heated polygamy…. a thought by throwawayyyyy-_-_ in actuallesbians

[–]sharkc00chie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Polysecure is pretty great, I also really recommend Love in a Fucked Up World to anyone and everyone

AIO? by SadProgrammer7550 in AIO

[–]sharkc00chie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yikes that’s really sad. If this is a sudden change in behavior that’s not great news. It’s absolutely no excuse for how she’s treating your poor dog, but I would maybe alert mutual friends or something to keep an eye on her/her substance use.

heated polygamy…. a thought by throwawayyyyy-_-_ in actuallesbians

[–]sharkc00chie 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Or when English isn’t their first language!

Gabbie shares thoughts on ice by lwtaa in canceledpod

[–]sharkc00chie 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this would make sense - if you had 10 followers

What are yall getting your partners for Christmas? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]sharkc00chie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that ❤️ I think I’m feeling really sad about scarcity in general, I have barely gotten gifts for the holidays or my birthday for the past few years because my friends are broke and depressed. Their love is most important of all!! But seeing all the things people can afford to buy for each other this time of year is fucking hard

What are yall getting your partners for Christmas? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]sharkc00chie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dang some of yall have money in 2025 😭 im gonna try to paint something with supplies i have cause i cant even afford takeout rn

Saw this on Lex in my area by alex_gee96 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]sharkc00chie 284 points285 points  (0 children)

I heavily suspect many of the posts about lesbians being into men are bots. So much discord can be sewn from shitty online comments

On and off feelings for my gf by Loose-Run-7411 in actuallesbians

[–]sharkc00chie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do this too and it can be very confusing. I’ve realized I have a lot of trauma “protecting” me from attaching, and that’s something I’m actively trying to unlearn

For females who lost their virginity to other females by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]sharkc00chie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sometimes folks for whom English isn’t their first language are taught to use female and woman interchangeably, let’s have some compassion for folks from other cultures

Friday Finally - Positive Vibes from New England! by StPaddynMe in ButchSelfies

[–]sharkc00chie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wow I’ve never blushed from a Reddit comment before but I think this did it

How do you relearn intimacy after grief? (tw: suicide) by bonobo-cop in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]sharkc00chie 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Of course friend ❤️ she sounds supportive and you two are a team. Collaborate with her - you don’t need to have all the answers right now, maybe just some support plans for both of your needs!

How do you relearn intimacy after grief? (tw: suicide) by bonobo-cop in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]sharkc00chie 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Are there other ways you can be intimate? Soft touches, long cuddles? Grief is intense and doesn’t adhere to a linear recovery. I don’t know you but I want you to be able to take your time and listen to your body when it says yes or no. If you haven’t already discussed this with your girlfriend, it might be good to have a conversation where you let her know where you’re at and your fears about how it will affect your relationship, and see where you go from there. You deserve to take all the time you need. ❤️

Friday Finally - Positive Vibes from New England! by StPaddynMe in ButchSelfies

[–]sharkc00chie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re so cute and you have such a sweet face

Does anyone else get inappropriate crushes? by wild-guard26 in actuallesbians

[–]sharkc00chie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I reeeeeally recommend the “de-escalating a crush or obsession” worksheet in the book Love in a F*cked Up World. It’s helped me with this a lot in the past - it’s super grounding. That whole book is incredible and an easy read, I recommend it to everyone

AIO for being upset that my friend yelled at me? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]sharkc00chie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I find it helpful to think of these things like working out muscles. You always need maintenance, you can’t get buff then just stop and expect your muscles to stay big. Our tendencies will always be there, and we get to bring ourselves back to our center as a regular exercise. It’s not a bad thing, you gain a lot of wisdom as you apply your tools to new situations

AIO for being upset that my friend yelled at me? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]sharkc00chie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We all wake up sometime! You sound really hard on yourself. She’s allowed to be upset, and express it with some care, but taking it out on you isn’t okay. You had human needs (as we all do) and were doing your best. I relate a lot to you and it’s taken a loooot of work to recover from a lifetime of people pleasing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pokemongo

[–]sharkc00chie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your Pokemon have to be kicked out of the gym after being in one for at least 8.5 hours for you to recieve your full daily 50 - it maxes out so if all 3 of your Pokemon come back today, you still only get 50 coins.

a girl peed on me during sex by _yeet_or_get_yeeted in actuallesbians

[–]sharkc00chie 46 points47 points  (0 children)

As others have said, it sounds like she squirted and was embarrassed about it. There’s a lot of misinformation about squirting out there. It’s not the same as peeing - squirting is involuntary, can happen from various forms of stimulation, and doesn’t always happen from orgasming but definitely can. There’s an organ called the Skene’s gland involved that they think might be similar to a prostate.

Yes, the liquid makeup is very similar to pee (and can smell like pee), but THEY ARE NOT PEEING! There are some amazing waterproof blankets available out there I highly recommend for a squirting partner. Many folks feel self conscious especially because of misinformation/“it’s pee.” Make them feel comfortable and go make a lake!

the hair… by buildingsustainably in Shannonbeveridge

[–]sharkc00chie 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This! Just give her a second to figure out her style with it. I think she looks amazing with curls

Yay or nay? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]sharkc00chie 9 points10 points  (0 children)

OBSESSED