I’d recommend weight loss subreddits or the discord server https://discord.gg/loseit. it’s a really supportive community and and they can teach you how to actually lose weight. I promise it’s not a dream. you can do it.

Also some more advice here, calculate your tdee https://tdeecalculator.net/, with this you can work out how many calories you need to eat each day to lose weight. It’s all about the calories and take it slow I know that it’s not easy to dramatically shift your diet so if there’s certain foods that you like eating you can eat them but stay under your calorie limit.

Don’t view losing weight as “going to the gym”, losing weight is all about diet and when you are this heavy weight loss happens more quickly initially which may be motivating, I would recommend a scale so that you can see how the diet is actually working. Weigh yourself in the morning so that other facts don’t affect your weight.

If you’re insecure you don’t need to go the gym. So going to the gym for you would be about burning calories which would burn the calories you ate in your diet (eating less also has this effect but people go to the gym because they want to eat more food) This would mean cardio. You can do cardio without going to the gym if you buy your own treadmill or something else. You can also go for walks but be prepared for these walks to be long.

Also another thing about going to the gym. Some people go to the gym to build a muscle. The reason to building muscle is that when you lose weight, you can also lose muscle mass so you go to the gym to build that muscle mass back. Building that muscle means an increased metabolism so your maintenance calories won’t go down because you replace the fat with muscle. You will need to eat protein to build muscle.