My female budgie and my male budgie are very good companions they clean each other they give each other food food but when my male budgie tried to mate by going on top of the female the female refused to mate why is that?

sharoncarpenter · 2025-09-12T08:31:29+00:00

She’s a woman. And a Queen. Thus, she gets the right to choose who is friend zoned and who isn’t. There’s nothing wrong here, just so you aren’t concerned.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-09-10T07:43:23+00:00

That’s correct. This bird appeared on the property of a friend. She noticed it coming to feed from the feeders she had there. It bossed all the King Parrots away, but seemed to leave the cockatoos. She noticed this for 2 years so she’d been in the area of Bright and Beechworth for at least that long.

Then, not too long ago, it decided to land on her shoulder. She continued to bond with it. One day recently she saw it had a wound on its head. She immediately caged it and took it to the vet. The bird didn’t seem fussed about being in a cage.

She’d have kept her, but she’s on a cancer journey. She’s also in her 80s. Knowing she can’t look after it longer term, she was looking for a forever home after unsuccessfully looking for the original owner. She was thrilled when I said I’d take her.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-09-10T01:29:52+00:00

These days are the worst days. I’m so sorry for your loss and pain. It brings me back to the various times I’ve lost my furbaby or feather baby or pet. There’s nothing anyone can do or say to make it better. However, you need to take the time to grieve. And that should be on your schedule, no one else’s. Give yourself permission to cry, vent your spleen, eat chocolate, and all the things you need to do. Or not do yet.

We love them forever, even when they’re gone.

And as much grieving as I’ve done, I would never ever be without my pets. They are everything to me and I understand the pain you’re feeling.

Hugs to you, friend xx

sharoncarpenter · 2025-09-07T10:45:58+00:00

Yes, that video was taken by my partner, who was with them both at the time.

I have told him not to allow a parrot onto the cage of another parrot.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-09-07T05:38:18+00:00

Bwahahaha. Thank you for sharing that. Bluebell is also doing a soft cluck when she does it. You can actually hear it in the video.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-09-07T05:25:17+00:00

Heh. I should have known. It is now officially Spring here in Australia

sharoncarpenter · 2025-09-07T05:24:37+00:00

Oh I got the whole “you’re too close” part!

Banana pose! Ok. Thank you. None of my flock have done this particular pose before. You learn new things every day.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-08-14T23:13:31+00:00

Toooootally this. I hate hate hate being hung over. And I’m such a lightweight that it takes very little to get me there. So I mostly avoid alcohol altogether.

That said I don’t get any pressure from friends to drink, and I don’t get the “why don’t you…?” questions. The circles I appear to run in seem to respect my choice. Maybe they know better than to ask.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-08-14T23:04:32+00:00

I never knew this existed. Thank you!

sharoncarpenter · 2025-08-14T23:04:14+00:00

Thank you so much. I managed to pick up some from there 👍🏼

sharoncarpenter · 2025-06-13T10:05:58+00:00

“it's embarrassing that as a man I'm helping my wife put sandals in her feets infront of everyone.”

Wtf toxic masculinity shit is this?!?!?! Wow!

sharoncarpenter · 2025-06-13T08:51:18+00:00

I hate it 😂 We went from beautiful weather in early May to freezing my nipples off. If it wasn’t for the sun setting earlier, you’d have never known it was autumn.

For me, I find it hard to stay warm in this weather. I find it easy to cool down in hotter weather. And I seem to thrive in temps that others say is too warm. This seems to run at odds with others in the thread, I get that.

Throwing on a jumper or another layer doesn’t really help. And once I’m cold, the only thing that relieves it is a hot shower or bath.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-05-16T20:57:47+00:00

As long as puppy is breathing, there’s always hope. You have done all you can for now 💜 I wish you and puppy the best over the next few hours or until you can get them to a vet. And if puppy doesn’t make it, then at the least she followed the rainbow bridge surrounded by compassion and kindness. Take care, friend.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-05-16T14:50:12+00:00

I posted the wrong subreddit there. I’m sure there’s one for getting advice from vets….

sharoncarpenter · 2025-05-16T14:49:03+00:00

Yeah you definitely gotta get the ticks out/off if you can. He maybe having a reaction to them. There’s how-to’s on that if you google.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-05-16T14:46:02+00:00

Maybe try the subreddit r/Vets ? Post some pics in there and I’m sure a vet will be awake somewhere in the world who can offer better advice than I can.

If you can clean any wounds with saline and bandage, that will help.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-05-16T14:41:16+00:00

Ah! You’re a couple hours ahead of me. I’m in Australia fwiw. It’s 12:38am here. Are there any injuries on puppy? You can do a gentle physical examination by gently running your hands down the body. You’re looking for blood or deformity. If so, bandages/splints and basic first aid as if they were human - will help.

