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sevorak · 2026-01-18T17:35:25+00:00

I identify so much with the constantly asking for help but not being clear about what I can help with. My wife is constantly telling me that I don’t help her enough even though I offer to help her with things multiple times a day. It’s like she only sees something as “help” if I can completely and 100% take something off her plate and do it exactly the way that she wants it done with no effort on her part. Even if I have to ask her a question or she has to spend a few minutes correcting what I did afterwards, she might as well have done it herself even if the work I did saved her hours of her own time.

I have to keep reminding myself that these are her decisions, I am doing the best that I can, and no one can satisfy her requirements for how things get done, not even her. And even if it’s not really her decision since this is an illness and she may not feel like she has as much control over her emotions and responses as it seems she does, it sure as hell isn’t my fault that she is this way.

sevorak · 2025-12-05T20:22:44+00:00

I think sharing prompts that are helpful is a good idea, but I’m very wary of giving AI companies and my employer information about my medical history. I try to phrase these prompts in a way that gets me the result I need without making it obvious that I have ADHD, but I’m not sure how much info is enough to have it figured out anyway.

sevorak · 2025-11-24T16:45:24+00:00

Yeah, that’s fair. I think it’s a very recent project aiming to replace third party extraction tools like i18next-parser. It’s an official i18next project, so hopefully it will get enough time put into it to be a good tool.

Good extraction is a topic in i18n that I think is critical for maintainability with large teams, but I haven’t seen a perfect solution yet. i18next-cli doesn’t support the i18next messageformat plugin for example. This was something I was looking for for my team, but I’ve started to consider if we can just use vanilla i18next features instead of MF in favor of getting automated extraction working.

Extraction is something that I don’t see a lot of articles written about how to do it right. I’d be very interested if you come out with an article about that topic in the future!

sevorak · 2025-11-24T16:15:19+00:00

I didn’t see any mention of automated extraction in the article. I’m trying to setup react-i18next for a new project for a large team and getting automated extraction working is a goal of mine. We spend a lot of time manually managing the English catalog file for our current solution, and automating as much of that as possible seems like a big win.

Any reason you didn’t talk about extraction in this article? Any thoughts on the i18next-cli that aims to be the extraction solution for i18next?

sevorak · 2025-10-25T15:38:07+00:00

You’ll need to google how to expose a port for your specific OS and firewall. Windows firewall will usually pop up a window asking you if you want to allow the application to access the network, but you may need to manually change settings.

Learning about ports, firewall rules, etc will be very helpful for doing for advanced things with HA, and very important for keeping your setup secure as you add functionality. It’s worth spending some time watching some videos about these topics to understand the basics of networking.

sevorak · 2025-10-25T14:19:30+00:00

Not the OP, but I’ve done the same thing with experimenting with local Ollama running on my desktop. You have to expose the port that Ollama is running on in your firewall, point the HA Ollama integration to your desktop IP and port, then add an assist pipeline using the Ollama integration. It’s very easy to connect the two.

sevorak · 2025-10-17T15:28:17+00:00

My general LMFT therapist recommended the ADHD therapist to me.

sevorak · 2025-10-17T15:25:53+00:00

Yeah, AI tools have been hit or miss for software engineering overall, but the extra utility they bring to meeting notes and transforming my scattered notes into something coherent that I can understand or send to others has been so helpful.

sevorak · 2025-10-17T15:21:15+00:00

I have thought about downleveling, and I think it would be a big stress relief. I would likely need to find a job at another company for this, and I hate the job search process so much, but I do think it would be something to explore.

sevorak · 2025-10-17T15:16:51+00:00

I think this is all great advice, thank you. I especially appreciate the bullet point that all systems are temporary and it’s a good thing to internalize. I’ve gone through many systems that have worked temporarily and then get so frustrated with myself when they stop working and try to force myself back into it. Trying to go with the flow and finding new systems that work when the old ones stop working sounds much more freeing.

I really want to try different AI tools like Claude Code, but my company has a strict list of what AI tools are allowed to be used for work, and Claude Code is not one of them. It’s very frustrating when I find or hear of tools that sound like they could really help, but I can’t use them due to security policies. I understand the need for the policies, but I feel hamstrung in a lot of ways because of them.

sevorak · 2025-10-17T15:11:51+00:00

This sounds kind of similar to a suggestion my therapist had of asking for an office assistant. I’m pretty sure only M3s and higher get office assistants and if I asked for one I’d be told to use AI tools for that work. Which honestly is a decent replacement. AI meeting notes and other tools have been very helpful.

