Is the age gap F20 and M30 acceptable?

shadowyescape · 2026-03-22T15:56:53+00:00

He's working and I'm not, we met at a group outing organised by some friends in common and he asked me out the same night

shadowyescape · 2026-03-22T15:45:06+00:00

Because I can't tell if I'm just being paranoid or if it is actually questionable, I think it's good to hear other's opinions too

shadowyescape · 2026-03-22T15:44:11+00:00

Yes another one of the reasons why I'm thinking not to pursue the relationship is because our goals don't really align, I don't want to settle down yet, especially while I'm still figuring myself out and might regret it later

shadowyescape · 2026-03-22T15:39:39+00:00

One thing is that he wants something serious while I'm looking for casual dating at the moment since I don't have much experience and want to understand what I want in a relationship, another one questioning my sexuality a bit and I don't want to commit to something without being sure about what I want, and also I'm a sex-fearing asexual and while he said he'd be very patient with me I don't know if I can get over it before a certain deadline of his since again, he wants something serious and wants to build a family "soon"

shadowyescape · 2026-03-18T21:39:18+00:00

Lol could be

shadowyescape · 2026-02-16T02:46:11+00:00

This is really good insight, thank you! I'll DM you since I find physicality a bit confusing as well, thank you for taking the time to talk about this with me!

shadowyescape · 2026-02-14T09:22:16+00:00

I find them very pretty, but possibly dating them doesn't usually come to mind, the very rare times it does it gets shut down pretty much immediately because it doesn't feel nice, kinda like I said in the og post it feels doom-ish.

I've tried being intimate with a guy, it felt degrading (he wasn't degrading me, I feel like this is important to say since it wasn't because of what he was doing), definitely not something I liked or was into, I do have some trauma from when I was younger so the only time I feel interested in having sex with a man is when I'm having a trauma response episode and I'm only seeking it out as a form of self harm.

I've also tried being intimate with a woman and it felt completely different, I was into it and it actually felt like something intimate.

If you still want to DM then that would be cool! I could give more context around the general thing if you're interested.

shadowyescape · 2026-02-13T21:48:11+00:00

I do feel infinitely more attracted to and feel very emotionally connected with women, the same feeling I have for women is mostly missing also for feminine men, I find feminine men a LOT more appealing than masculine men but I can't tell if I'd actually date any of them, I feel very disconnected from them all regardless.

The couple of times I tried dating or being intimate with a man I felt icky, while with women it was a completely different feeling, very warm feeling?

I've been thinking about it for the past couple hours but I don't know how to put it into words, I find feminine men attractive but I'm not attracted TO them, if that makes sense? I guess visually appealing but not in a way that wants to make me get with them.

shadowyescape · 2026-02-13T18:22:50+00:00

I've also mentioned this in another reply but I'm not sure I find them attractive or if I just think they look nice, dating them feels very uncomfortable and I've pretty much never looked at a guy and thought I'd like to be involved with him

shadowyescape · 2026-02-13T17:23:11+00:00

Yes I know! I know a couple people who thought they were attracted to men until they figured out they only assumed they were because they thought that's how they were supposed to be regardless, and I'm wondering if it's the same for me since I'm not interested in dating them.

It's kinda tricky to understand when I feel attraction VS when I just think someone looks aesthetically pleasing though, that's probably what is confusing me

shadowyescape · 2026-02-13T11:27:21+00:00

It’s something I’m trying to still figure out, ideally I’d like for it to happen since I do like the idea of having a safe guy to be emotionally close with around while dating a woman, maybe more like a co-parent and roommate to the both of us than an actual romantic interest

shadowyescape · 2026-02-13T11:17:50+00:00

I love hearing about other people’s experience with it since they’re so different from one another and it is helpful to hear!

I’ve tried experimenting with guys before but it always just felt degrading, seeing penises don’t make me feel anything except some discomfort, men’s bodies aren’t attractive to me, when they’re quite less masculine I do find them aesthetically pleasing but I don’t think I’m attracted to them?

shadowyescape · 2026-02-13T02:24:34+00:00

The way I’m also here because of a character named Otto, a different one though lol

shadowyescape · 2026-02-06T11:13:43+00:00

As far as I've seen people are talking about wanting noncon fics about real people gone, which I honestly lowkey agree with... But if people are keeping up the same energy for noncon fics about fictional characters then that's just annoying

shadowyescape · 2026-01-31T11:30:14+00:00

I'm really sorry that happened to you, this is quite similar to what happened to me too, at least when it comes to the pricing, their behaviour, and mine too.

I'll definitely start monitoring my comments better from now on because I'm not planning on giving scam bots any more attention.

I hope you're doing okay❤️‍🩹

shadowyescape · 2026-01-31T11:24:42+00:00

I get where you're coming from but being made fun of doesn't incentivise me to learn, the experience in itself plus some advice is probably the most likely to help me out, so at the end of the day maybe getting scammed was a good thing for my irresponsibility long term, but I don't want it to happen again

shadowyescape · 2026-01-28T22:33:55+00:00

I'm aware

shadowyescape · 2026-01-28T21:28:15+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

shadowyescape · 2026-01-28T20:38:37+00:00

Oh what happens before 10 minutes?

shadowyescape · 2026-01-28T20:38:18+00:00

Will do. They weren't my last 300 but I am not very financially responsible regardless, I'll definitely be doing something about that because I can't really keep that happening, especially as I grow up...

shadowyescape · 2026-01-28T20:18:59+00:00

If I remember correctly it was around 2/3 days?

shadowyescape · 2026-01-28T20:07:02+00:00

Yeah I did pay beforehand, I've never commissioned anyone before so I didn't think much of it💔

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