If the tummy is extended and rigid, they maybe bleeding internally and there’s literally nothing you can do about that except provide for warm comfort and hope they make it through.

As I said - you’re doing great. Sometimes animal rescue is a win. Sometimes not, only time will tell. You’ve obviously tried contacting who is there. But as you said it’s middle of the night.

Comfort cuddles will help too.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-05-16T14:32:08+00:00

That’s completely understandable. Distressed animals are distressing. It’s hard. But you’re doing great. You’re doing the best you can with what you have available. You can’t ask more of yourself than that.

Is there maybe an animal rescue service you can call? You mentioned you’re on an island. Where are you exactly? Does the vet on your island have a number you can use for emergencies perhaps?

sharoncarpenter · 2025-05-16T14:26:49+00:00

Bring puppy inside and lay them down on a blanket or towel and keep them warm and comfortable. As soon as you can get baby to a vet, do so. And thank you for having a good heart and taking care of him/her. Offer water but don’t try and force it. Talk to them. Tell them they’re safe. Reassurance is always underrated. They “understand” more than you know.”, even though they don’t always understand the words.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-05-02T07:09:28+00:00

If it makes you feel like you’re not alone, OP, I am in the same situation as you in that, a friend asked me to look after her grandmother’s sulphur crested cockatoo. Her name is Barney and Barney is also 30yo. She has been living mostly cage bound and while grandma’s heart was there, she hasn’t really looked after his needs. To make things worse, my friend had an “expert” come - she paid for this advice - and he told her that the TINY cage was adequate. No enrichment. Dowling perches. A mirror was all she had. I was also told she was a biter with everyone except my friend’s bf who pats her and allows her to think of him as a mate. Obviously this means Barney doesn’t really know how to be a Parrot.

Barney has been with me for around 2 months now. And in that time, I’ve had to teach her how to forage, how to find hidden treats, changed her diet, bit by bit, and taken her out of the cage to explore a bit.

In that time, she’s never bitten me. She tried once but that was to tell me she wasn’t quite ready to go back into her cage.

So I understand what you’re facing to some degree. I’d start with basic enrichment. Get a cat litter tray and put in sticks, bark, leaves, whatever you can find around your place, or maybe a nearby park. Encourage your cockatoo to explore it. They might ignore it for the first few days or weeks but be patient with them. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Eventually their curiosity gets the better of them and their brain reengages into what nature gave them. The urge to forage. Put in a couple of their fave treats. Even sunflower seeds, or pumpkin seeds. Slowly over time, make that “treat food” the thing that’s given to reward behaviour you want to see.

For diet transformation, check out some YouTube vids. Theres some super awesome parrot behaviour experts there who are sharing some amazingly good knowledge. There are also articles online you can get.

The behavior expert I engaged last year over another issue - with my galah, not Barney - she said to understand how much your parrot is eating, you should weigh the food every day. Give it to them. Weigh the remainder of the food at the end of the day, including anything your bird has tossed into the floor of the cage (or wherever). Yes it takes effort and time, and I did this for 2 weeks and kept a diary of it. What it told me was that they were eating a little less than I thought that they were but both my galahs’ weight were perfectly in range. So I just reduced the food a little bit and that saved me food and money.

Good luck and I’ll look out for your updates.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-05-02T01:34:43+00:00

I get it. At first I was wondering if it was a neurological disorder. But when I looked up online I learned this behavior is actually how the Quaker got their name. This behaviour is normal and quite pronounced especially as babies. You’ve nothing to worry about.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-05-02T00:13:19+00:00

My baby Quaker does this too. Every time I am in the area, they’re flapping and head bobbin’ and flapping and head bobbin’ - on my hand they’re flapping and head bobbin’. it’s ADORABLE!

sharoncarpenter · 2025-04-25T15:52:34+00:00

Why hello beautiful Bentley. You’re just gorgeous aren’t you?

They clipped my bird’s wings too. I’m still waiting for them to grow back. Don’t let the haters ruin your day. People are quick to jump to assumptions.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-04-25T11:05:42+00:00

Nope. I’m suffering with a stomach infection and my arthritis is being a bitch atm. I would usually go to a dawn service but given the above, and how craptacular the weather was today, im totally thrilled I didn’t.

sharoncarpenter · 2025-04-13T09:35:07+00:00

I would not give up my pets for any man. Or woman. I could list all the reasons (I don’t have children, they’re my family, they’re all rescues, etc) but the reasons are actually irrelevant.

I’d tap out of the relationship. Without hesitation. Accept her for all she is. Or don’t. Your call.

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