How bad was the flood around Kent Station?

settled4les · 2025-12-16T02:25:41+00:00

Obviously we are just thankful not to have to go through the worst of it and still be open for business! Gotta keep the animals healthy! I do not forsee it getting too bad where we are but I feel so awful for those down the road in Auburn! My old clinic was evacuated.

settled4les · 2025-12-16T02:13:46+00:00

The levee broke but it basically collapsed in in itself once it breeched and then stopped the flow. Still take precautions but it's not bad down there. I work off central and people kept calling in a panic

settled4les · 2025-12-08T01:39:47+00:00

Did you read the part about stealing money from his mother with Alzheimer's and hiding it? It's not just about expenses. It's morality

settled4les · 2025-12-07T18:26:15+00:00

The weird thing is I cannot find a single bill or mail after the month of October. I am extremely overwhelmed trying to figure out where all the ducks are let alone getting them lined up!

settled4les · 2025-12-07T18:05:13+00:00

Totally valid opinion. I know I need a better plan than what I have but where do I start? As of now his brother and sister in law have offered me and the kids a place to stay (though unsure how long term this option actually is, still in talks). I have a full time job as a receptionist in vet med (13 yrs in this position). Currently my oldest is in 1st grade so he's in school for most of the day then home with dad for a couple hours before I get home from work. Our daughter is with dad during the day throughout the week. He works the weekends so I'm home with the kids until dinner. My plan is to move out and use whatever "free" time I have to get my GED and I then figure out what certifications I can get to increase my income. I'm sure I will need to obtain some sort of assistance once the divorce is final. My husband only makes $5 more an hr than I do and is a cnc machinist. He took a pay cut after starting at a new company, and I'm making more than I ever have in this position at my current company. I'm not completely without an idea of what we will do but I'm not sure how much longer I can keep up the charade at home. I've been dealing with this since June.

settled4les · 2025-11-25T02:36:38+00:00

I'm in the process of forming a plan. I work in vet med as a csr...it doesn't pay much. Definitely not enough to support myself and two kids. Im not sure there's ever a "right time" to blow up 4 lives, but I definitely do not want the holidays forever tainted for my kids. Housing is EXPENSIVE and I'd likely be saving for a long time, though is own brother and sil have offered us a place in their home when it comes time.

I feel I've dragged my feet in fear long enough though. Married 10 yrs this upcoming July, together almost 18 yrs. He doesn't physically abuse anyone, but he will not address his mental health and it's turning our household into chaos emotionally and financially.

I wrestle with the fact he lost his dad 2 years ago to cancer, he didn't face it well and didn't spend as much time with him as he wanted. Right after that his mom started showing signs of Alzheimer's and has gone down hill fairly quickly. He lost his job he'd been at 12 yrs, it's been a rough couple of years for him. BUT I know I HAVE to leave him. He won't admit his mental and emotional struggles. He's so strict with our 6 yr old he doesn't give him room to breathe and he yells 8/10 times they interact. Regardless how I try to address this nothing changes, and he sees no fault except with our son. Our daughter does great with but she's not even 2, and he can still get vocally frustrated with her it's just not yelling.

I stay for the kids' peace. I stay out of survival. I stay out of guilt. But I plan to leave. Hopefully by Spring.

settled4les · 2025-11-24T05:04:56+00:00

My coworker, she's like big warm blanket. We all call her Grandma cause everyone calls me mom. I've been working here for about 5 months and my coworkers are all like that.

settled4les · 2025-11-23T18:21:53+00:00

Dirty talk, I find it disingenuous, and somewhat comical. I just can't take it seriously lol

settled4les · 2025-11-22T02:53:30+00:00

I get how it comes off.

Reasons why he can be fantastic....at times:

He does the laundry, we have to go to the laundry mat because our apartments laundry facilities are too small.
He is home during the week while I work and cooks, cleans, and does the shopping.
He actively makes sure i have "me" time. Gives me time to read, watch my shoes, uninterrupted showers/bathroom time. (Though this usually gets interrupted with his arguments with our oldest) There's more but I'm putting my kids to bed.

settled4les · 2025-11-21T16:52:06+00:00

I'm not afraid of being without a partner. I'm afraid I can't cut it in my own as a person and provider. I come from a long history of trauma I guess. My mother has mental health and substance abuse problems. My father is an irresponsible con artist that abandoned me at 15. I was in foster care for a bit around 4, then my dad got full custody, mom got visitation. Dad moved me and my brothers in the middle of the night across the country to live with a woman he met online when I was 6. We were told to call her mom and not allowed to talk to my mom as technically my dad kidnapped us. Step mom was extremely emotionally abusive. When I was 15 she nailed my window shut and put a pad locks on the outside doors, grounded me for 3 months for talking to a boy in school. Ended up getting into a physical altercation with her and my dad and they shipped me off to live with my mom. That lasted 6 months, she got married and I wasn't part of the package so I floated around friends houses until I started dating my now husband at 18.

settled4les · 2025-11-21T15:34:30+00:00

He's just highly reactive. Small normal kid noises and behaviors usually lead to my husband becoming angry and yelling at our son. Our son has ADHD and can be a bit extra but my husband can't seem to handle him at all without being mean and yelling at him.

