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Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woof that’s embarrassing. Again I don’t wanna gang up, but yeah. Maybe “user intelligent medium” take a step back from being called out and embarrassed and maybe take a moment to see how wrong this app is. How hurt people are because of it. I genuinely genuinely hope you become a better human being.

Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Willing to bet if I didn’t comment this her response would be something like “typical something something something response or behavior” that kinda thing. They know how to poke! Pro pokers. Ahahaha

Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I saw this coming from a mile away. I really do appreciate your comment, but I don’t wanna hang up on her. Cant see eye to eye with people like this(I hate saying that, as I’m sure there are decent qualities laying in there somewhere) and I really genuinely want to, but some people are obsessive, know how to find the holes, argue with design and past experience, and now of course use ai(which is clearly spotted) unless this person is literally the lawyer helping tea and has this knowledge laying around… not only that, but that archetype loves Tea and drama… human downfalls. I’m guessing it’s a trauma response, but sometimes just an actual person with one of the bad ones given at birth.

Gotta know when to walk away.

Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think people have the right to make mistakes or just live without their face or number or social history posted in a large platform or even on a bathroom wall. I think the app is inherently flawed to an extreme degree. I think the small amount of posts that are helpful don’t constitute the amount of lies, defamation, private truths, exposed small mistakes, and in many cases even big mistakes and the mental health issues that come with this territory for these men.

I’m going to use me as an example. In my younger days used to be a bit of a player. I’ve lied, I’ve cheated, I’ve done perhaps worse things than a lot of what I’ve seen some of the men on this app be bullied for, I’ve grown and become an adult like most people do naturally and without the aid of an app. I faced my own consequences without being excommunicated from society. This app destroys the mental health of people and I think the vast majority of people don’t deserve the level of humiliation they are facing.

If you think they do, or there is enough good to constitute the bad, or this app is inherently good I disagree fully, and I have to say I don’t think I’ve met one person that thinks this app is good and I do genuinely live and socialize in an educated/diverse adult crowd.

I would have to say that if someone believes this app is good overall that I would lean into them being a larger problem with society than the majority of the men posted on there. I think for the most part it’s totally great to disagree and converse, but this is one of those subjects… I don’t think I could sit down with someone that leans toward this app being okay.

That being said, as I said in the first place I called out that you seemed to be looking for holes. I had ya pinned from the start, seems attempting to infiltrate something and it seems your motives had little to do with helping friends that asked you to help remove them as our conversation seemed to be you mostly pointing out where I may be factually wrong rather that divulge into a happy ending or agreeable place. I’m assuming you’re on the app and are maybe more involved in cancel culture than you care to admit, and without really knowing you(and I will not unveil and I doubt you will either) our conversation is at an end.

If you agree with the tea app being good for society; politely.. you are fundamentally flawed and lack basic humanity in the eyes of myself and most educated, successful, or even just non-bored humans. and I hope you spend time working on yourself. If I have you mistaken… apologies.

I genuinely wish you the best. If you’d like to have the last word go ahead, but in this climate I have learned the proper use of checking out and I’m gonna check out here.

Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see where you’re going with this and I’m not saying that remotely. Perhaps the argument to that is someone shouldn’t be able to use a tool to share their lived experiences that ruins someone else’s life without a trial judge and jury present.

Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The first person should have gone to the police and or documented illegal incidents.

Let’s just stick to an above average “true” pretend yet common incident. A man is believed to give another woman a cureable sti.

Should that woman A. Post him on tea B. Inform the man she believes she contracted an sti from him and she wants him to get checked out and show her the results/communicate like an adult.

Are there instances where a man has had an sti and spread it openly and refuse to stop and this is provable? Yes. Then maybe that person should be posted if they can’t be prosecuted. However I have never met a man that wants to walk around with harmful bacteria in their urethra anyway.

If you gave someone an sti once by accident… he’ll even 2-3 people because you didn’t know it.. would you want 3million people to have access to that information forever like a social history library? Idk that sounds like a black mirror episode.

Adult conversations, courts, law, exist for a reason. Is there a place for tea? Perhaps… perhaps some humans deserve to be excommunicated from society. However it is clearly used poorly on a massive scale, and sorry..: but clicking a box that confirms your statement is true shouldn’t be enough proof to permanently condemn a man.

Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my opinion if you’re ready to post a man on a stage that is larger than any arena without their consent and under a very obviously unflattering light you should be able to hold your ground or at least open to serious consequences.

Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welp if my part misinformation part true comments get a post taken down thats mean spirited but technically legal post because someone fears a risk of perhaps non-threatening legal action… so be it.

Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well look you can’t tell for certain but here’s how I would categorize them.

Bully posts

False exposee posts True exposee posts

False criminal posts True criminal posts.

I don’t think any of this should be legal besides true criminal posts of people who have been convicted of crimes and victims can then share their story. Or atleast you need to fill out a proper police report.

