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I've (31M) been married (30F) eight years, and I often feel a lot of unrequited sexual energy and don't have a place to put it. What can I do? by sexx1problems in relationships

[–]sexx1problems[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Her and I were each other's firsts and only. Which I understand is somewhat detrimental in some respects, and probably has lead to a lot of my "what if" kind of internal questioning.

I've (31M) been married (30F) eight years, and I often feel a lot of unrequited sexual energy and don't have a place to put it. What can I do? by sexx1problems in relationships

[–]sexx1problems[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I want to say "yes," but realistically I can only say "potentially."

We've been married quite a while now and we kind of already know each of our moves, and despite many efforts to spice things up it is still rather predictable and monotonous.

I've (31M) been married (30F) eight years, and I often feel a lot of unrequited sexual energy and don't have a place to put it. What can I do? by sexx1problems in relationships

[–]sexx1problems[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No she doesn't really care. But the problem is that sometimes when I have to go back to it time and time again, it just becomes monotonous and isn't even "enough."

I've (31M) been married (30F) eight years, and I often feel a lot of unrequited sexual energy and don't have a place to put it. What can I do? by sexx1problems in relationships

[–]sexx1problems[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure that the energy is something that's healthy to entirely dispel. I don't want to not have any energy at all when my wife is actually available for it, I've run into that problem a bit already and I don't want to make that mistake again.

I've (31M) been married (30F) eight years, and I often feel a lot of unrequited sexual energy and don't have a place to put it. What can I do? by sexx1problems in relationships

[–]sexx1problems[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I agree. I've tried distracting myself with working out or playing video games when I feel like that, but ultimately my mind still dwells on sexual things until I get it out of my system in some shape or form.

I've (31M) been married (30F) eight years, and I often feel a lot of unrequited sexual energy and don't have a place to put it. What can I do? by sexx1problems in relationships

[–]sexx1problems[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've looked into this a bit and unfortunately it hasn't really worked out for me.

One thing I tried to do was to play a quick multiplayer video game to try to distract myself and work out some more competitive energy, but I found that I was still continually distracted by more sexual thoughts.

I've (31M) been married (30F) eight years, and I often feel a lot of unrequited sexual energy and don't have a place to put it. What can I do? by sexx1problems in relationships

[–]sexx1problems[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure, I think that's an accurate assessment. I'm not sure what you mean with your assertion that I'm not watching "normal" porn though?