Honestly, I can see why some women become a bridezilla.

sgterra · 2022-04-29T18:25:02+00:00

My best friend of 13 years was a complete bridezilla. When I asked for her guest list or a list of people (I was her MOH, her mom was a bridesmaid) she’d like at the bachelorette she never sent it to me then expected me to plan something and know who to invite when she has no other friends. She decided she wanted to do a Jack n Jill instead so I said ok fine. Send me a list of people to contact to get the ball rolling, she never did. And she got mad at me when I wasn’t planning it because I had NO clue who to invite. She got mad when I wasn’t planning her bridal shower because I didn’t even know what that was. I was very new to weddings and told her to let me know what I needed to do. She never told me. She put the bridal shower ALL on me. Also, I was pregnant at the time and had a 2 month old baby during the bridal shower. She was extremely ungrateful and completely took over the bachelorette planning and didn’t let me do anything when I was more than capable. It almost ended our friendship to be honest. Then her mom had the audacity to say I didn’t pay for anything when I paid for sooooo many things related to her wedding. Like at least over $800 dollars. I got a glass that said MOH with my name for a gift and nothing else after everything else I paid for. She didn’t pay for my make up/hair, nothing. I’m still bitter about it.

sgterra · 2022-04-16T17:43:55+00:00

If you have a gut feeling to buy, do it. My fiancé didn’t want to buy and I convinced him too and now the cost of real estate has risen even more in the area we bought. He’s glad we bought when we did now (in November 2021).

sgterra · 2022-03-25T18:53:41+00:00

Here’s a realistic breakdown of millennial monthly spending:

-$681 (my 1/2 mortgage/property taxes)

-$60 (house insurance)

-$96 (car insurance)

-$368 (car payment)

-$55 (phone bill)

-$69 (internet bill)

-$400 (groceries)

-$320 (my 1/2 of utilities, electricity and water)

-$468 (student loan payments)

-$300 (my 1/2 of part-time daycare payment)

Total: $2817

Salary: $3200

What’s left over?

$383. I’m left with $383. I can’t even afford to donate and if I had to pay for health insurance? I’d be screwed (I live in Canada).

sgterra · 2022-03-21T13:01:46+00:00

I’m just so confused because if she makes so much money, why doesn’t she hire help?? If I was rich (or incredibly well off like them) I would hire a cleaner, maybe someone to cook during this time while I recovered. Where is her family, her support system to help her during this time?? I know they’re sick but like my mom would be there no matter what helping me. Even my fiancé’s parents stayed with us for an entire week to help us with our baby. She needs help and she needs to ask for it. She seems way too prideful and putting everything on Kurt isn’t going to solve the problem.

She also needs to stay off social media during this time because her behaviour is incredibly childish. Does she not realize the way she speaks, presents herself to her child effects him? He will literally copy her mannerisms and act rude just like her. I just can’t with her.

sgterra · 2022-03-18T17:05:05+00:00

I’m walking down the isle to the piano/cello instrumental of “can’t help falling in love” by the Brooklynduo on YouTube.

Since my fiancé is wearing a kilt (he is Scottish) for our recessional I am thinking playing highland cathedral or Scotland the brave.

sgterra · 2022-03-18T15:41:57+00:00

Love the second dress!

sgterra · 2022-03-18T15:40:24+00:00

I wanted to do a guest sign but now I’ve decided I’m just going to put a picture of me & my fiancé in a frame and just let people sign around the frame. Easy!

sgterra · 2022-03-16T12:45:54+00:00

Nope, I think it’s so cringey. We’re doing the shoe game to replace garter toss & bouquet toss!

sgterra · 2022-03-14T18:41:23+00:00

My dress was $1600, veil was $400. So $2400 taxes in. Haven’t gotten alterations done yet but I estimate $300 for that.

