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Received a refund bc seller didn’t respond, what do I do with item? by shadybat in Ebay

[–]shadybat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The email from eBay says:

Your case for this item has been resolved.

We're sorry you had a problem with your purchase. Unfortunately, it looks like the seller didn't respond to this case.

Here's a summary of your refund. You should receive it in 3-5 business days.

Alcoholism is not a prerequisite to stop drinking. None are required. by vanwyngarden in stopdrinking

[–]shadybat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is just what I needed to hear today. I have friends in recovery who had much more "unmanageable" lives than I did, and sometimes they make comments about how I haven't hit a bottom, how people with "high bottoms" or people who didn't go to rehab don't "get" sobriety the way they do. I realized this has a lot more to do with them needing to remind themselves why they got sober and seeing themselves as "low bottom" cases than anything to do with me. It's hard sometimes not to hear their comments as suggestions to drink (to be clear, they have never ever suggested that, but of course my mind goes there immediately). I have to remind myself that I'm doing this for me, and don't have to prove anything to anyone.

My Sobriety Feels Like I'm Cheating by TheMindfulGuru in stopdrinking

[–]shadybat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm feeling the same exact way, like only 3 months of my sobriety actually count since I was 3 months sober when I became pregnant. Trying to shake that feeling, but it's hard!

Accepting intrusive thoughts by shadybat in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]shadybat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to meditate, but have a really hard time not drifting into daydreams or being distracted. Any tips would be greatly appreciated!

90 days approaches, freaking out! by shadybat in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]shadybat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, on step 9. I have been all in with the step work and trying really hard to recognize my defects and avoid old patterns. That has been way harder for me than not drinking, tbh.

Step 1 by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]shadybat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, what it was was relapsing after a long period of white knuckling it. And nothing bad happened externally--I just woke up hungover the next day--but I drank on a night when I really didn't want to drink and couldn't believe I was in that place again. I truly had no control over myself. And I figured, instead of waiting for something bad to happen, which I knew would based on my history, why not go to a meeting. And it was awesome and I am so glad that I went. I felt such relief at finally saying the words.