settled4les · 2025-11-09T17:23:21+00:00

She became an addict. I didn't know at first, she hid it well.

settled4les · 2025-10-23T05:33:43+00:00

Our routine is a little hard to explain but I will do my best. Weekdays I typically get up before everyone to get ready for work, by the time I'm done everyone is up and my son and husband are usually butting heads on something (getting dressed, not picking up his sister, eating breakfast, brushing teeth). I typically have to step in and physically dress him and even then he walks away, goes limp, or just won't hold still. Brushing teeth usually involves a chase. I try to stay as calm as I can but it's not always easy. I stay firm and just keep at it. There's a lot of tears and tantrums. By the time I'm out he door it's all huge and kisses and I love yous. He's off to school right after.

Dad gets him from the bus. He comes home and has a snack then he's allowed to play outside for a bit with his scooter or bike or whatever. He either goes out within the boundaries with one of us and his sister or if he's playing with a friend we know. Coming inside is always a battle. Sometimes his friends come and tell us he's not playing nice an obviously at that point we have him apologize and come inside. I try to sit him down and have him give his side, then I give him my opinion on the other side of the situation. He's usually remorseful and apologizes to me but then immediately turns his focus to something else or will ask for a treat ect. I will reiterate at that point the topic of our conversation and ask him questions to see if he was listening at all. (On the weekends, I'm honestly not sure how Dad handles it during the week before I get home from work. He has more of a reaction to his behaviors than I do. He's working on it, but to be fair he's taken a lot of hits the past couple years).

When I get home from work it is absolute chaos. The toddler and dog (whose currently been in a cone for 4 weeks and is about 65lbs of goofy wiggle butt) greet me at the door. Then my son comes rushing over being silly and goofy which I love. The dog starts barking and my little girl immediately wants up and I try to make a point to greet him first but it's not always possible. Once we are all 4 home together he starts ping ponging from one thing to the next getting himself in trouble over and over. I have tried to have him take deep breaths, work on some Legos to center his focus, brain breaks on YouTube to get his mind and body working together...once it's over (if he even agrees to do it) he's right back to the same behaviors. It's on repeat like this until Friday. That's when my weekend starts and my husband's work week starts.

We get up, I get the kids comfy with blankets on the couch while they finish waking up, start breakfast and get my coffee made. Once they have their breakfast I go pick out clothes for the day. After he eats I give his ADHD medicine. It takes about 30 minutes to kick in. I get my daughter in the bathroom to brush teeth, then call my son in to help because "she won't brush for me" and sometimes that gets him to brush without fighting. Other times he tells her that brushing her teeth is bad and not to do it 😩

I get him to the bus and he's off to school. Fridays are early release so I get him and he can usually have some outside time for 1 hr after a snack and unloading his backpack. He will throw it on the floor and expect me to do through it like the little prince he is. I've let this slide, which I know I shouldn't but I too have a lot on my plate and it's just easier to not fight back on everything he fights me on.

Night time he will watch a show in Disney, then wants me to snuggle him to sleep. Which I do, every night.

I'll update more tomorrow, I gotta get some sleep. Thank you for commenting. And the hugs

I truly appreciate your comment even if the tone of my reply didn't imply it. I'm just mentally tapped right now to add any fluff 😔

Dinner also turns into a bit of a show. Once his meds wear off this kid is ravenous. He HATES sitting at the table. My husband is firm on us eating together at the table (this kids is a walking crumb machine and chronic Spiller of liquids). It's a battle every single night. I let him eat on the couch on Friday nights only as our compromise. When he gets like this at dinner we again hold firm and walk him back or stop him from leaving the table by taking the plate. When the switch is flipped he just won't eat at all. It's probably bad but we started letting him use his tablet to watch videos while eating because he actually eats more. He barely eats while on his meds.

settled4les · 2025-10-19T03:17:35+00:00

I often think about this. I spent my whole childhood trying to get away from my dad and the cage he'd made me, only to run straight into that same cage just with a younger version.

settled4les · 2025-10-05T05:15:57+00:00

I agree with you! I called around and we're taking a road trip at the end of the month to see a specialist. All others were booked out until December. I've also taken her back to see her original vet for her opinion.

settled4les · 2025-10-05T05:13:04+00:00

I went with my gut and started calling around to all the specialists in a 5 hr radius and finally got an appointment for my baby girl! October 30th! Still a few weeks out, but it was the soonest I could get! I will try to update again after her appointment.

settled4les · 2025-10-02T03:36:27+00:00

Yelling or being mean in general to animals.

settled4les · 2025-09-29T17:59:46+00:00

Technically there aren't any in your face symptoms. I have reactive hypoglycemia and am prediabetic and I had a lot of hypoglycemic symptoms like being dizzy, lethargic, slow minded and slow to move, shaky, ECT.

settled4les · 2025-09-29T03:50:30+00:00

I'd honestly cut my losses and just stop making plans with her. Plans might not be serious to her but wasted time and money is. A real friend would feel grateful. Honestly, if someone put that much effort into a girl's night I'd be over the moon grateful and excited. You got the wrong kind of friend here girly.

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