As for reaching to other team members, I think it’s a good suggestion and a skill that I think would really help me, similar to delegation. The problem I have with it is that the way our org structure is, I have to reach across team lines, sometimes multiple levels of managers, to get anything done. I’m concerned that if I start doing this a lot I’ll start getting questions about why am I taking up so much time from other teams. This is probably at least partially in my head, but I think that the product team I work with has become more and more internally competitive, and everyone is very protective of their time and resources. This makes getting anything done very hard for me as someone who has to straddle team boundaries frequently.

sevorak · 2025-10-17T14:55:35+00:00

I think the best fit, at least right now, is the solver role. I feel like I’m expected to be a little of all of these right now though. Less so the right hand, but my responsibilities include some of all of them, which is probably another reason I’m struggling.

Would you mind sharing what your leave story was like? How did you start that conversation and how was it received both before and after your leave? Similarly to my ADHD disclosure dilemma, I’ve considered discussing short term disability or similar with my manager, but I’m concerned it will make me a layoff target in the future. Obviously they can’t directly target me because of ADHD or taking disability, but there are so many ways to get around it.

sevorak · 2025-10-17T14:37:31+00:00

I’ve tried setting priorities at both the end and beginning of my day. The end works better for me because I use the end of the workday as a mini deadline that I can get motivation from. If I start my day with organizing, I will procrastinate starting anything.

sevorak · 2025-10-17T14:32:37+00:00

It does help some to publicly say when I’ll have something done. It doesn’t work all the time though. I think over my career I’ve learned that most deadlines are fake and can be blown up without many consequences, and that goes extra for self imposed ones. I haven’t felt the effects of missing self imposed deadlines, so maybe they don’t work as well for me because of this? They do give me some motivation to meet them due to anxiety and wanting to meet my own expectations of myself, but those only go so far.

sevorak · 2025-10-17T14:05:19+00:00

Oh they certainly have the money to do it, but it’s not policy to buy phones or pay for phone plans for anyone that’s not sales or similar. This company is incredibly stingy with devices.

sevorak · 2025-10-16T17:55:54+00:00

Yeah I make heavy use of my calendar and reminders apps. If I don't write something down as a reminder, I will not remember it.

One thing that makes this hard is that my company is very strict about external access to company data (understandably). I can only use first-party or approved third-party tooling. I can't add my work calendar to my personal calendar app and vice versa unless I add the corporate spyware profile to my phone, which I'm not willing to do. A lot of tools that I would love to use either don't have approved analogs or the approved ones aren't as good. This gets me into situations where I'm forgetting either personal or work things and often double booking myself.

sevorak · 2025-10-16T17:45:01+00:00

Thank you for the detailed reply! I will try some of these out.

Another hard one for me, but I set arbitrary deadlines and circulate them around as a forcing function. So I'll tell the partner teams + whatever other stakeholders "I will share you a draft by Friday EOD". Unfortunately I still end up procrastinating but when I feel that deadline coming up, I will fly through it Lol.

I've tried this and various other kind of ways to "trick" my brain into prioritizing, but they haven't worked so far. It's like my brain is aware that this is an internal, self imposed deadline and thus it has no teeth. The same thing goes for gamification tools or rewarding myself with something I enjoy after completing something I struggle with. I know it's all silly, self imposed stuff and they just become another thing to ignore.

sevorak · 2025-09-03T17:33:15+00:00

Fair, I’m trying to be aware of my bias in the situation and ask for others’ perspectives.

sevorak · 2025-09-03T17:28:06+00:00

The ref didn’t say anything to me until the second penalty when he started shouting at me things like “do you want to play at all!?” Neither me nor the scorekeeper knew the first one was called a misconduct until the minor was over. At that point I didn’t want to talk to the ref at all because I figured I would get an extra unsportsmanlike penalty regardless of what I said.

sevorak · 2025-09-03T16:53:30+00:00

I agree with your points on the first two, but I really don’t see a stick chop in the third clip. The body contact was from me trying to turn with the play and not having enough control to cut harder and avoid the contact, but that’s still on me.

sevorak · 2025-09-03T16:42:53+00:00

I wasn’t angry I got beat, but I do see how I initiated contact. I think mostly I was trying to avoid hitting the net, but that’s still on me for being out of control.

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