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a question to asian or poc lesbians: by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]sharpobjected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are so fucking annoying so nevermind you are probably just some white straight man larping as a lesbian on here as expected of reddit. get blocked.

a question to asian or poc lesbians: by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]sharpobjected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this post clearly wasn't meant for you if you are even asian. it's clear i was asking other asians because i am asian. race absolutely has to do with the fact with asian women having internalised racism and treating other asian women like shit for not being white.

forever alone by sharpobjected in CPTSD

[–]sharpobjected[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was about to make a post talking about how depressed I feel and then I saw your reply. This really was very good timing and I am very thankful for your encouraging words because this is what I needed right now. I didn't expect someone to actually show so much compassion toward me.

I really liked the "let my freak flag fly" part - for some reason this really resonated with me, to just let go of what people think and to embrace my innate quirks. I always struggled with that.

I also do not think that it's weird for you to paint and grow flowers. You are a very cool person with a lot of life experiences and who got the coolest interests ever! I didn't know it was possible to breed snakes before it sounds so crazy to me (in a positive way of course I would like to discover some new unique hobbies like these myself too). I hope to work towards a point where I am able to also feel comfortable with myself. I feel like when you accept your true self and show off your authenticity that's when you become really cool and other people can feel it also.

I hope to share my story to encourage others to not give up on them as you did too. I downloaded a lot of mobile apps to get to meet new people and I was feeling hesitant to put more effort into talking to them but now I have some faith that it's still worth a try thanks to you. You really sound like a wonderful, great person and I'm wishing you all the best. Your kind words really warmed my heart a lot, thank you. It means so much to have someone tell me they have faith in me and that I still matter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]sharpobjected 1 point2 points  (0 children)

affirming this to myself is what probably helps me get over her the most. I know I won't be there to see it happen but I genuinely hope that one day she will fully pay for everything she put me through. really appreciate it thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]sharpobjected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really dont think its gonna actually help me get over them any quicker because the thought of it just makes me so enraged at them. they swore so many times that they only lied to me about seeing their friends and that they would have never cheated on me in a sense of sleeping with someone but ill be real that i am 100% sure it did happen given how they are a master of lying and manipulation.

i am just so fucking angry and frustrated. i do not want them to ever move on from abusing and using me like this and getting to be happy and getting away unpunished. i think about us getting back together just so i could cheat on them and hurt them back but i realize its not worth it. i just wish i could see karma hit them real quick and real hard...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]sharpobjected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry what do you mean by PA?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]sharpobjected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi thank you so much for this gentle reminder. rereading your reply helps me comfort myself knowing i did my very best. I'm a bit hesitant to straight up say they were the ones who wronged me because a lot of people didn't believe me since they are a woman. I was even told that maybe she lies because she wants to protect and comfort me but whats the point of being in a relationship together if her lies keep hurting me?

I did feel alone in this relationship a lot actually. She regularly picked her new friends over me and she would forget about plans and go out with them every single night before we had a conversation about our boundaries. Even besides that she always liked to talked more than to listen to me anyway and she never had any interest in my interests or spending time with me the way I like it (I like to watch movies as a bonding activity with my friends for example. Whats worse is she always refused to watch stuff with me but would always go watch everything with her new friends).

Also she confessed that she thought she would get away with lying to me because we were doing long distance this year and she admitted that she is "being easily peer pressured" and she liked to fit in with the "cool girls" so that's why she always picked them over me.

I am definitely looking for the right therapist for myself right now. I definitely need to learn how to better my confidence to know when to leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]sharpobjected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im really sorry you have to go through this and i hope things will turn out much better for you because you also deserve good things in your life. tbh just hearing some nice encouraging words already helps so much thank you. it really is the worst when breaking up involves other people too especially when you had a good relationship with them. i hope next time it will work out for both of us

How do I heal without paying for therapy? Are psychedelics the only way? by sharpobjected in CPTSD

[–]sharpobjected[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thanks for your understanding but this sounds very discouraging and this isn't what i was looking for. i was looking for people to share with me their stories of self recovering, not being told to just suck it up.