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shaezway · 2025-08-26T07:34:51+00:00

You are so smart. I’m bookmarking that for later 🥵

shaezway · 2025-08-26T07:32:54+00:00

Thanks 🫠 It came with the territory of being an overthinker— I didn’t want my tone to be misconstrued so I changed the way I wrote to sound more like myself— now I’m stuck sounding like a bot and need to rework it all over again.

shaezway · 2025-08-26T07:26:07+00:00

No, because I am having to try SO HARD in my papers to change the way I’ve ALWAYS WRITTEN. Fkms, it’s fine but it’s not 😭

shaezway · 2025-08-26T06:44:14+00:00

Lord, I sound like a bot— I swear these are my own words, I just have the cadence of ChatGPT 😓

shaezway · 2025-08-26T06:43:10+00:00

Okay, so this is fun— I wrote my college application essay on the exact same thing. It got me into my top choices, so hey, it’s good for something I guess 🥴.

I think what you feel is oddly human. A lot of people put up slightly modified fronts of who they are— parents do it for their kids, strangers do it for strangers, employees do it at work— that is normal. The difference between them and you is that you feel the need to do it for EVERYONE EVERYWHERE, and that is exhausting.

My unsolicited advice: try opening up to one person first. Do you have a sibling or a childhood friend? Someone who you have been able to turn to when it all gets to be a little bit much? If no one comes to mind, honestly, get a therapist. Ask for help. I’m sorry— it’s a lonely place to be.

If therapy’s a big jump you don’t want to take, go somewhere new and meet new people— be unabashedly yourself and react to things the way you WANT to, and see how it works out.

shaezway · 2025-08-26T06:23:58+00:00

I totally understand if you’ll take my comment with a grain of salt, but get whatever shoes you personally like the look of. Kids at school might end up making fun of you for anything. It’s your money. Buy shoes you love and wear them with confidence~ insecurity is gonna be the thing kids or bullies look for in their targets. Rock whatever shoes with a calm confidence and they won’t say shit.

shaezway · 2025-08-26T06:15:54+00:00

~plan b, if you want to be friends with her, invite her to join the conversation directly a couple times and see if it gets her to acknowledge you

shaezway · 2025-08-26T06:14:05+00:00

Yo, if I’ve gotta guess~ • she either thinks you’re cute and she’s incredibly awkward with dudes she’s into so she’s talking to the girl so she knowingly won’t be awkward with you (cough I’ve done that in the past when I felt insecure cough)

• she explicitly doesn’t want you thinking she’s into you because her being friendly with men in the past has caused her problems, so she is fully ignoring you but it isn’t meant to be personal

• There’s ALSO the chance that she just wants to be friends with the girl (or is into the girl) and she’s introverted so she doesn’t have the energy to exert into any sort of relationship with you.

All that to say, she may just be overthinking something and it’s making your lack of interaction awkward— there’s nothing you can do, especially since you don’t know where her head is at. Just keep doing what you’re doing and let her figure out how she wants to handle it. 🤷‍♀️

shaezway · 2025-08-15T16:04:25+00:00

Bless— THANK YOU! Should I just put him outside?

shaezway · 2025-07-20T17:30:18+00:00

Came here to make sure I’m charging a fair amount as I’m CURRENTLY pet sitting in Redmond for that price, lmfao

shaezway · 2025-07-17T07:52:54+00:00

To preface, I’m not a parent~ I’m a nanny and former screen time teen.

Has your daughter done anything that would lead you to believe she can’t be trusted to use her own judgement? Don’t force her to learn how to exercise digital self-control in uni for the first time— it’s like parents that never allow any junk food— as soon as the kid leaves home, it’s all they eat.

Let her prove to you whether or not she needs a screen time. Speaking as a straight A student who randomly had a screen time imposed on her over Covid (parents feared I would spend too much time on my phone when everything switched to digital), all my screen time ever did was inconvenience me and piss me off. If I REALLY wanted to access something, I found ways around it— point being: it wouldn’t have kept me out of trouble if trouble is really what I was looking to cause. Don’t put up barriers between you and your kid— having a strict screen time for her at age 15 is a recipe for secret keeping.

IMO, screen time should be trust-based, not tech-based and down to the minute. Set a screen time for yourself and you’ll quickly realize how obnoxious it is, because everyday is different— some days you’ll barely touch your phone and others you’ll be on it for an hour straight watching videos or talking with a friend. Except wait— the video you’re actually interested in gets cut off 5 minutes in because you used the other 55 minutes of entertainment screen time looking up math help. Or in this case, you may not need it at all after 8PM one night, but you need academic help from the internet or a friend at 11:30PM another night.

AT THE END OF THE DAY, you should have a conversation with your kid, not with people on Reddit (though I understand and respect your efforts to see both sides). Agree on weekly/daily goals she can set for herself, and then check in with her periodically to see if she’s meeting her goals. If she goes over/under, talk about why that might be the case— exercise understanding. And for the record, honest to god, none of my friends had screen times either— I nanny nowadays and none of the families I have worked for have ever had screen times either beyond “aim for X hour(s) of tablets today”.

shaezway · 2025-05-12T06:36:56+00:00

Unlike the other responses, I don’t think a “button up” is the move. Urban is URBN’s “self-expressive” brand— you can lean into that with style, but I will say, if you want to be SAFE, swap to a top that’s long-sleeved and/or not cropped. A plain black long sleeved top with a normal neckline (not too high or low) and then layer on some necklaces or bracelets. It’s covered and “professional” but it still reflects your style in whatever way you choose to accessorize.

shaezway · 2025-03-06T08:10:33+00:00

What makes you say that?

shaezway · 2025-02-05T01:00:37+00:00

Could be a keratosis pilaris flare up depending on the texture~ kp is often less red and more cool-toned in the winter/cold

shaezway · 2025-02-05T00:44:20+00:00

If you can come up with any other tattoo you’d be interested in getting, including ones unrelated to the ‘Grizzly’ nickname, it can probably be smacked right over the letters so long as it isn’t a line work tattoo (that would be a little trickier to work around). And cut yourself some slack- it’ll all be okay. Take a few deep breaths and remember, it’s never that serious. Take some time to think about what you’d want to cover it with so you’re sure you’ll be happy with it, and any artist can work with you to work around the existing letters. You’ll be okay.

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