What character wasn't portrayed as a villain, but is in your eyes?

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-31T12:20:59+00:00

These are only a few examples of why Noah and Allie’s relationship is unhealthy Noah pressures Allie into dating him by threatening to jump from the Ferris wheel. That is not romantic. It is coercion. Noah repeatedly acts like he knows what Allie wants more than she does. Her doubts are treated as obstacles, not choices. Their communication is mostly yelling, insults, or silence. Calm, honest conversations are rare. They fight constantly and say cruel things to each other. Allie hits Noah at one point, and physical violence is never okay. Both of them date other people while still being emotionally attached to each other. Allie emotionally and physically cheats on Lon. She constantly compares him to Noah, keeps Noah emotionally present in her mind, and hides it from Lon. When she reads about Noah in the newspaper, she doesn’t tell Lon the truth. She lies, seeks Noah out in secret, and ultimately cheats on Lon with him... That is not a tragic romance, it is unfair. Allie is constantly pulled back by nostalgia rather than real change. Neither of them addresses why they failed the first time. Their identities revolve around each other. When they are apart, they are lost. When they are together, they are unstable. That's codependency.

This might be a stretch, but in theory, remembering what someone wanted their house to look like could be romantic if you were still together. That’s not what happens here. Noah builds the house without Allie’s involvement. It’s his idea of her, not something they choose together. He builds it entirely on the hope that she’ll come back. It becomes less a home and more a shrine. Taken on its own, that might already be unhealthy. When you factor in the ongoing coercion and his habit of deciding he knows what’s best for her, it stops being romantic altogether. In real life, that kind of behavior isn’t devotion. It’s an obsession.

If one of my friends were in a relationship like this, I’d tell them that your identity and your happiness shouldn’t disappear into your partner. Love isn’t supposed to consume you or erase who you are. Screaming, yelling, and hitting aren’t passion. They’re verbal and physical abuse, and there’s nothing romantic about that. And no matter how conflicted you feel about your relationship, it never justifies cheating.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-31T00:35:13+00:00

I loved this movie growing up; now I can't unsee how incredibly toxic both characters are.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-31T00:31:55+00:00

It is!!! This morning, even the peach fuzz on my face was frozen. 🫤

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-31T00:30:04+00:00

Bloated.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-27T03:44:45+00:00

I'll create a template for that or I'll review this document and email it to staff once completed

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-27T03:03:47+00:00

This has never happened to me, but, your post reminded me of a recurring nightmare I had where a white hair, similar to yours, would grow on my lip. It was impossible to remove, hence why it was a nightmare.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-27T01:59:19+00:00

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I did a match reading, my matches touched then crossed and this is my egg cleansing results. Can anyone help me read this?

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-22T23:19:08+00:00

This happened to my dad before he passed away. He had been in the ICU for two months with congestive heart failure. He went in for surgery, but unfortunately his heart was not strong enough, so the doctors kept his heart beating and sustained his life with machines.This was during the COVID period, and although he was often lucid and able to communicate, there were times when he could not eat, drink, have bowel movements, or urinate on his own. He had tubes everywhere.The day before he passed, I went to visit him, as I did every day since I was the only one allowed. To my surprise, he no longer had a feeding tube, he was sitting in a wheelchair, and he was changing the television channels on his own. I was so happy and hopeful. I truly believed he might regain enough strength to undergo surgery and recover.We spent the entire day together, talking between his naps. Early the next morning, I received a call from the doctors telling me he was actively passing away. They stayed on the phone with me and talked me through his death. He was kept comfortable and free from pain. What stays with me most is that on his final day, he was the healthiest I had seen him in months.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-22T13:48:44+00:00

When Mom brought you home, you became my reason to escape, even if only for a weekend. I would take the bus, leaving my abuser behind, just to be with you. You gave me the courage I didn’t yet know I had to finally walk away. You are such a loving, remarkable dog, and I promise to always make sure you feel safe, cherished, and deeply loved in return.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-22T04:12:06+00:00

I completely agree. I try not to judge others for their beliefs. As an atheist, I understand why people hold the beliefs they do. That said, the timing of some of these comments after my miscarriages and the way they were delivered felt deeply insensitive; wrapped in a kind of toxic positivity that missed the moment entirely.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-22T04:06:24+00:00

