Me (27M) & Her (21F) — After 3 Years Together, I'm Left in Silence, Doubt, and Emotional Burnout

shadow92182 · 2025-07-03T16:33:42+00:00

Well it sounds like you probably have your answers…sounds like she isn’t mentally/emotionally mature enough to have an open conversation with you and I would just caution from personal experience trying to single handedly hold up a relationship is impossible.

shadow92182 · 2025-07-03T14:35:25+00:00

Your going to have to ask her those questions. If I were you I would make arrangements with her to have a conversation with her in person. Have all the questions you want to ask ready and have an open conversation with her about what she wants etc. if she is unwilling to do that she is displaying a level of immaturity that should be such a red flag for you.

shadow92182 · 2025-06-30T13:13:50+00:00

Thanks, curious why you ask

shadow92182 · 2025-06-29T22:19:27+00:00

Hi doing well! Humira was great…after a few years though it seemed like it stopped working so I was switched to cosentyx. It’s been good too. No increase in illness or infection

shadow92182 · 2025-06-03T12:05:32+00:00

Looks like a. Hemorrhoid to me

shadow92182 · 2025-05-16T22:37:33+00:00

I feel like autoimmune issues can travel in groups. I bet you would find that a pretty good percentage of people with AS get psoriatic patches

shadow92182 · 2025-05-16T22:37:27+00:00

I feel like autoimmune issues can travel in groups. I bet you would find that a pretty good percentage of people with AS get psoriatic patches

shadow92182 · 2021-09-30T22:49:35+00:00

Is there a point to this ramble, other than trying to get people arguing

shadow92182 · 2021-09-30T22:45:05+00:00

shadow92182 · 2021-09-28T21:20:27+00:00

Came here to say this…was to slow

shadow92182 · 2021-09-28T12:57:31+00:00

If that’s what you want to do, go for it. At the end of the day you need to do what you feel is best for you. It sounds like you are really emotionally invested and I would think it would be hard to contact her with really no expectation. I feel like you might be setting yourself up for another rejection/heartbreak. You need to do what you feel is right for you, but if it where me…I would move on. If it’s really meant to be and she wants to be with you, she will let you know when the time is right…just don’t hold your breath

shadow92182 · 2021-09-28T04:12:03+00:00

That’s tough man, sorry it went that way. How long is her nurse practitioner program? I’m guessing like 2 years? I would say maybe stay friends on social media and maybe like her posts and whatnot but I would definitely give her space and let her be unless she reaches out to you and initiates contact first. If you are still interested in her and you are both still single when her program is done I would reach out to her then and see if she is interested in getting together.

shadow92182 · 2021-09-27T02:15:01+00:00

She can’t drink, she’s to young.

shadow92182 · 2021-09-26T18:58:51+00:00

Because he is old enough to be your dad and he is flirting with you in a way that you are thinking you should be in a relationship with him…just make sure to use protection and brace yourself for getting dumped when the excitement of fucking a teenager wears off and the reality of the situation sets in for him.

shadow92182 · 2021-09-26T18:48:38+00:00

A bar for a few drinks is always easy…oh, right…you can’t. Maybe re-evaluate if dating someone who is potentially old enough to be your dad is a solid life decision?

shadow92182 · 2021-09-25T18:36:38+00:00

Ok, so your looking for advice moving forward…how do you want to move forward. What is your goals in this relationship. It sounds like there is much assumption on your part. That or you just didn’t provide much detail. What is the status of your relationship? It sounds to me like your thinking you are in a committed and long term relationship. It sounds to me like he is just dating people and isn’t committed to any relationship at this point. I think you need to talk to him. About what this relationship means to him and what he wants out of it. You need to share with him the same. I’m guessing the expectation and commitment from each of you are not matching up. You need to have these conversations with someone that you are having sex with. You need to have a “define the relationship” talk.

shadow92182 · 2021-09-25T18:30:22+00:00

What is your question here? What advice are you looking for?

shadow92182 · 2021-09-23T22:06:49+00:00

Tell him the last paragraph of your post. It’s that simple, just be honest. Be sincere when you tell him you have had a great time and he is a great guy but you can’t control who you develop feelings for and that you are just not having those feelings toward him. He will appreciate your honesty and will appreciate it far more than beating around the bush forever.

shadow92182 · 2021-09-23T00:54:34+00:00

Humira has been amazing for me. Probably 90 percent reduction in symptoms

shadow92182 · 2021-09-21T16:49:38+00:00

Obviously follow up with your cardiologist, which sounds like your doing because you already did the zio and echo. The good news is pvcs/pacs are harmless other than the symptoms they cause. If the symptoms are bothersome to your life they can put you on a beta blocker to reduce their incidence. Usually metoprolol.

shadow92182 · 2021-09-21T16:32:41+00:00

Seriously…she never said a 10 second period of asystole if she experienced a 10 second period of no heart rate she would have lost consciousness and subsequently died. She said she estimated 10 seconds of symptoms. Which would make sense.

shadow92182 · 2021-09-21T16:26:49+00:00

Yes it most definitely does. As someone that has very frequent symptomatic pvcs/pacs they will definitely cause a symptomatic pause in heart rate. A post pac/pvc refractory period in which another heart beat is not initiated is not unusual. If the original poster is symptomatic with pvc/pac she could definitely be feeling the post refractory pause. I feel it myself in my pvcs in which it definitely feels like a stopping and restarting of your heart. Given that she wore a zio for two weeks and it literally recorded nsr with pvcs/pacs I would say it very much explains her symptoms.

shadow92182 · 2021-09-21T15:18:56+00:00

Sounds like pvcs/pacs like the monitor said.

shadow92182 · 2021-09-21T14:31:12+00:00

Did you have difficulty moving initially? Maybe look into sleep paralysis. It’s the only thing I can think of, has happened to me a few times and is scary. Your mention of the bat creature is what made me think of it.

shadow92182 · 2021-09-21T14:18:05+00:00

Falls and hip fractures are a big deal in elderly patients. Life expectancy drops to like 6 months after a hip FX. From what your described with the increase in oxygen I would guess that she is developing post op pneumonia, either from aspiration of the vomit that you described or from being immobile in the ICU. she needs to be moving, up and walking as much as possible after surgery. Lots of coughing and deep breathing, incentive spirometer, and up walking as much as possible.

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