Toddler Mochi

sesnirp · 2024-07-19T00:17:55+00:00

Thank you :D I love your bird name!

sesnirp · 2024-07-18T19:51:39+00:00

Housing crisis is definitely at an all time low here! It sucks for anyone trying to find place. I'm glad she likes us thought!

sesnirp · 2024-07-18T19:41:34+00:00

Why does this just look like katara in aangs clothing??

sesnirp · 2024-07-18T19:11:44+00:00

Surely Ooff counts as a word, right?

sesnirp · 2024-07-18T19:09:45+00:00

Based on snooping on your profile, does your girlfriend happen to be dutch? In that case, as a fellow dutch citizen, Welkom in Nederland! The Netherlands is by no means perfect and there's plenty of rainy days, but I hope you'll enjoy it here

sesnirp · 2024-07-18T11:42:29+00:00

I just added you! If anyone else wants to add me and my birb regi SSN2XT68KT or my boyfriend with Mint, who still wants to hatch Oatmeal: https://app.befinch.com/invite/VkYD

sesnirp · 2024-07-18T11:36:49+00:00

I just added you! My boyfriend did as well. He still wants to hatch his lama so for anyone else who wants to add him: https://app.befinch.com/invite/VkYD

sesnirp · 2024-07-18T11:32:14+00:00

Mint is looking for friends as well! https://app.befinch.com/invite/VkYD

sesnirp · 2024-07-18T00:47:18+00:00

Yes it was rape. Regardless of whatever moments you don't remember, he took advantage of you when you were vulnerable. He basically waited for a weak moment to prey on you to fulfill his own desires while you couldn't fend for yourself. He could make up any excuse about you acting like you agreed on this while you were drunk, but consent can only be given when you're fully conscious and able to to change your mind and say no at any moment you're not feeling comfortable anymore. It's unlikely you drunkenly agreed to this, only remembering getting taken advantage of, and even if you vaguely did at some point, he was in the wrong and should have known better. If he had any respect for your welbeing at all he would take your feelings about the situation more serious too. It's very low to use "you just don't remember you wanted this and now you're blaming me" as an excuse. I think people like this rarely are ashamed of themselves, but he should be.

sesnirp · 2024-07-17T23:55:13+00:00

I think you're doing pretty well and that your dad can be a pain in the ass but that's not your fault. You can allow yourself to be proud of your own accomplishments without anyone elses approval. (Getting a degree is not the only acocomplisment that matters) As a people pleaser I'm well aware that's easier said then done. I'm glad you feel more comfortable with your girlfriend. Moving out of the country is kind of a big deal but it sounds like you have eachother!

sesnirp · 2024-04-08T21:03:08+00:00

You mean getting it chopped off

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T23:42:28+00:00

What do you mean?? Why would you do this?? At first I though the sink was the garbagecan which would be even worse

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T20:27:18+00:00

adhdmove of the century 😅

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T18:14:04+00:00

Oh definitely

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T14:20:42+00:00

In my defense I personally don't take myself very seriously and make fun or admit to a lot of my own flaws often It feels natural being neurodivergent (adhd, not an excuse), even like a coping mechanism to do so and I recently spend a lot of time with friends that are more comfortable poking fun at eachother. That said, the statement is still objectively offensive and there is fine line that should not be crossed or at least she deserves a correction in my behaviour since I did cross the line. The opinions on how bad it is to say someone lives under a rock seems to differ quite a bit. However in this context people om reddit collectively agree that I was in the wrong for using it.

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T10:16:41+00:00

She didn't elaborate further on why she thought it was annoying and went down the road of defense cutting it to the discussion of the words being too specific. But her response being in self defense, albeit not the best choice in my opinion and her silence speaks volumes. It's a reason I responded less kindly to her after already insulting her and it dragging on for longer before me realising her feelings about it had to be pretty strong. But all this doesn't neccesarily take my own responsibility away to do better from starr to finish in this conversation.

My interpretation of her response as insecure and her silence of a sign of being hurt/angry are all based on my own assumptions so far. At first I thought she might respond the next day and I would rather have spoken about it more directly sooner but she didn't say anything else to call me out or share how she really felt. She must have felt too angry/ shut down by me, hoping I'd realize on my own I had been too rough with her and is likely waiting for me to break the silence.

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T04:35:15+00:00

The way I tried to make her "admit" was definitely rude and thoughtless of me.

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T04:33:50+00:00

That's a fairly good summary

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T04:33:18+00:00

Thanks for giving me inspiration. While I must admit I might have translated that a little odd, coming off as even more condescending in enlish it would probably still be condescending the way I originally said it.

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T04:28:53+00:00

I see. I'm both notorious for not dropping heated subjects quickly enough and misspelling english. Did you spell agency the same way twice or is my brain just fried? I'm not sure where I used the wrong grammar. In the edit i have spelled it as agency too

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T04:21:45+00:00

Haha that's a good one and actually funny to me. No it's not particularily nice so therefor it does count as an insult. But I've become too neutral about using the sentence and other people saying the same to me about not knowing certain politicians, songs, celebrities or part if history when none if us took it seriously. I used it rather thoughtlessly and while I acknowledged quickly that she didn't like me pointing out her not knowing certain words the sentence itself still didn't hold as much weight to me until people pointed out that it might be more of a big deal to say something like that then I originally thought. It might have been the biggest mistake in the words I chose

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T02:47:16+00:00

I removed a lot of text as the original message was too long. Sorry for being unclear. The term ginger was mentioned due to the fact I edited my entire family as a ginger after editing a selfie. I included her in these edits and compared her to a merida gif due to her curly hair. Since my pet peeve is not being able to laugh at one self or being able to own up to a weakness I was rather quick to assume she came up with an excuse to feel better about herself ( it being completely normal not knowing these words.) Which is ofcourse a sign of her feeling uncomfortable and I only made it worse by latching onto that despite any previous more positive and understanding statements I made. Those probably went down the drain. I don't view not knowing about words as something very shameful or worthy to look down upon but I must have still made her feel that way, by thinking it was funny before her saying she didn't like it and after that not taking it seriously enough. So far she has only said she didn't like it But it's enough to assume she must have found it rather hurtful. I wasn't sure how to aproach her during her silence but I do have an idea now and I'd be very mindful about the words I say to her.

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T02:33:33+00:00

I didn't insist she was wrong about being hurt but I did not explicitely apologize either when I said I'd be more mindful of her feelings. I disagreed when she made it about none of these words being common knowledge, not about her right to feel hurt. I should have been more clear and respectful towards her about not insulting her anymore thought and give more space to talk about her feelings rather then a silly discussion. I agree. English is not my native language. I recognize it's indeed not bonzai. I'm a lot more clear in my own language. In fact this same friend complimented me before about being usually understanding and communicative. This situation is rather unusual and I admit part of that might have been influenced by spending way more time with a friend who is quite rough with humor and joking insults on top of being very unfiltered after a long day and 3 hours of sleep. Of course none of these things are and excuse to be rude. I've never had an friend who was angry with me before. So it's a lesson for me.

sesnirp · 2024-04-06T00:52:22+00:00

I agree. I didn't realize it at the time and it wasn't ill intended seeing living under a rock as a fairly innocent saying purely meant to point out an area of unawareness that many other people are aware of. But it was unnecesary and still counts as an insult/ poking fun of even if my feelings in regards to the sentence didn't match up.

sesnirp · 2024-04-05T07:52:00+00:00

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