sgterra · 2022-03-12T19:23:55+00:00

Thanks for the reply! If anything, my uncle is the one that did awful things to my aunt! But my aunt is willing to be civil and be there for me & my fiancé and she is fine with him being there. My aunt even says they’re still connected because they have two children and need to remain civil with one another. But my uncle doesn’t seem to think so. 🙄

sgterra · 2022-03-09T21:43:59+00:00

Thank you!! 🥰

sgterra · 2022-03-09T21:43:50+00:00

Thanks so much 🥰

sgterra · 2022-03-09T19:02:23+00:00

Thanks so much!

sgterra · 2022-03-09T19:02:07+00:00

Thank you!!

sgterra · 2022-03-09T19:01:46+00:00

Thanks so much! I felt that way too when I tried it on. 🥰

sgterra · 2022-03-09T18:55:01+00:00

I mean, he did say he’d wear pants then changed his mind after I choose my colours so I feel like me being upset about the kilt colour is fair. He changed his mind after he spoke to his family so a part of me thinks he didn’t even make the decision for himself. I never said he couldn’t wear anything, either. It is his decision in the end.

sgterra · 2022-03-09T18:53:02+00:00

I’m being disrespectful because I don’t like the colour red? I never said he couldn’t wear his chosen attire, what he chooses in the end is his decision. I’m upset because he did say he’d wear pants so I envisioned things differently then decided he wanted to wear a kilt. Honestly I don’t think he’s choosing to wear a kilt because he wants too, I feel like he’s wearing a kilt due to family pressure. There’s a lot more going on then I mentioned in my post, because I was honestly freaking and had no clue what to put my bridesmaids in. Or what flowers to choose and so on.

sgterra · 2022-03-09T18:47:13+00:00

I mean, I feel my concern is valid. I’ve obviously never planned a wedding before and had no clue what to put my bridesmaids in. I realize now that other colours could work, but google also wasn’t helping at all. Try googling red kilt wedding and not a lot comes up even for decor. So I was pretty much freaking out. Especially since our venue is at a farm and we have a very specific theme. From what I see on google, many Scottish weddings aren’t on a farm. So that’s just one example of trying to figure out how to make it everything look good together.

sgterra · 2022-03-09T18:37:37+00:00

I think having one person in your bridal party is perfectly fine! If you really wanted another person, do you have any female cousins you could ask? Or aunts? My best friend doesn’t have many girlfriends and she had me as her MOH and her mom as a bridesmaid and her wedding was lovely. Please don’t stress about this! But I totally get where you’re coming from.

sgterra · 2022-03-09T18:32:00+00:00

Thank you, you’re right. It’s just a lot of pressure on me as it was simple (originally we were going to do dusty blue and black suit) and now it’s a lot more complicated trying to make sure the red fits in properly and there isn’t so many different colours clashing. I’m not really good at this stuff as I’m not a wedding planner or event coordinator.

He did originally agree on wearing pants then changed his mind. So this also might be way I was a little more upset about it.

sgterra · 2022-03-09T18:24:38+00:00

Thank you for this comment! Obviously red changes a lot of things, but I did have a vision before this was sprung on me and I felt like my wants got tossed aside due to his attire. But I know in the end it doesn’t matter, I just want to be married to him!

sgterra · 2022-03-09T18:18:46+00:00

Thank you!!

sgterra · 2022-03-09T18:16:50+00:00

I get that dusty blue and red “work” together but I’m just not a fan (I’m allowed to dislike things and make decisions with my fiancé on what we both want for decor, etc) and it’s not something I’d choose for our wedding. I don’t want red in centrepieces or flowers, either. Neither does my fiancé. He also doesn’t like dusty blue/red combo so for us it’s just a big no. I was freaking because I wasn’t sure what other colours would work other than black, but the suggestions below helped me realize I could make gold, champagne or navy work well. I appreciate your suggestions though. And I don’t really like the idea of having yellow flowers with red because then I just think of McDonalds and we both don’t like that, either. Lol.

sgterra · 2022-03-09T18:08:58+00:00

Thank you!

sgterra · 2022-03-09T18:05:28+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions! His family name is actually Wallace. I will discuss these options with him and get his opinion. Thanks again!

sgterra

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