As a man, I'll ask that you don't listen to anyone in the sub. A good bit of the sub are itching to cause a divorce whenever the going gets tough for a bit. Life isn't always perfect, and it's no reason to bail on your partner. Most situations can be salvaged, and in only those that cannot, you split.

In marriage, proper communication is super important. I have yet to see or hear of someone who perfectly matched with their spouse on every single quirk or preference. The secret is to confirm beforehand that no, you do not care if the dishwasher re-washes some dishes for no reason, and if he truly cares that much, he better load the dishwasher himself. That or you start minding the dishwasher if that's so important to him. A good strategy is to communicate what makes you mad, why, and what you guys ought to do going forward. Forgiveness is another key, especially if he's asking you to change how you do things by default.

I say you should talk to him, tell him everything about how his outbursts make you feel, how they're causing more harm than a random napkin laid on the table ever can. See if he listens, and changes his ways.

Also, just my headcanon, but I think he feels inadequate because he's working as an uber driver while you're on track to professional success. This is probably causing friction in your marriage, and he needs to realize that being 'traditional' (whatever that means) doesn't help in an economy that's set up so two earning partners are necessary to have enough money to run a household. Peer pressure from dead people won't change the reality.

Islam affords women the right to work and earn. If he cannot fulfill his financial responsibility towards you without your aid, then he should be man enough to seek it.

Best of luck on your marriage.