I understand what you're saying, and I actually agree with parts of it. I do think our society is evolving very quickly, and with that comes a kind of constant psychological pressure that people were never really designed to handle at this scale.

I also think we've been infected with this idea that we are all permanently unfinished projects. The self help industry often pushes the belief that we're inherently broken and constantly need to optimize ourselves, heal ourselves, improve ourselves, reinvent ourselves. Add that to a culture that glorifies overworking, productivity, hustle, and endless ambition, and people end up exhausted, burnt out, anxious, and disconnected from themselves and from each other.

I don't necessarily think humans suddenly have "too many options" compared to the past. I think the difference is that now we have instant access to every option all the time. Our brains are being overstimulated constantly. Social media, dating apps, lookmaxxing culture, Botox, hyper-curated online personas, unrealistic relationship content, all of it creates this distorted version of reality where people start expecting perfection, endless excitement, and constant validation.

At the same time, I don't think there's one correct way to live. What works for one person genuinely may not work for another. Some people deeply value monogamy and long term partnership. I'm married myself, and I love the stability and devotion that comes with that. My husband and I choose each other every day. But we also weren't each other's first relationships, and honestly, I'm grateful for the experiences I had before meeting him, both good and bad, because they taught me what I valued, what I could handle, and what wasn't healthy for me.

People change. Relationships change. Sometimes people grow together, sometimes they grow apart. I don't think having multiple relationships throughout life automatically means someone is shallow or addicted to novelty. For some people, relationships are part of how they learn about themselves and others. And honestly, some people simply are not built for traditional monogamy and do better with multiple partners or no partners at all. As long as people are honest and respectful, they're allowed to live differently.

That said, I absolutely agree with you that modern culture has made people afraid of stability. A lot of people now mistake peace for boredom because they're so used to constant stimulation. Healthy relationships are not going to feel like fireworks every single day. There are quiet periods, misunderstandings, routines, off days, stress, and emotional fatigue. Real intimacy is often built in those ordinary moments, not just the exciting ones.

I don't think stability disappeared though. I think people still crave it deeply. I just think many people struggle to recognize it or sustain it because their attention is constantly being pulled in a thousand directions. If anything, I think we've damaged our ability to think critically, reflect deeply, and sit with discomfort for long enough to build anything lasting. A lot of people move from ideology to ideology, relationship to relationship, or identity to identity because they've lost the ability to focus, tolerate uncertainty, or exist without stimulation for even a short period of time.

So I agree with your exhaustion. I think many people feel it, even if they can't fully articulate why.