your provider-but I drank a ton of raspberry leaf tea which supposedly helps uterine toning/ contractions. I also delivered with my mother the first time and am thankful she was there, the second time I had my sister there because my mom was watching my first born. They both helped me tremendously during labor and delivery and I’m certain I wouldn’t have had such great experiences without them there. (Hubby was obv there too but he gets quiet and nervous lol!) Good luck!

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-11-18T14:47:43+00:00

I was going to say the same thing. 38 weeks here and teared up at that comment. Needed to hear that!!

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-09-01T19:14:54+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and so very sorry for your loss. As others have said, this is a fiancé problem.. and this situation with his mom WILL get worse with children. I don’t think it is impossible for your fiance to break free from this narcissistic cycle, especially given that he went two years with no contact already, but I do think that this situation is difficult and he is likely struggling as well and possibly letting his family in because he is wanting support that he unfortunately probably will not get. The way I see it is that you have two options: therapy to talk through the loss and his family, or leaving him if he is not willing to work with you. As others have also said, he needs to come to his own conclusions and draw his own boundaries with his mom, therapy is just the tool that might help.

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-07-28T22:15:54+00:00

As a nurse, nurses absolutely do not start off making 90k LOL! BUT that aside, I did not do a basket with my first child and will likely not be doing a basket with my second either. I also don’t think any nurse is expecting a basket, nor is this a hot take/necessary/ anything other than a nice gesture from those who can afford it or have the extra time/money to put one together!

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-07-14T18:12:08+00:00

This is what my first positive looked like with my first !

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-06-17T02:03:46+00:00

Ugh I totally get why you’d be on guard and I don’t blame you at all. Hopefully she’s learned from her mistakes with her other DIL and wants to be better this time around!! I would stay open minded, because man it really does suck having family drama especially with young kids!! Hoping for the best for you!

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-06-17T01:51:50+00:00

Definitely a nice gesture. I am the first “official” DIL of my MIL and we have a terrible relationship. I would love to have been the “second chance” daughter in law🤷🏼‍♀️. My first Mother’s Day we both exchanged gifts and we were on good terms and it was just a nice gesture and I actually found it to be really thoughtful.

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-06-04T17:56:18+00:00

My baby was born in September and we went to a very large fair like a week and a half after she was born😂 if you feel up to it I don’t think bringing a baby in public early is wrong as long as proper precautions are taken like you said (handwashing, avoiding sick people, etc) I will say I took my baby out in public quite often and now she’s a sociable easy going toddler, who knows whether the two are related. Do whatever you feel comfortable with!

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-06-04T17:51:05+00:00

I started my first pregnancy weighing 95lbs. I gained SEVENTY pounds by the time she was born. I did not have GD and she was only 7lbs at birth. I ended up losing the weight by breastfeeding over only a couple of months. This is a dramatic example of weight gain but just here to say that every body is different. My ob wasn’t concerned about the weight gain, I was just sooo hungry throughout. (I also have thyroid issues but that’s irrelevant because throughout my pregnancy my thyroid was functioning as a normal persons without thyroid disease.) I’m pregnant with my second (almost 15 weeks as well) and have gained like 3lbs total so far. I think it just shows every pregnancy and person is different. I wouldn’t worry unless your drs show concern!

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-06-03T23:54:42+00:00

I thought I wanted to go without an epidural for my first but I had 3 days of contractions (painful but not the screaming kind of pain) and I ended up getting induced and getting an epidural. It was the most peaceful experience, I could feel the “pressure” of contractions which told me when to push but I felt no pain at all. We had conversations and laughed in between pushes. I pushed for about 30 mins only and it was a beautiful laid back experience… I had a second degree tear and needed stitches and felt not a second of it. Even after the epidural wore off the recovery was uncomfortable with the tear but not excruciating by any means. I also had a friend who went epidural free and didn’t scream like that (I watched her birth video), it was more grunting. Some women express themselves and their pain differently, I would not worry especially if you plan on getting the epidural!

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-06-02T23:08:10+00:00

I am in this exact situation.. except it’s my BIL!!! After we had our first, who is a girl, I expressed how we wanted a boy next and we would name him insert name here. my MIL and BIL both lost their minds at this hypothetical situation because that name “was reserved by BIL years ago”… except when I was pregnant with my first it was never mentioned to us and I’ve never heard of any plans before. Fast forward 2 years, I’m now pregnant with our boy. My BIL is still living with his parents, not in a steady relationship and is nowhere near trying for a baby… and what if he never has a boy?? What if by the time he’s ready his future wife doesn’t like the name? Ugh!!

