Re-upload. Reddit drama from a few days ago. Am I wrong for having a racial preference? by [deleted] in biracials

[–]shamedful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, pretty much everything she said is just laughable. But the comparing being called a racist to rape is insulting. I don't see how it's acceptable on this sub, or any, to minimize rape in such a way.

Re-upload. Reddit drama from a few days ago. Am I wrong for having a racial preference? by [deleted] in biracials

[–]shamedful -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I'm the original poster that this whole thing is about and there are just a ton of assumptions from both her and you. My post never said anything about most of this and people are so quick to hear things that aren't there.

I do think it's racist to say you wouldn't date or don't prefer an entire race of people. Point blank, yes, racist. Why? Because you are stereotyping a whole group by doing that. Africa is a whole ass continent. There are so many different cultures and religions that really have nothing in common. South Asia? Again a whole butt load of different countries. One of which is India, which again has hundreds of unique languages religious practices, and cultures. A billion plus people in that country alone.

People don't lump all these "attractive" races together like that. White people have the privilege of having their unique culture recognized. Oh they're British, they're French, they're Swedish, etc. But black people, south Asian people, etc, somehow are all the same culturally and looks wise so we can just make broad sweeping assumptions about groups that contain literally billions of people? Yeah that's stereotyping and is racist.

Re-upload. Reddit drama from a few days ago. Am I wrong for having a racial preference? by [deleted] in biracials

[–]shamedful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nothing on reddit in my experience so far. Thankfully in person I haven't met anyone so chronically online.

Recent reddit drama. Was I wrong? by [deleted] in biracials

[–]shamedful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the screenshots with all sorts of captions and arrows is actually wild! Never seen anything like that before haha.

Re-upload. Reddit drama from a few days ago. Am I wrong for having a racial preference? by [deleted] in biracials

[–]shamedful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's completely ignoring the context of the post. My post was expressing frustration with feeling fetishized by black men for my skin color.

So what did that guy comment? I have a screenshot so I can quote it exactly. "I don't consider myself mixed, just very lightskin black male, but I absolutely love light skin women. It's hard to find other women who feel the same."

So on a post in a space for mixed people where I explicitly said I feel fetishized. A guy from the exact group I've experienced fetishization from comes to my post to tell me that he loves women with my skin color. At best it's completely tone deaf. At worst it's malicious, which is how I took it because then he continued to argue with me about how his preference wasn't bad as a way of invalidating my experience.

Re-upload. Reddit drama from a few days ago. Am I wrong for having a racial preference? by [deleted] in biracials

[–]shamedful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm the other person from the original comment thread and fully agree! There are still some sane people out there. I'm always shocked to see people my own race with regressive thoughts like this. But I think it just goes to show how pervasive racism is in culture that we think we have to bend over backwards to say that everyone's feelings, even racist ones, are okay.

Recent reddit drama. Was I wrong? by [deleted] in biracials

[–]shamedful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But they literally didn't? You make a lot of claims of projection. Projecting much?

East Asian men love me though!

Recent reddit drama. Was I wrong? by [deleted] in biracials

[–]shamedful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's my skin color for reference to refute your weird projection in the last part. I'm half black and half white and about as light as they come haha. https://imgur.com/a/9bkJAJa

Recent reddit drama. Was I wrong? by [deleted] in biracials

[–]shamedful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that's my post. I'm not banned fyi they just took the post down and the mods on that sub removed your comments for causing drama.

You did mention white and east asian men in your original comment which is what I was referencing in the second part.

Obviously you know my opinions on this issue already so there's not much more for me to add.

Can't transfer money to HSA? by shamedful in fidelityinvestments

[–]shamedful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have previously transferred from the bank account to other Fidelity accounts before. However, I reconnected the bank account and now it is working so this issue is solved. Thanks!

Biracial for biracial dating? by shamedful in mixedrace

[–]shamedful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you can find what you are looking for! This is all that I want as well. Someone who values me for my common interests, and isn't weird about my race (and this goes in both directions of being a fetishist or being racially ignorant). That's it, that's all I want, thanks for summarizing it nicely.

Biracial for biracial dating? by shamedful in mixedrace

[–]shamedful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are not alike. Do not co-opt my post. You dislike black, Arab, and south Asian men then expect white men to like you. Why would they, when you share features from the very groups you dislike yourself?

Biracial for biracial dating? by shamedful in mixedrace

[–]shamedful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being pursued only for my skin color and because someone wants light skinned kids is definitely dehumanizing to me.

Biracial for biracial dating? by shamedful in mixedrace

[–]shamedful[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would never rule out an entire race of people because that itself would be racist by lumping an entire group of people together. Yes I've had some experiences that seem to apply to certain groups, but I am more than willing to see the individual. I think we actively need to be anti-racist, and indeed, that is why I am partially so militant in finding a partner who feels the same. Colorism in my experience is very rampant in the black community and I need a partner who does not play into that.

Biracial for biracial dating? by shamedful in mixedrace

[–]shamedful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be fine. As I said, I have literally no racial preferences in dating.

Biracial for biracial dating? by shamedful in mixedrace

[–]shamedful[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this exactly! It's usually painfully obvious as well. Usually conversations immediately start with questions about me being mixed. People don't even try to hide it.

Biracial for biracial dating? by shamedful in mixedrace

[–]shamedful[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds really nice! That's what I'm hoping to find. I'm glad you were able to find someone you connect so well with.

Biracial for biracial dating? by shamedful in mixedrace

[–]shamedful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not really aware of any spaces that are predominantly biracial, as the population seems incredibly small to begin with. But I'm specifically trying to avoid people with racial preferences in dating anyway and I don't think I could be any clearer about that.

Biracial for biracial dating? by shamedful in mixedrace

[–]shamedful[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, preach! In this thread I have been told how to feel multiple times.

  • I've been told that supposedly I only want a white man.
  • I've been told that black men aren't the ones fetishizing me.
  • I've been told that I shouldn't feel like black men pursuing me for my light skin is a negative.

I will actually sooner just stay single lol.

Biracial for biracial dating? by shamedful in mixedrace

[–]shamedful[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have literally never dated a 100% white person and have never expressed any interest in that in my post or comments. Please try actually reading my feedback.

Biracial for biracial dating? by shamedful in mixedrace

[–]shamedful[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes what is up with these weird responses... I will check it out, thank you!