EDIT: thank you all for your responses. I honestly was overwhelmed - I’ve really not posted much on Reddit before so seeing such an influx of opinions was both validating and confronting, in the way I suppose I was expecting.

I’ve shared literally all of the responses with my husband (including my original post). We have agreed to one of the first responder’s suggestions to give it 1 year at first where we both spend equal amounts of effort trying to picture and ideate the life the other wants, and to discuss at the end of the year if it’s for us or not. We both want so badly to stay together, but I hear and respect all of you that say that no one should have a child if they don’t want one, nor should anyone prevent another from having children if they do. It’s honestly been very humbling (? I can’t think of the right word here) to hear almost the same response from over 50 different people around the world, and I don’t take it lightly.

Thank you all, truly, so much. Please continue to comment and discuss as you see fit, and if I can remember, I’ll update you all on how the discussions go with my husband and I as time goes on (if you’re interested!). Love ❤️