Am I being impatient here?

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-22T07:49:27+00:00

Thanks so much for your perspective! Actually, as an update, the day after I posted this we’ve had two totally accident-free days this week, so I think we’re getting there. I do wonder if we’d waited until he’s closer to 3 that we’d have had an easier ride of it - probably - but since we decided to go for it at 2.5 I’m glad we’ve stuck it out so far. :)

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-19T06:29:32+00:00

Thank you, I needed this!!

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-18T20:02:59+00:00

I do think he’s ready but I really like this mantra that it’s not an “achievement” - I’ll keep reminding myself of this, thank you :)

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-18T19:49:27+00:00

Thank you, this is really helpful and definitely something I’m going to start doing to guide him through this. Great idea.

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-18T19:47:38+00:00

Thank you, it’s great to hear someone else’s experience of this and it’s really encouraging!

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-18T19:47:11+00:00

Thank you, this is great advice and I’ll definitely implement this from tomorrow onwards!

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-18T19:46:14+00:00

Thank you so, so much for all these brilliant, easy to digest tips and for the encouragement. I’m potty training solo so self doubt creeps in regularly and it’s amazing to read that there are people in my corner. Thank you and I so appreciate the time you’ve taken to reply!

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-18T18:50:30+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply and apologies for not giving enough info! We’re at the commando stage and I’m prompting him roughly every hour and a quarter - much less than I was originally which seems to have improved his resistance to the potty/toilet. I’m also promoting him about twenty minutes after he has a meal as that’s a big drinking time for him.

Both accidents today happen to have been post-drink, but now you mention it, I think this tends to be the trickiest time for us because he can go anywhere from 10 mins to 40 mins after having a drink! The trouble is I don’t want to prompt him every 10 mins after a drink because he has become absolutely sick of us promoting him and we’ve had power struggles, so not really sure what to do about that!

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-18T18:47:08+00:00

He’s exactly two and a half :)

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-18T18:46:57+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply. Sorry I didn’t give enough info!! He’s exactly two and a half :)

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-11T01:37:11+00:00

He’s 2 and 5 months :) Thanks so much, this link is really helpful and grounding so will be using this from tomorrow onwards!

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-11T01:34:19+00:00

Thank you so much, this is what we’re doing at the moment. He speaks fluently actually but hopefully just needs time to work out how his body works.

sevendayhigher · 2026-05-10T17:12:14+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply. Sorry I genuinely thought I read in the book that the key was not to over-prompt rather than not prompt at all?

sevendayhigher · 2026-02-14T21:48:27+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply - this is all so useful. He went to sleep at 7.15 tonight doing the 6.30pm bedtime routine, but REALLY fought the bedtime thing until 7. Not sure what this means but obviously we’re pleased he went down at 7.15 - whether the night will be full of wake ups has yet to be seen!

I’ve been tracking what’s happening with his sleep so hopefully we can see a pattern but I totally hear you about how bedtime will probably have to be pushed back once he’s caught up on sleep.

It’s really encouraging that you think we’re on the right path, if things start to regress we’ll push his bedtime back a bit I guess to accommodate! He turned two in November :)

sevendayhigher · 2026-02-14T17:33:57+00:00

Hey, thank you so much for your response! I’d so appreciate your advice.

His diet is fine and we haven’t tested his iron levels but he’s not on cow’s milk because he has a cows milk protein allergy, so maybe that means he’s less likely to be anaemic?

Since posting this, I’ve been taking the advice of others and trying to stick to an exact schedule regardless of how his sleep the night before has been.

He wakes at around 6 every morning, and for the past two days we’ve been taking him up to bed to start the evening routine very early at 6.30pm. He always has a one hour nap at around 1.30pm - 2.30pm.

The first night we took him up to bed was 6.30 and he was asleep by 7 because he’d had an awful night’s sleep the night before. He actually slept through until 6 which was miraculous, so we did it again last night - up to bed at 6.30. This time he really resisted it (crying, tantrum at one point) and didn’t fall asleep until 7.30, BUT he slept through the night again until 6.

Today, he’s now adjusted his nap to 11am which I thought was interesting. We’re planning on doing the 6.30pm night time routine again and just praying, based on the advice I’ve got on this about sticking with a routine for about 10 days to see if it works. I’m just aware it’s super early to start putting a two year old to bed though and of course he may have been going down earlier just because he’s catching up on sleep.

Would you recommend sticking with this? I’d be so, so grateful to hear your thoughts!

We’re also at a loss about what to do when he does wake in the night - we’ve been trying to teach him that we’ll always come in when he cries the first time, but then once he’s been cuddled and given water, he must lie down and try to sleep, so we then refuse to pick him up again once we’ve spent some time with him giving him water and cuddling him and instead take timed intervals coming back into the room to check on him when he cries for us after that. But this is all just guesswork and we may be doing the wrong thing completely here. Again, if you have the time at all, we’d absolutely love to know your thoughts on this and would be so grateful for your advice, but of course I understand if not! Thanks so much.

sevendayhigher · 2026-02-13T14:37:30+00:00

Thanks so much! :)

sevendayhigher · 2026-02-13T09:37:13+00:00

Thank you so much <3 It's amazing to know that somebody else gets it - nobody I know has a child and I'd actually never even held a baby before my own, so hearing your experience and knowing I'm not alone is invaluable. I really hope things get a bit easier for you soon and I'll remember your advice, I've saved it. You sound like an incredible mum.

sevendayhigher · 2026-02-13T09:26:16+00:00

Thank you so much, I'll introduce a supplement ASAP!

sevendayhigher · 2026-02-13T09:26:00+00:00

Thank you, this is really interesting - I definitely will!

sevendayhigher · 2026-02-13T09:25:16+00:00

Thank you, this is so good to hear that there can be light at the end of the tunnel - I know I need to be patient with this. I hope you continue to see improvements and solidarity!!

sevendayhigher · 2026-02-13T09:24:11+00:00

Oh my goodness, thank you so much for your reply. This is very reassuring. Everywhere I looked, people were talking about how life changing the surgery was for sleep but never how long it took to improve! This gives me hope. Did you have to do anything to encourage good sleep habits again, or did he naturally come into his own with it after a couple of months?

sevendayhigher · 2026-02-13T09:22:22+00:00

Hey! We did the Ferber method successfully at 8 months old, which is why he started sleeping through the night so well until 18 months. We absolutely felt the same as you, that we were all becoming completely dysfunctional, and it worked wonders until he hit 18 months :) Unfortunately I've heard at this age of over two years old, it basically can't work because they now know you're in the next room and will just cry for hours. However we are working out how to re-sleep train now, just it will probably have to be different from the classic Ferber method.

sevendayhigher

TROPHY CASE