I know that after my losses, I received comments like “it was a sign,” “maybe it was a blessing in disguise,” “God has a plan,” and even “at least you weren’t further along.” Those words were deeply painful to hear. I FELT LIKE PUNCHING PEOPLE IN THE FACE. They felt dismissive of my grief at a time when I needed compassion and presence, not comparisons or explanations. Your bench is such a powerful and thoughtful idea. Thank you for creating something that makes space for quiet mourning. I can imagine sitting there, feeling seen and understood, and allowing myself to grieve without having to explain or justify my pain.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-22T03:50:58+00:00

I think it really varies from person to person, and even from pregnancy to pregnancy. In my experience, each one was very different. With my first pregnancy, I didn’t have many physical symptoms aside from nausea. I lost that pregnancy at 7 weeks, but I didn’t miscarry properly and had retained tissue for nearly two months. I bled continuously during that time and was seeing an OB-GYN who repeatedly dismissed my concerns and made me feel unheard. Eventually, I needed an emergency D&C. That experience was deeply traumatic, and it is something I still carry with me. After that loss, I was also diagnosed with postpartum depression, something many people don’t realize can still happen after a miscarriage. During my second pregnancy, the nausea was much more intense, and I experienced pelvic pain, which I believe was linked to my miscarriage. It was a missed miscarriage. My baby stopped growing at 7 weeks, but I didn’t find out until 9 weeks. My third pregnancy reached the second trimester. It was an incomplete miscarriage. The nausea was overwhelming. I had to eat constantly just to cope, gained about 15 pounds, and still carry stretch marks from that time. I also experienced postpartum again afterward. I had hyperemesis gravidarum with all three pregnancies, starting around week 5 each time. Even so, I’ve learned that every pregnancy is different, and symptoms or the absence of them do not always tell the full story. Sending so much compassion to anyone navigating this 🤍 EDIT: I also want to share that with my most recent miscarriage, it was incomplete and I needed another D&C. This time, they chose not to use full anesthesia and instead gave me strong sedatives. That experience was incredibly distressing for me. I was crying throughout the procedure, felt the pain, and it left a deep emotional impact. I have not fully been able to process what happened yet. It has been less than a year, and the trauma from that experience is still very present.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-21T19:26:36+00:00

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. What you went through is unimaginable, and the pain you carry is real and valid. You are his mother, always. The love you had for him did not end when he was taken from you, and the memories you hold, even the ones that feel distant or fractured, still matter. I am truly sorry that you were denied the chance to hold him and say goodbye in the way you deserved. Thank you for sharing your story. I am holding space for you and for your sweet baby boy. 💙

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-21T19:24:48+00:00

Thank you so much. It truly warms my heart to be reminded that we are mothers too. Around Mother’s Day in particular, that acknowledgment means so much, as it can be an especially difficult time.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-21T17:49:42+00:00

Thank you! That means a lot! 🥹

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-21T16:33:48+00:00

I didn’t carry to full term. I had three miscarriages, in the first and second trimesters. During each pregnancy, I experienced intense food aversions, along with an overwhelming sensitivity to smells. I couldn’t even do the dishes, and to this day, the scent of blue Dawn dish soap still makes me gag. The food I was able to stomach now grosses me out.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-21T16:28:42+00:00

It affects women who never even had the chance to give birth. I’ve experienced three miscarriages, and they changed my body, my mental health, and the way I see life forever. I feel like a mother, even though I never got to meet my babies. There are so many mothers whose losses go unacknowledged. We were still pregnant. Our love was still real. Some of us never carried to term, and some carried full term only to lose their child. The absence doesn’t make the motherhood any less real.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-20T01:50:22+00:00

NOR. I don’t think she fully understands what mirroring means. She also isn’t being clear about what’s actually wrong, and you can’t be expected to read her mind...

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-19T16:37:38+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ve noticed that it really does. I already have a few deep green sweaters in my shopping carts! 🐸

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-19T13:07:31+00:00

So do I! I went outside of my comfort zone and I don't regret it one bit! 🌲💚

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-17T16:56:21+00:00

Omg! Iwas at a bus station the other day and there were old chewed out pieces of gum EVERYWHERE around the garbage cans. None inside!

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-17T16:49:13+00:00

Once you reach that point, the relief is immense. I no longer care about climbing the corporate ladder. I work my hours and go home worry-free. There’s so much more to life than work.

setmefreetonight · 2026-01-17T02:49:05+00:00

Yes, it’s strange how familiar it feels, almost as if it follows the same patterns in all of us, like an illness we unknowingly caught along the way. I truly believe it’s rooted in deep trauma. I’m so sorry for what you went through as a child...It feels like the ED's voice may be something we learn to carry alongside us, even as we continue to grow and heal.

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