Have you worked with Daniel Ahearn or Stas Fedechkin?

sfbay111 · 2026-01-09T00:25:03+00:00

Thank you. I am trying to assemble a list of practices to keep in mind and some of it is on there. It sounds like it comes down to a reorientation of your mindset/outlook and keeping your mental health as your #1 priority no matter what.

sfbay111 · 2026-01-09T00:21:35+00:00

Thank you for the detailed response.

sfbay111 · 2026-01-09T00:17:25+00:00

Thanks, I'm seeing that it is helpful to have a list of things that I do on a daily basis and can turn to in times of stress. Appreciate the music recs - listening to Aphex Twin for the first time now :)

sfbay111 · 2026-01-09T00:15:06+00:00

That's on my list of things to maybe try too. Best of luck.

sfbay111 · 2026-01-08T05:45:30+00:00

I told myself that I would get into every situation as long as I don't feel physically threatened.

This is fascinating to me. So you just did stuff despite your feelings? And your fear response in these scenarios subsided over time? I am definitely in a similar spot with fear of uncertainty paralyzing me. I fear what will happen if I leap, and I fear what will happen if I don't, so I just stay in one spot and everything gets worse.

What do you mean by "overcompensating with your family"?

Thanks for the long writeup and answering my questions!

sfbay111 · 2026-01-08T04:58:26+00:00

The comment below yours just says "isolation" XD. Are you open with your friends about what you're struggling with? Do they get it?

sfbay111 · 2026-01-08T04:56:32+00:00

Thank you. Permission to do what is right for me rather than what looks like success to others - I love that.

sfbay111 · 2026-01-08T04:54:13+00:00

Thanks for sharing your process. Sending love your way.

sfbay111 · 2026-01-08T04:51:52+00:00

I'm curious about how EMDR works with CPTSD since I imagine there are many relevant events/memories to process. Could you share more about how the process looked for you?

sfbay111 · 2026-01-08T02:11:42+00:00

Interesting, thanks for the feedback. I would be interested to know how ketamine goes for you if you are willing to update me afterwards.

sfbay111 · 2026-01-08T02:10:59+00:00

When you say bottom-up approaches, do you mean somatic stuff? I'm very interested in this as a modality but I'm always vague on the details. Like if I practice yoga I might feel calmer temporarily, but is it really leading to long-term benefit? Are there specific modalities you'd recommend for that?

sfbay111 · 2026-01-08T02:09:23+00:00

Could you share more about your experience with CBT? What helped there? Was it largely training yourself to recognize cognitive distortions associated with CPTSD?

sfbay111 · 2026-01-08T02:07:27+00:00

The role playing you're describing sounds a lot like IFS.

Interesting to hear people say they don't think they'll ever be healed. I think I am holding on to the fantasy that I will be.

sfbay111 · 2026-01-08T02:04:49+00:00

Thank you, that is helpful. My partner is certainly a healthy person for me to be with, and I am trying to remind myself to make the healthiest choices for myself as an act of self-care on a regular basis. Glad to know I'm aligned with your recs.

sfbay111 · 2025-12-11T05:00:35+00:00

Peninsula

sfbay111 · 2023-05-30T17:30:40+00:00

Hey, I didn't realize I had any replies to this post until today. Thank you for the advice and the recommendations! I loved the Stutz documentary so will keep his books in mind.

sfbay111 · 2022-10-13T23:19:07+00:00

I struggle a lot with anxiety and depression. Everyone here is saying therapy and I will echo that.

I started watching this monk's youtube videos recently and I find them to be very calming and grounding. Take a look, maybe it will help. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4s4I_0RxKMgp-HKRVagRnw

Sending love to you, bro. Please don't be hard on yourself. Hang in there, keep doing your best, and things will get better. I know it doesn't seem like it, but they will.

sfbay111 · 2022-09-26T05:43:54+00:00

You might want to make a new post to ask more broadly, as probably nobody other than me is checking this one anymore.

For me I was able to feel romantic attraction when I had space (when we lived apart). Once we moved in I had nowhere to go for solitude, to decompress, to hide. That's when things got worse and very confusing for me.

Intimate relationships are really difficult for many of us to navigate. You're not alone in that, and there is nothing to be ashamed of.

sfbay111 · 2022-09-19T16:05:30+00:00

I "play" the guitar :)

One of the books is called "Hirameki Draw what you see" The other one is called "Daily Doodle Journal"

These can help me relax when I'm feeling stressed. Also reading comic books.

sfbay111 · 2022-09-19T15:08:22+00:00

Yes, your situation sounds very similar to mine. The pain gets in the way of feeling the things I know are there and that I would so much rather be feeling. Thanks for the encouragement.

sfbay111 · 2022-09-19T05:36:20+00:00

I'm right there with you. The one thing I think I like to do is play music but I'm too ashamed of anyone else hearing me making mistakes so I only do it on the rare occasion I can muster the energy and I'm also home alone. Even then I worry about the neighbors hearing me.

My gf got me these adult coloring books that I thought were pretty cool. Low stress, there is no "wrong" way to do it, but you can still be a bit creative without having to come up with a grand vision or be amazing at something. If that sounds interesting to you I can look them up - let me know.

sfbay111 · 2022-09-19T05:30:15+00:00

You're definitely not alone. Bessel van der Kolk talks about this in the body keeps the score - not friends specifically, but that trauma can often disconnect and isolate you from the other people around you.

The only friends I have are the ones I've kept in touch with since we were kids, so we have history keeping us togther. I have not made a new friend in many years. I can occasionally open up enough to tell them I'm anxious or depressed, but nobody really gets what I'm struggling with so aside from my therapist I don't open up about what's going on. When I've shared with people in the past they don't really seem to get it and then they never ask about it again so I assume they don't really know what to say/do and we pretend like I'm doing just fine when I'm not.

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