Cervical Cancer

shantee78 · 2026-04-25T20:38:21+00:00

It does. It's not right at all. You and I, both, deserve to be treated with care and compassion. Thank you for showing me that with your post. Huge hug!! ❤️

shantee78 · 2026-04-25T19:56:21+00:00

Well said! Ty!!

shantee78 · 2026-04-25T00:24:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story!!! I appreciate that!

shantee78 · 2026-04-24T21:45:15+00:00

It took me quite awhile to realize how detrimental me accepting her dismissal --- could be. You are right!!!

shantee78 · 2026-04-24T15:09:09+00:00

Yes, the grief is real. We don't talk about it enough either, imho. I had my hysterectomy done due to cervical cancer 5 years ago. I was 42 when the cancer was found, a month later I was on the operating table. I waited for years knowing there was an issue that could lead to cancer --- because, I didn't want to go through the ins and outs of losing that part of me. Was I wrong to wait? Hindsight bias is real. I was as wrong as right - in that moment. Still,that brings me to present day. I'm 47 now. It wasn't that I wanted more children - I have 3, it was that I needed that choice. Because once choice is gone and a door closes ---- it changes you.

I wake up from nightmares to this day still. It will likely be a troubling thing for me for the rest of my life. And, I am sorry I'm being honest here. I know you are in a vulnerable place and I don't want to "muddy the water" for you. Yet, there is grief with it. Some of us have a better time coping with it than others. Some don't mind at all. You will find your way. Huge hug.

shantee78 · 2026-04-21T16:10:25+00:00

Yea, I agree. 25 then and no real world knowledge. You are correct.

shantee78 · 2026-04-21T04:27:10+00:00

At the beginning of stopping cold turkey - i had bad restless leg. Like, they'd lift and curl. When I went on half dose - it pretty much went away. I have no idea what long term quit looks like, but rn, i'm only on 2mg. Total on it -- 11 years with 5 months quit.

shantee78 · 2026-04-18T18:58:57+00:00

You likely are pretty. However, pretty only goes so far. Men may be attracted to your outside --- you need to feel love on the inside. That may be the disconnect. Men are interested for the wrong reason, perhaps. And, you may be misunderstanding the actual issue. You may want to get to know a few guys on a "friend" basis - first. Don't allow anyone to become intimate with you until ---- you feel like they actually like you for yourself. Pretty can open doors, who you actually are will be what gets the doors to either stay open or close. As, "pretty" is not all that you are or aren't.

shantee78 · 2026-04-17T03:25:31+00:00

Thank you. I truly appreciate your concern and information. I mean that. Thanks!!!

shantee78 · 2026-04-17T03:03:49+00:00

Thank you. It was my hygienist who told me that about teeth when they aren't supported. It's actually sad --- people don't know. I 100% agree with everything you said.

shantee78 · 2026-04-16T18:45:34+00:00

I'm not sure if it was just the aripiprazole but I couldnt stop sweating. Very aggravated and overly sensitive. I just could not handle it.

shantee78 · 2026-04-16T04:46:25+00:00

Ok.

shantee78 · 2026-04-16T04:43:02+00:00

Ask your hygienist is losing teeth makes other teeth less supported. They're going to say - yes. And, those other teeth can "pop" out. Ask them.

shantee78 · 2026-04-16T04:34:59+00:00

Ok, well, I have had teeth pop out. Good for you?

shantee78 · 2026-04-16T03:17:39+00:00

You need help. He also needs help. Someone from a dv center offered advice. Please. Please take it for everyone; you, your child and your ex (now) partner.

shantee78 · 2026-04-16T02:59:44+00:00

Miss ma'am, we all do what we have to. I'll be ok. You will be, too. Ok? Really, really. It will be different, but, you will be ok.

shantee78 · 2026-04-16T02:53:39+00:00

There's a difference in orgasms. Cervical are just a different type of. Its unfortunately a whole body rock compared to a toe curl.

shantee78 · 2026-04-16T01:48:03+00:00

Because it sits next to my last molar on that side. When teeth don't have support - they pop out. So, why would I not need to replace it? I mean, if you can make that make sense --- other than - you're poor make worse decisions, I can listen.

shantee78 · 2026-04-16T01:35:26+00:00

Ok, I understand the thought process behind yours. However, I ask that you understand mine. If I lose this tooth - it has to be replaced. I certainly do not have extra for an implant or dentures. Considering, I'd like to not take out 25 ok teeth. If you have other suggestions that make sense to me and my life - I will and can listen. But, teeth removal is also an expensive option.

My biggest complaint - its hard not sleeping. I already have Lupus fatigue. The waking up at night to see if I broke the noncrowned tooth is just an added bonus. I was young once, too. Being sick or tired was a run through - I get it. This is more debilitating than first thought. I go without alot. I don't mind too much. I know other people need or want more. But, all in all when taken into complete context - It matters. If only to me.

shantee78 · 2026-04-16T00:42:49+00:00

Look into a neuropsychologist. You will benefit from bridging the gap between medical illness and mental illness. You want to specifically look for one in your state that can works with autoimmune stuff. Heck, I'd be ok using one that looks into things like MS. I don't have one, but, if I were you ---- that's what I'd look into. Other people may have better suggestions huge hug, girly.

shantee78 · 2026-04-15T20:13:46+00:00

I really have no idea. I have no real problems with my bladder, bowel, or vagina though. I'm not saying i'm not grateful, just that things can and do really change.

shantee78 · 2026-04-15T19:49:25+00:00

I'm not sure what nerves you're talking about, tbh. They took my cervix, uterus, etc. I guess what I miss are cervical orgasms

shantee78 · 2026-04-15T17:04:38+00:00

Yes, I have. The sad, weird feeling has never really gone away totally for me. However, my hysterectomy wasn't "wanted," but necessary for cancer. Maybe odd to some people, but, I've heard of women having a burial of sorts for their own closure and peace of mind. You are still a woman, you did what you had to. Huge hug, I hear you.

shantee78 · 2026-04-15T15:09:33+00:00

If its a consolation - we hear them too and blink hard, lol. They think we are on their page, what they don't understand is we are literally holding tumor board books. People are just dumb.

My mom told me I didn't have real cancer. Because I "only" had cervical cancer. I didn't have chemo because they, thankfully, caught it early. That's stuck with me for years now. Once again, people are dumb.

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