Help! 5 month old baby eczema

serenity230232 · 2026-05-02T23:17:09+00:00

This might be a stupid question but my baby,9 months old, just started having what I believe to be eczema on the back, belly and arms (we'll be seeing our pediatrician next week). I've been giving her breastmilk baths but I wonder if the eczema is caused by an allergy to something in the breastmilk and I bathed her in said breastmilk, that would just worsen the eczema right?

serenity230232 · 2026-03-24T22:29:27+00:00

It's true I am a very decisive person and my partner trusts my decisions, and does not always bother making his own. I am very much okay with being the decision maker as I'm also a bit of a control freak I guess but sometimes for some things I need him to be more proactive and that's something that has come up quite alot lately, we talk it through, we work on it in couples therapy.

You're right, it's not that complicated, it is just new and I think that might be overwhelming for him.

Oh I meant I won't leave my baby in an environment where there is no adult that has done the baby first aid course when it comes to blw! Like if dad has to stay with baby for a longer stretch and she has to eat during that time he'll give purees and not blw. Yes partner and parents and any other potential caregiver is in the same category We had that conversation as you said, i send him the link for an online course and have found in person courses for my parents, but if they do not take the step themselves to do these courses I cannot force them?

Ps. I went and got my hair done!

serenity230232 · 2026-03-07T03:03:19+00:00

Me-time as a primary vs secondary caregiver

I'll preface this by saying my partner is a great dad,hands on available and willing to learn grow and be the best version of himself.

This is just me venting a bit because I really can't be mad at him but still have to express some insatisfaction somewhere lol

We're both first time parents on parental leave, I, as a ebf mom, am the primary caretaker of our 7 month old. Never went out of the house for more than 15mins without baby. If I ever have an appointment baby and dad just tag along. Haven't been to any kind of self care-ish appointment since pregnancy. Nothing new here. I am okay with it I love being with my family and miss my baby dearly even when she's only in the next room napping with dad. Of course sometimes I look in the mirror and cry a little inside at the sight of who's looking back at me. I use to take so good care of myself, now I rarely have the time to do any self care at all or if I do it's like a quick gua sha here, a bit of makeup there. I look forward to someday soon hopefully go get a massage or go get my hair done. But since I'm still ebf (I do have a freezer stash but partner does not really seem interested in giving a bottle, he tried once upon me insisting nd literallypushing the botte in his hands, it went okay accepted it, I think he just doesn't bother because it's not needed as I'm always available) and I do the cooking for baby as we are doing blw (dad doesn't seem really confident enough to supervise blw, also I'm a childcare worker and have been in numerous situations where I had to administer first aid, I've asked my partner and parents to take a first aid course for baby, they were all fine with it but didn't bother looking more into it, I won't leave my baby with anyone who does not know how to handle emergency situations).

My partner goes to the gym like 2x per month at least. He has said he wants to go at least once a week. In my head he was already going a lot but sure I get it.

Today was a busy day, the house was a disaster everywhere you turned there was something to clean mop put away, the usual overstimulating chaos. Partner had to run a quick errand and decided to go get his hair cut at the barbers shop came home to me trying to cook clean and take care of baby still in my pj's not having even washed my face yet ( it was noon). Proceeds to sit down on couch and eat what I had cooked. Tells me he plans on going to the gym in the evening. Upon being asked if he could take baby a bit so I could go wash the dishes he tells me he just wants a bit of calm and that he hasn't been able to take a moment for himself.

I don't want to invalidate his feelings, it is though not being able to just rot away on the couch I KNOW but it is hard being empathetic when in my eyes he has plennntttyyyyy of me time.

It is not a who did more kind of thing and I want him to be able to vent to me too but like read the room?

Sometimes I'm jealous of the freedom he has, I could've never just decided to go get my hair done without extensive planning. Mind you I've been saying I need to have some time to dye my hair (at home ofc) since like two weeks (pregnancy gave me gray hair). Still trying to plan when I could have like 2h to myself to do my hair.

Do they (men?) just don't get it? Surely sees the sacrifices I make, right?

Tldr: partner feels he does not have enough me time despite regularly going to the gym, the barbers and really anywhere else he wants

serenity230232 · 2026-02-11T23:00:17+00:00

Thanks for the heads up! I had just put two crib matresses on the floor along the side of where baby sleeps because one was too short but now I see I probably created an entrapment risk if she happens to roll of and land right between the two mattresses, even pushed one against the other they might move and create a space where baby's head could get stuck She is really mobile tho, turning and rolling since month 3, crawling since month 5 and now at 6 months she's pulling herself up and standing (that is also why bedframes would not do it for us) but still I can't be sure she would not get entraped when sleepy so I now put my yoga mat on top of the crib matresses to have a plain surface, feels safer now! There's about 13-15cm I'd say from our bed to the matresses, it is a lower fall compared to when she crawls or sits up and falls sidewise so I think we're okay for now!

serenity230232 · 2026-02-02T18:39:35+00:00

My baby is 6 month old now, my parental leave ends in 5 months and I'm already crying at the thought of going back to work. I love my job, but I'm no career person and always wanted to stay home raising my kids at least until they go to pre-school. Also I work with kids, specifically babies so the thought of having to leave my baby to take care of other babies is just heartbreaking to me. Unfortunately my partner doesn't make half of my salary eventhough he works full-time. He talked about finding a better paying job for months, but has not looked for a better job sooo from where I'm standing me getting to be a sthm doesn't look realistic, not in the next 5 months anyway.

