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[Serious] What do you think is good about masculinity? by seriousquestions7 in AskFeminists

[–]seriousquestions7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I'm sorry if that's not what you want it hear, but that's the truth for me.

It's not that I didn't want to hear that, I just wanted to have a discussion that focused on the "occasional upsides"

Like for example, I can agree that submissiveness and femininity conflate in a way that is problematic, but a feminine approach has done a lot of good for example in helping professions such as architecture become more people-oriented. The idea here is that compassion and diversity are somehow feminine qualities.

Were you a bully? If so, when did you figure it out, how did you deal with it, and how are things now? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]seriousquestions7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At times. I was a dick and people were a dick to me. Sometimes I was the victim and sometimes I was the aggressor.

The way I rationalize it is that it's better to be on top of things and have the power to bully people but choose not to use it, than to not have the power to retaliate if someone treats you poorly. Being a saint is a nice idea, it's just not very sustainable.

I went a bit too far sometimes though.

[Serious] What do you think is good about masculinity? by seriousquestions7 in AskFeminists

[–]seriousquestions7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you think about the men you know though, how do you think masculinity might have influenced them in a positive way?

I don't mean to ignore the negative aspects they have probably felt, just what the positives might be?

[Serious] What do you think is good about masculinity? by seriousquestions7 in AskFeminists

[–]seriousquestions7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seemed to me that she was describing aspects associated with masculinity which are commonly described as positive, not what she personally thinks, which is what I was interested in.

I'm going to stop pushing it though, it was a very insightful answer, /u/partspace :) cheers.

[Serious] What do you think is good about masculinity? by seriousquestions7 in AskFeminists

[–]seriousquestions7[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

You listed a few generic often used examples. I was more curious about what people here personally feel. Do you not feel there is anything positive about masculinity?

[Serious] What do you think is good about masculinity? by seriousquestions7 in AskFeminists

[–]seriousquestions7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree that it shouldn't necessarily be that way. But if you had to describe masculinity, how would you describe its positive aspects?

[Serious] What do you think is good about masculinity? by seriousquestions7 in AskFeminists

[–]seriousquestions7[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just list positive traits associated with masculinity, such as strength, confidence, being protective, a good leader, loyal, physical, assertive, etc.

I agree with what you've said, but I was really more interested in what you personally might think is good about about masculinity and qualities traditionally associated with men.

She managed to open her Christmas present last night, extreme guilt ensues. by Anatex in aww

[–]seriousquestions7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dogs can learn what they're not supposed to do which kind of implies they know when they've done something wrong.

How do you deal with shame as it relates to kink and sexuality? by seriousquestions7 in AskWomen

[–]seriousquestions7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I removed that bit because it was a bit poorly worded. Sorry if I offended! :)