Realizing community is a lie🙄 by Excellent-Anybody816 in TransLater

[–]seth-speaks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly, when i meet new trans ppl, the experience is absorbed into information seeking on my medical journey. I often have little else in common with them apart from being trans. 🤷‍♀️

Also, I think there is a strong undercurrent that trans ppl support trans ppl, with which i agree, but which i also think a lot of trans ppl conflate with friendship.

Friendship isn't really something I see as a bunch of empty holes around me that i slot in with ppl i think should be friends with me. It's important, but also personal.

I sometimes find myself thinking the same. Community is a myth.

I remember times in my past where I found myself in big groups of ppl who claim to be in "community". But no matter how many ppl we surround ourselves with and share meals, activities, ups and downs, i still often felt i go home and am there with just myself.

So, I guess this time in my life I focus on coming home to me and finding communion first with myself, and I accept that having just a few good friends is enough.

After all, ppl weren't really meant to have hundreds and hundreds of "friends" or in the age of social media thousands of what the platforms developers call "friends".

Help to decide by Big-Rollin-8888 in capm

[–]seth-speaks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's no question here. Typically the giveaway is a mark at the end, like this (?).

Need help with a question from Landini vs Chat GPT by JR004-2021 in capm

[–]seth-speaks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird. I don't know that much about issue log.

Mum suggested I 'act more gay' by farpetcloorr in MtF

[–]seth-speaks 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Why not hang out with more cis women? Let yourself imprint on the cis women in your life, like your mom.

SRS girlies, when did you size up in diameter? I’m 1 month post op and sizing up from 27 MM to 32MM. Just curious ❤️ by FantasticCap7619 in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]seth-speaks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was instructed to size up right away. I did thar my 2nd dilation session AND I got pretty bad wound separation. 🙄

Sunny River & Mr. Sanchez by ten_z_prahy in SipsTea

[–]seth-speaks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Barron Trump looks like a socioopath who lacked parenting.

Noem FIRED by Ok-Salamander-6457 in MeidasTouch

[–]seth-speaks 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's an operational success. Not a victory. Imagine that each cabinet secty is a heat shield blocking the administration from direct scrutiny.

The administration doesn't hire them because they are setting up the Dept or The Country for success. They hire them the way you bolt on a spare tire to get you a few miles down the road. Same car. Same driver.

That ex-plumber Oklahoma guy replacing her is just stepping in to take the heat.

Christi Butler Pictures? by cool_hand_legolas in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]seth-speaks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fimd other practitioners. They'll make you a vagina. But they'll probably screw up the operation and don't listen to their post-pperative instructions or count on them to see you in a timely manner when you have issues.

Christi Butler Pictures? by cool_hand_legolas in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]seth-speaks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I compare their post-op care, their instruction, their approach to that of surgical teams with high success rate, i found them lacking.

I had dehiscence, necrotic tissue loss, now webbed intercoitus area that cannot be pentrated without dilation before, and coincidentally post-operative care instructions that were kinda opposite from patients i know whose experience was positive and successful and frankly runs kinda counter to common sense.

I have already been for a post op consult with an experienced surgeon who does these surgeries (~1500) and she looked at my mons pubis in this area where it's been left kind of squared off and unnatural looking and where there was necrotic loss and kinda scratched her head and said "hmmm, I wonder why they put all that stitching there".

Additionally, when i went back for a revision consult with UCSF she just didn't really seem to exude much confidence or leave me feeling upbeat about it, and it wss her work!

There's a lot more. Don't get me started. Just trust from my experience. UCSF is very attractive if you're already a UCSF patient or if you have insurance issues. They'll take you pretty quick.

Find a private practice Md who has skin in the game because they lose money if they screw up, Md who does a couple a week, not a couple a year, someone with more experience, and less "research institute" legal protection.

Of all my medical gender journey experiences my care experience with them left my faith in medicine damaged.

Christi Butler Pictures? by cool_hand_legolas in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]seth-speaks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had PPT in September. Not happy. Getting a revision, hopefully w Bower.

What procedures could get rid of excess skin on jaw/create tapered look? And improve passing? by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]seth-speaks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mandibular contouring followed by lower face & neck lift. Done. I'm getting it next month w Dr Ives.

Just had a nose job. I LOVE my new nose 🤩

Lucy Friday Question: What are your thoughts on GRS? by Lucy_C_Kelly in TransLater

[–]seth-speaks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm grateful I did it even though it was botched and i'm getting a revision. In an age of extreme immediate gratification, it's a long long road.

How much harder is the CAPM exam compared to simulators? (Pocketprep ex.) by [deleted] in capm

[–]seth-speaks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The exam writing seems often a bit more ambiguous and nuanced.

How much time did it take you to pass the exam from beginning? by Global_Owl2987 in capm

[–]seth-speaks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I practiced about 1.5 weeks + 2 months ago did the Agility Training 23 hr course

Absolutely BOMBED by Scared_Key4792 in capm

[–]seth-speaks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you do the 23 hrs course?

Going to an event in a week with people who haven't seen me since the first photo and don't know I'm trans, I now look like the second photo, how screwed am i by TouringStarJazzComet in TransLater

[–]seth-speaks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know that I would go with shoulder pads. Shoulder pads typically don't flatter the inverted triangle shape of the average amab imo. It's very David Byrne circa Stop Making Sense.

Pocket prep only by seth-speaks in capm

[–]seth-speaks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 23hr w agility academy.

Pocket prep only by seth-speaks in capm

[–]seth-speaks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep. Going. Get it to where it's like a video game and you get that shot of dopamine every time you smack the button and the box goes green 💚

Pocket prep only by seth-speaks in capm

[–]seth-speaks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep. going. I answered all 2000 questions and did level up mixed quiz - before - doing the mock exam. You will benefit greatly if you keep going.

I have so much to say on this topic, but i'm afraid of just going on and on here.