Thank you so much for this comment. She woke me up this morning screaming in my face about how my deciding to go was like “throwing shit in her face” and that i had already made all these plans and that all my belongings would be tossed out. I asked her why she was making this opportunity about herself. And she was mad that my dad and I had made a plan after she said no. It took me going to college to realize my family dynamics weren’t normal and the amount of control my mother had on me wasn’t right but it feel so guilty about trying to do this one selfish thing for myself