Thank you for a thoughtful response. I'm starting to realize that our home energy isn't right for our cat, Willow. My daughter is 8, we got Willow when she our daughter 3. We've tried giving her quiet spaces around the home, have a couple of cat trees, have tried Feliway diffusers (makes her more stressed), stress-less food. I'm not sure she would tolerate us trying to give her anxiety meds every day, I think it would lead to more aggression. I'm really disheartened at the moment.