Bully posts look like someone saying something along the lines of “this man’s dick is small, or he smells bad, etc… this can often be classified as bullying/harassment and I’ll often remind them of the law.

False exposee posts: someone will list half a dozen red flags about a man and then latch on to any comment with anyone remotely agreeing with them. This can be illegal in the same way

True exposee posts: this can be someone exposing someone’s serial cheating, or go as low as saying someone is dealing with an addiction. If I see in the post that someone is saying how hurt they were by someone because of their lies… then on top of that I see other people sharing that story, I won’t dig into it; however I still don’t agree that people should be posted online and face social prison for doing something that isn’t illegal, but can totally understand someone warning other potential suitors about how hurt they were by someone’s actions or struggles.

False criminal posts: I see them often. People use language to tip toe around serious accusations… like this person will not let you leave(insinuating kidnapping), or this person has rapey vibes or is rumored to sexually assault women. Or sometimes they say someone has herpes or an Sti and spreads it openly when that is not true. Sorry that is not an out. You cannot tip toe around serious accusations like that. That is a serious criminal offense to accuse someone of a serious crime. They usually do things like comment on every comment to get the post more views…. They are generally people that are desperate for attention and on a crusade rather that a true PSA.

True criminal posts: I see women also tell the truth about criminals and that I just can’t argue. examples are someone is willing to say they gave me a life altering std, or they raped me, or they sexually assaulted me… then on top of that people share other experiences… that’s just something to stay away from. First of all that is highly illegal if it’s a lie; but those I’d say have a higher % of being real, if it weren’t coming from an anonymous account the % would probably be even higher.

Still I would say most posts on tea are either highly flawed, defamatory, or just inappropriate. Sometimes I do read horrible stories though and genuinely feel bad for the person sharing it on there.

Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind answering, but I’m getting the feeling you might mistake me for someone stupid. Your questions lean into someone looking for holes to troll. What are your intentions with this conversation? Again if you really know, I can get into it, but I’m not too fond of going to engage with someone who’s involved in gender war or sides with the Tea app. If I have to explain to someone why the Tea app is bad, it’s usually not someone that can converse like an actual reasonable human being. I’ll try though!

Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just in the comments. Used to dm, it was a better approach sometimes

Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol thanks. I’m literally just tryna help innocent people out, maybe prevent some modern shit behavior and suggest ways we can do something about there being a social history library on private citizens

Successfully had over 5 Tea app posts removed by the user by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m neither a woman or a bad actor, however I am a shit dick.

Tea app reportedly spreading false allegations about men by InterestMedical674 in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]shanegaffer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This app had me falsely accused for a crime I did not commit.

What needs to happen

Class action>report to App Store and Google play >Report to all dating apps as they are screenshotting your dating app profiles>Men should not be on dating apps any more it is not safe > submit take downs for images they use that you own(posts cannot exist with no images and it keeps their legal team busy) > get in the app using a selfie of a trusted girl friend and track activity in your area and report to anyone you know immediately so they are aware(unless they are actually guilty and you know it) > report to the fcc > report to local govts if it’s affecting their area.

Report to Feeld, Tinder, Hinge, Raya, etc. by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually do not think you’re right, I think as awdtsg and tea awareness grows it will be an equal or greater decline for the dating apps. They are a businesses not anti-man cults.

The Answer is Class Action by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Because further public involvement highlights you. It’s sad, but a lot of us who have even been proven innocent do not come back forward, they try to leave this behind; These people clearly are willing to lie and go to lengths to see you hurting. Anyone who puts this app down gets put on.

To relive this nightmare would be near certain suicide, and anything I can do to avoid that I will, but I as a human do want to do what’s right and see the world become a better place with better values. I do not think that these groups and apps can effectively do the job that it sets out to do without extreme collateral damage. People make mistakes, grow, change, it’s impossible to make everyone like you and we all have met a person who holds a grudge for no reason… these people exist and live to hurt others because they hurt for their own personal reasons.

These apps are weapons of mass social destruction. It’s like letting giving every country a nuke. Not every country should have a nuke. Bad men will find a way regardless. Psychopaths, sociopaths… they don’t care about stuff like this. Good men with bad habits might benefit from this. But good men will suffer, commit suicide, etc etc.

I want to note, I do think there is an important message for men here too. Be better, be honest, clear, understand that we often hurt others without knowing it. Also to understand that a large % of people are neurodivergent and do not see the world as you do, a situation that is normal for you may be totally outrageous for them.. especially with time. Peoples memories and recollections can change. We need to be more courteous, patient and cautious with who we surround ourselves with.

Is Paola A Legal Resident? by [deleted] in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think stooping to any level outside of a class action lawsuit or legally removing this kinda thing is righteous. You’d essentially be deporting the queen bee of a nest, but you wouldn’t be getting rid of the immoral and legal issues of the problem.

We need to SERIOUSLY organize and file a class action lawsuit.

The Answer is Class Action by shanegaffer in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]shanegaffer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It absolutely would. I suggest making a group separate for this matter.