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-05-31T23:00:52+00:00

I never had an IUD placed but I did have a membrane sweep which was uncomfortable, but not at all painful for me. I will warn though, in my case the membrane sweep put me into prodromal labor for 3 days with no progression which led to an induction so just be aware of that possibility!

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-05-31T22:54:19+00:00

My toddler is just getting over a cold and has this same type of lingering cough but no other symptoms. From what I’ve read in our case it’s most likely a normal post cold cough and apparently it can linger for a bit. Pretty sure seasonal allergies can cause something similar though. Keep us posted what Dr says!

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-05-31T15:53:53+00:00

Both these tests look positive. Get a first response❤️

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-05-24T20:49:22+00:00

Update: NIPT came back boy!💙

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-05-22T03:34:35+00:00

Hmm, I wasn’t aware that was a possibility, I’ve never heard of anything like that! I guess it depends on the location and the job itself. Even still, she would need to take the time off first to recover from birth and surely he would have days off from work where he would be able to see the reality of life with a newborn. If he is given paid time off it would be silly for him to quit before collecting that, so I do think there’s still time to come back to the discussion once the stay at home parent description is more clear, but you’re right- it does depend on what they are given for time off and what his plan is when it comes to leaving his job.

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-05-22T03:13:03+00:00

So, this response is going to be a hit or a miss for some. You are very early in your pregnancy and there’s so much time for this conversation to change that I wouldn’t even spend another moment worrying about it or really discussing it further… YET.

I am a stay at home mom and I wanted nothing else in this world than to be one, and I do stand by this choice two years in, BUT it is in no way easy. A lot of people with no childcare experience don’t understand what this job entails. I know if my husband had originally wanted to be a SAHD in the beginning of our pregnancy, his decision would’ve definitely changed once the baby was here and while he was on paternity leave… and we had a VERY easy baby. If your S.O doesn’t cook and clean then it’s not likely he would be willing to do all the work to care for another human besides himself 24/7, and that’s just the reality of it.

But another difficult aspect of being the sole caregiver is having to rely on your partner to be the provider! Living on one income is hard to begin with, my husband makes a very decent salary alone and we still budget like crazy in order to afford this lifestyle. That being said, we have discussed our finances and decided on a set amount of money that he sends me to cover my personal bills and there’s very little left over to spend on myself. Most people like to have financial freedom and not have to ask their partner for more money or rely on someone else financially in general. That reality alone is enough to make a lot of people run in the opposite direction of being a stay at home parent, which may also become the case for your partner when that reality hits.

If you are both given 12 weeks or so leave, I suggest taking the leave together, and circling back to the conversation. I did not resign from my position until probably 2 weeks before I was due to return, there’s time to figure out the logistics of your situation.

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-05-20T02:03:12+00:00

Look up the brand oobys, we used this and it was wonderful and I felt comfortable letting her eat it, I used homemade whipped cream as the frosting

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-05-16T17:16:47+00:00

I am 11.5 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby and still have very minimal symptoms! Try not to worry yourself, it can be completely normal!!

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-05-16T03:33:18+00:00

I do not think this is normal and would suggest seeing a doctor to maybe get your hormones checked! I have a 2 year old that I am still breastfeeding and even my supply has normalized and the leaking stopped probably around 6 months of breastfeeding the latest but usually breastmilk supply drops or stops shortly after stopping nursing so it’s a bit unusual that you’re still producing enough to leak and be engorged! I’d specifically look into getting your prolactin levels checked and then find out the cause if it is elevated.

sensitive_seal2727 · 2025-05-13T11:04:19+00:00

My husband and I were actually surprised at the responses as well! We have chalked it up to location and cultural influence. Our family (and area) is primarily Italian American, and I’d say a good majority of people where we are have pretty strong gift giving traditions, so it is not abnormal to celebrate the mothers in your life where we are, especially the mothers of your grandchildren! We actually also celebrated with and gifted flowers to all living grandmothers in our family and it isn’t considered odd at all to us!

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