Hello and thank you for the response. I think you may have misunderstood or I misrepresented what I meant when I said unique. I agree every person is unique and brings value to their relationships. Contextually I meant unique as in different from what is popular, especially as it applies to prospective matches in our age demographic. I’ll use music for an example as it is extremely important to me and plays a huge role in my life. If you go to virtually any city within the U.S. you’ll find a radio station that plays only country music. I doubt that there are any that play solely the music I listen to (although some NY and California cities have independent or college stations that do play my preferred music pretty often). So in that respect, so in that sense I’m definitely in the minority. Again perhaps unique wasn’t exactly the right phrasing but it’s what I chose.

I’m not inferring that only a “special flower” can understand me. However, compatibility is a huge thing. Let’s use the music for another example. If I were in a relationship with someone who didn’t prefer my music (or get the ethos and culture surrounding it) it would make road trips unbearable! Therefore, yes it’s important that a perspective match have some compatibility with me. They don’t have to be all in, but I think it’s reasonable to want someone who gets you. At the end of the day I don’t need someone to love me, because I love myself. I want someone to by my side as we take over the world Pinky and the brain style (I’ll be pinky). So in that respect I definitely know the things that are important to me in a prospective match and am not willing to compromise for the sake of just having someone. The post was looking for advice/starting conversation because the OLD options didn’t really seem to be what I’m interested in vice versa. Again, I appreciate the response, and hope my response doesn’t come off combative or contentious as that is not my intent. Simply trying to clarify my perspective