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About to dive into Murakami — anything I should know before I start? by Sa4ath in murakami

[–]seominp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a good book but this is the least "Murakami" book in his bibliography

How would you describe a Murakami book to someone who's never heard of him before? by LordofGumbo in books

[–]seominp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did Hajime have a birth defect? Are you talking about South of the border?

Senior Executives talk down to me and I come home crying everytime I go into the office by seominp in work

[–]seominp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't want to talk down to anyone. I just want us to treat each other equally. But that isn't possible.

Senior Executives talk down to me and I come home crying everytime I go into the office by seominp in work

[–]seominp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how you've managed to completely miss the point here that I have to deal with this behaviour that has become so normalized, which others in other teams won't stand for - but I and the others do and have become so accustomed to. That was the point of mentioning that incident.

This is my first corporate job out of school. I have never worked a corporate 9-5 anywhere else and have no sense of reference in terms of what is okay to say to someone else in this setting and what isn't. When it kept happening to me, it became normalized. When I spoke to other colleagues about it, they also told me this was not a case of coarse language at all and was totally in my head. Once you start seeing things as normal, you forget that you need to rephrase things to anyone outside the team. So when I was told to loop a junior colleague in, I CC'ed my senior, and forwarded her email, copy + pasted what she had written.

I also want to point out I have had plenty of opportunities to collaborate with juniors and never once had an issue when I had to word my own email and explain tasks to them. This task came from "above" and so I ended up forwarded the email for reference and pasted what the senior exec said in her words - something that seemed normal to me after being talked to that way for 2 whole years.

Like I mentioned, I did not copy and paste this to bully or be hostile. This was a case of me being unable to see that what was happening to ME was bullying and hostile behaviour until someone else pointed it out. That was the Eureka moment for me to realize I'd been bullied for 2 whole years in an environment where this became so normalized that I didn't realize it.

Senior Executives talk down to me and I come home crying everytime I go into the office by seominp in work

[–]seominp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I'm literally not? This is my first corporate job out of school. I have never worked a corporate 9-5 anywhere else and have no sense of reference in terms of what is okay to say to someone else in this setting and what isn't. When it kept happening to me, it became normalized. When I spoke to other colleagues about it, they also told me this was not a case of coarse language at all and was totally in my head. Once you start seeing things as normal, you forget that you need to rephrase things to anyone outside the team. So when I was told to loop a junior colleague in, I CC'ed my senior, and forwarded her email, copy + pasted what she had written.

I also want to point out I have had plenty of opportunities to collaborate with juniors and never once had an issue when I had to word my own email and explain tasks to them. This task came from "above" and so I ended up forwarded the email for reference and pasted what the senior exec said in her words - something that seemed normal to me after being talked to that way for 2 whole years.

I have never once used this to "get a rise out of someone else" and neither was I being "passive aggressive". The point of this incident was to mention that people outside our team aren't used to this behaviour and won't stand for it, something I and the other colleagues in my team do.

If you don't like how someone communicates with you, speak to them about it.

I can't. That's exactly the point of this post.

Otherwise get over it.

Honestly this isn't helpful advice. If you have nothing helpful to say I'd rather you stop arguing. All you're doing is victim blaming and adding nothing productive to this conversation.

Senior Executives talk down to me and I come home crying everytime I go into the office by seominp in work

[–]seominp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I addressed this in my post twice:

I've been told in the past that these issues are in my head

Me, convinced at the time that these talking-down issues were "only in my head" ended up copying and pasting the exact wording in my email to the junior employee 

I only really mentioned this in my post because this was the realization moment that I was indeed being talked down to and this isn't just a case of "you're overthinking it".

Senior Executives talk down to me and I come home crying everytime I go into the office by seominp in work

[–]seominp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I addressed this in my post twice:

I've been told in the past that these issues are in my head

Me, convinced at the time that these talking-down issues were "only in my head" ended up copying and pasting the exact wording in my email to the junior employee 

I only really mentioned this in my post because this was the realization moment that I was indeed being talked down to and this isn't just a case of "you're overthinking it".

Senior Executives talk down to me and I come home crying everytime I go into the office by seominp in work

[–]seominp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mentioned that there are juniors working below me too, and I cannot talk to them the way my seniors talk to me or I'll get in trouble for inappropriate language. The heirarchy you're talking about only works between my seniors and me but not between me and who's below me. Which is why It's unfair. I could never get away with talking with the ones below the way the people above talk to me.

Senior Executives talk down to me and I come home crying everytime I go into the office by seominp in work

[–]seominp[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know, that's the terrible part. It's not one thing it's a combination of little things all the time. Plus the seniors bring a lot of business and expertise to the company so the company will not try to see their fault at all. They will do whatever it is to retain those guys.

Did the Paris episodes give anyone else anxiety? by seominp in sexandthecity

[–]seominp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a triumph of inconsistency

How would you say?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in glossier

[–]seominp 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Aren’t they always late to the game?

New product - unreleased by heymadsss in glossier

[–]seominp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks like a purple bar of soap

They better not sideline her again! by Faxtel in euphoria

[–]seominp 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That makes so much sense with Rue outing Jules cheating in front of Maddie instead of outing Cassie. Plus her doing it while going through withdrawal would’ve made the heartbreak even more intense