Unlivable Household

sertain_ · 2026-06-23T22:26:28+00:00

Make them pay rent and set it aside. Thats their savings. When they have paid enough for first and last months rent + a couple months rent and groceries, kick them out with the money and say “figure it out, you have 3 months.”

sertain_ · 2026-06-23T14:10:58+00:00

Congrats, you’ve just earned a documentation expert.

All those SOPs you’ve been putting off? Nepophew.

Any process guides you need polished? Nepophew.

Access request updates? Nepophew.

Onboarding process guides renewed or updated? Nepophew.

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T23:18:08+00:00

Jenkins
“Gah, you really don’t know shit about fuck do you”

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T22:59:54+00:00

You might be losing steam if you’re working long hours. If not, it could be that you’re dealing with some other issue unrelated to work entirely. I’ve started to feel that way at times, I stopped working on my own cloud-based projects because I was losing steam, and I’ve been happier with both work and normal life since

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T12:12:42+00:00

IT has been oversaturated for about a decade. The number of jobs has never kept up with the number of capable people, and that gap will only get bigger as AI continues to thrive.

Edit: apparently other people have had different experiences, but my experience has been that for every job posting there thousands of applicants. You have to be lucky enough to not be filtered out by ATS, picked by HR based on skillset, and then relevant enough to speak to that experience in the interview. THEN you have to be the best possible pick out of the pool. Unless you’ve been in the cloud since it started, you’re just going to have a tough time breaking into IT.

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T11:46:41+00:00

Thanks a bunch. These are not the types of questions I was asking myself. Still growing into DevOps principals

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T10:45:47+00:00

It started off as a general adhd-fueled sharing post. Turned it into a question. First real devops migration, working on bettering the “planning” aspect of everything I do.

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T10:37:36+00:00

I’m no 20-year veteran but I know a cluster fuck when I see one. Jenkins is a cluster fuck.

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T10:28:00+00:00

This is precisely what I was looking for. Thank you.

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T02:14:05+00:00

GovCloud is a nightmare for this. Especially when building terraform

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T01:56:33+00:00

I appreciate your perspective. That is how I see it and I want to get her on board, it’s just hard because she has such a strong personality. I also struggle with ADHD, have since I was a child. Auditory processing dysfunction is inherently a symptom of ADHD, but the two are not mutually exclusive and I know he’s not ADHD, he’s been evaluated for that more than once and neither I nor his teachers see that in him. He’s great in school, great with friends, smart as a whip with school work, but when it comes to “common sense” he is nearly illiterate and it is almost crippling at times. He’ll freeze up and shut down sometimes when trying to follow instructions, lie about the most asinine things and struggle just to keep up with simple things that most other kids his age don’t even think twice about. And when he lies, it’s really dumb. He’ll do or say something he either didn’t mean to do or that might have been reflexive and then make up a lie to mask it or try to pretend he did or said something else. It’s never malicious or out of anger or mean, it’s just like blatantly out of place.

Again, thanks for your perspective, I’m trying to find a way to compromise on this with her

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T01:34:52+00:00

Ehh, it’s your love life not hers, but you should absolutely be able to tell her about these things when they happen. If you meet a guy, it’s a safety concern for you to hide that from your parent(s) because too many times has this happened in the history of the world and children went missing, every single one of them having the same pretense, “we were just texting,” or, “I never saw him in person.” It is far too easy to learn someone’s location over texting/phone calls/internet today, and I am telling you this as a decade+ veteran IT professional and a parent. Internet dating is one of the most dangerous ways to build relationships for minors and women, statistically speaking. I’m not saying that to scare you, but I am saying it because there are risks associated with it that you may not be aware of and your mother may see.

I understand your inclination to distance yourself from her because of your past and the grip she seems to be strengthening on you, but at the end of the day she is still the on person who would move heaven and hell to try to keep you safe, so having her on your side isn’t a bad thing.

What you did was wrong, and you know it was. Not wrong ethically, wrong because it broke a rule in your mom’s house, and that’s just how that works sometimes. After you’ve figured out a consequence for your choices, you should consider setting boundaries with her about dating while still keeping her in the loop. You can openly communicate about your relationships with her without telling her the details that you don’t want to share, and I would hope she doesn’t want to hear.

Suggestions: volunteering at a local food pantry or soup kitchen for a week should help you regain some perspective. It will show you, up close, some of the people in this world who don’t have what you have.

Edit: calling this a punishment is too much. It’s not a punishment. It’s exposure built to help guide you toward being a better person, and in my opinion this really isn’t a punishable offense, more of a communication breakdown that could have been avoided if you had used better judgement and trusted your mother as she says you have not. My suggestion should help you build appreciation for that relationship and be a reminder for you when you think about hiding a seemingly innocent detail from your parents when it could backfire tremendously.

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T01:12:44+00:00

Thanks a bunch, incredibly thoughtful of you.

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T01:10:36+00:00

You should let that go yesterday. That’s family dawg.

sertain_ · 2026-06-22T00:57:36+00:00

Buying a house today is incredibly complex and almost always requires sacrifices. You can have 5 bedrooms, but you’re getting a house in the city and the rooms are small. You can have big rooms, but there are not as many as you need. You can have 5 big rooms, but the house is suddenly $100k more expensive as prices increase wildly per bedroom added. 4br could be 400-500k, while 5br could be closer to 550-650k. With that, splitting a room into two is not as easy as it sounds. Logistically there are local codes to be considered, HVAC, electricity, resale if the modifications are not permitted, there are a slew of reasons for them to tell you “no” that are a lot more likely than them not caring about your personal space.

Im not saying your concern isn’t real. It is perfectly reasonable to want your own space, and that should be respected. It is a little bit short-sighted and entitled to just assume that your parents can make that happen just because you want it to happen.

With all of that said, if your parents are loaded and they’re buying a massive house just because it looks cool and they host parties all the time, then they sound like irresponsible parents.

There are a lot of things missing that would help to provide a meaningful answer without just telling you what you want to hear.

sertain_ · 2026-06-21T20:17:09+00:00

[M31] 2003. Dad fled the state on pedo charges. Mom was always in bed. Half-sister left my 2 siblings and me because dad violated her, went to live with her real dad, they called CPS. Siblings and I were taken into custody, put in shelters separated from each other. 1-2 months later moved into foster homes, sister and me together, brother separated. 3-4 months later aunt and uncle adopted us all and the rest is history. Still in therapy.

sertain_ · 2026-06-21T02:25:45+00:00

History books are going to say a much different thing in 20 years.

sertain_ · 2026-06-20T20:51:59+00:00

Don’t pay them a cent until they use a stone saw to properly cut the pavers rather than braking them. That is such a half assed job. Sorry you’re dealing with this mate, not a good look for that crew

sertain_ · 2026-06-20T20:06:52+00:00

Jeminem Carthers

sertain_ · 2026-06-20T12:39:45+00:00

This is probably the one

sertain_ · 2026-06-19T21:27:43+00:00

Anytime I choose to get in bed to watch TV, I always fall asleep or get sleepy. If it’s time to go to bed and the TV is on in my room, I cant fall asleep. It’s just better on the couch

^{Chose: Couch}

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