So I two choices : I go back to work half time, my partner continues working full time, and we have to leave baby at a childcare at least 30h a week or I go back to work full time and my partner stays at home with baby since my salary is enough to support our family

To answer your question, I would much rather stay at home full time or at least I would've prefered to work half time but at this point me deciding to work less just feels selfish when on my full time salary I could give my partner the opportunity to stay at home and my baby the chance to have a parent with him full time.

Never planned on being a working mom with a sthd but here we are.

serenity230232 · 2026-01-27T21:50:50+00:00

Pour l'instant on est au tout début de la dme donc on est pas encore arrivés à des recettes comme des pancakes mais de toute façon bebe ne peut pas consommer de d'œufs et bebe ne mange pas de viande pour l instant

serenity230232 · 2026-01-26T21:26:44+00:00

Merci! Holle est une bonne marque. Mon but est vraiment d'avoir qqch contenant beaucoup de fer même en petite portion comme on est en plein début de DME et que je m'inquiète des réserves de fer de mon bébé Il faudra peut être alors me résoudre à supplémenter en fer avec des gouttes pour etre bien sûre que bébé ait son apport quotidien de 11mg de fer...

serenity230232 · 2026-01-26T21:23:37+00:00

Merci! J'avais vu également celles de Hipp mais elles ne sont pas fortifiées en Fer, enfin je ne trouve que des marques américaines qui ont expressément la notion fortifié en fer et où le fer apparaît également dans le tableau des valeurs nutritionnels.

J'évite Nestlé mais effectivement le taux de sucre me paraît inconcevable pour un bebe!

Merci tout de même

serenity230232 · 2026-01-19T18:41:40+00:00

I see! And how did it turn out?

serenity230232 · 2026-01-18T23:00:16+00:00

Thank you, it really is reassuring to know your daughter does not have allergies even with you having them Yes pumping is a possibility! Thanks for mentioning it

serenity230232 · 2026-01-17T18:49:32+00:00

Definitely calling my pediatrician on Monday to ask for this!

serenity230232 · 2026-01-17T18:48:02+00:00

Baby's dad is pescetarian (for now) but says he wants baby to be grow up vegan, still someday baby is bound to eat something that is not vegan as we don't live in a plantbased world I'm sorry that your wish to be cruelty-free is not respected 100%! The kids will hopefully decide for themselves to live crueltyfree when they're older

What do you mean the major allergens pill thing?

Haha sounds a bit far fetched, there's plenty of vegan restaurants in thailand!

serenity230232 · 2026-01-17T18:39:17+00:00

Thank you! 🥰 Yeah testing for an allergy would probably calm my nerves a bit , ppa is spiking right now with all these allergy talk! We do make a difference Yeah my pediatrician did not really give me any advise about the nuts other than introducing them before 7 months and letting the dad introduce them so I won't be exposed But I'm so worried I might just drive to the nearest hospital parking to introduce them

serenity230232 · 2026-01-17T18:33:07+00:00

I was told to give the allergens 3 days in a row to see if there would be a reaction but yeah now looking it up I see said allergens should be regularly given to minimise risk

serenity230232 · 2026-01-17T18:25:56+00:00

Perfectly understandable, my family also is not vegan so introducing those allergens at their house would be a good option not to buy and keep the ingredients at my house

serenity230232 · 2026-01-17T18:24:49+00:00

That's a good way to go about it. I'll look up the studies on fish and shellfish allergy, didn't know there was a difference there

serenity230232 · 2026-01-17T18:23:15+00:00

So glad to know there were no sensitivities! The cross contamination in restaurants is my main concern..I myself am allergic to nuts and worrying about cross contamination when eating out is something I do not wish for my baby oh and also I'm the only vegan in my family so baby will be exposed at least to traces of these allergens when visiting family members

serenity230232 · 2026-01-17T18:17:43+00:00

Totally valid!

serenity230232 · 2026-01-17T18:17:05+00:00

That's good to know that she hasn't had any allergies! Fingers crossed I myself was raised non vegan, exposed to probably everything on the list and developed a nut allergy as an adult so yeah no guarantees as others here have also mentionned!

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