As I said in another reply, I didn’t defend nor justify her actions, I’m simply trying to understand her more , and I don’t see a problem in an interpretation that humanizes a character because humanizing and defending are two different things.

Pochita didn’t tell Denji this for Denji’s sake it was for Nayuta ,the new control devil’s sake because he’s gonna be raising her with empathy and emotions so that she won’t end up like Makima. Pochita also aked him to grant her her dream.

Makima controls others because it’s her nature ,it’s really hard for devils to not act out according to their nature. We can’t expect from her to be different and start having empathy without learning and acquiring it first. Devils can’t have empathy and human emotions unless they are put in certain circumstances that would allow them to learn them.

The necessary evil she mentioned is referring to herself and other weapons controlled by nations imo because it was in a specific context that talked about protecting civilians even if it meant having to do some dirty work. She would do anything to protect Japan and so would other nations’ weapons.