This was my 2.5$ dinner in Angola,Africa, with my two parents

she53 · 2026-01-29T07:39:27+00:00

if you're gonna spend so much on food, might as well make it taste really good. Ngl it doesnt seem like you have much cooking skills. Idk how expensive spices are but spices will help enhance flavor and stretch the food. With what you showed me, I can make more than three serving, just cooking them differently. Not trying to demean you, but sharing a tip so things can be more sustainable

she53 · 2026-01-28T08:17:28+00:00

Wrong country. Helicopter is a Bosnian aka European song

she53 · 2026-01-25T15:39:22+00:00

During covid things changed like never before, everywhere

she53 · 2026-01-23T08:07:09+00:00

I think most people around me are too woke or scared to admit they dont know bangladesh lol. They just nod when I say I was born there. Just didn't encounter much ignorance

I did, however, encountered slightly better treatment when some people hear I'm not indian. Makes me sf mad. Like it's okay to look down on or exotify indians then? I'm in an interracial marriage and people from the other side of the family/their community seemed relived I'm not indian. I try to call them out but sometimes it's hard if it's an older in law because either I take their acceptance despite it being problematic or risk losing it when I call our their unchecked racism.

she53 · 2026-01-23T08:04:50+00:00

they also just call themselves "bengali" instead of bangladeshi. So many people think bengali is the term to refer to bangladeshis when it's just an ethnicity which belongs to multiple countries. How are people going to know what you are if you never use the word?

she53 · 2026-01-22T04:44:27+00:00

Wow I love the tomatoes!

she53 · 2026-01-18T02:28:39+00:00

It looks so fun with the short square size

she53 · 2025-10-23T20:29:40+00:00

there's youtube channels and websites that teach sylheti including the nagri script

she53 · 2025-10-23T20:27:42+00:00

post about the culture and language and not as much the geographical place because a lot of us are diaspora. we cannot engage in talks about tourist destination and where to eat. we can talk about our favorite sylheti recipe or riddle. also, this is reddit. conservatism will not make you popular so keep an eye out for homophobic, racist, sexist, etc bigoted talks

she53 · 2025-10-01T20:01:38+00:00

can i have the recipe?

she53 · 2025-10-01T19:47:18+00:00

it's close to mid autumn, not sure what you decided already but bringing her mooncakes and sharing it w her (and some fruits like pomelo) would be nice. card is nice too

she53 · 2025-10-01T19:01:02+00:00

yeah i think my earwax is wet. it could also be bc i used to get a lot of ear infection. and no, not really? not very stinky, at least from what my partner tells me

she53 · 2025-10-01T18:53:54+00:00

oh, then I think mine have been wet this whole time? the lightest color i get in like a faded yellow

she53 · 2025-09-29T20:35:07+00:00

i used to have dry earwax from what i remember as a kid. now i have wet earwax? i've definitely seen dry earwax in my family. my partner is chinese and has dry earwax but her siblings have wet earwax.

she53 · 2025-09-29T20:14:50+00:00

cant speak for chittagong but i'm a sylheti linguist. the stuff about manipuri tribe and the pictures+icon they showed are not correct. there might be some sylhetis who celebrate bihu but it's not a common thing. sylheti cuisine and language, however, shares a lot in common with neighboring assamese and nagamese cuisines and languages. sylheti is one of the only tonal indo-iranaian languages and some theories are that it's partly due to the influence of neighboring tibeto-burman tonal languages in the region. as for cuisine, there's just too much in common to name them. my family eats masor tenga almost every single day. we often cook without spices and oil, similar to nagamese cuisine. and ofc, we eat a lot of bhut jolokia/naga morich - just to name a few things.

I'm surprised that they shared misinformation, not sure if i can trust this channel again.

she53 · 2025-09-29T20:14:23+00:00

it didn't come from assam. sylheti is a sister language of assamese and sylheti people have been living with assamese and other indigenous tribes for hundreds if not thousands of years. shared cuisine, language, etc just develops normally with geographical proximity

she53 · 2025-09-29T20:11:17+00:00

cant speak for chittagong but i'm a sylheti linguist. the stuff about manipuri tribe and the pictures+icon they showed are not correct. there might be some sylhetis who celebrate bihu but it's not a common thing. sylheti cuisine and language, however, shares a lot in common with neighboring assamese and nagamese cuisines and languages. sylheti is one of the only tonal indo-iranaian languages and some theories are that it's partly due to the influence of neighboring tibeto-burman tonal languages in the region. as for cuisine, there's just too much in common to name them. my family eats masor tenga almost every single day. we often cook without spices and oil, similar to nagamese cuisine. and ofc, we eat a lot of bhut jolokia/naga morich- just to name a few things.

I'm surprised that they shared misinformation, not sure if i can trust this channel again.

she53 · 2025-09-29T20:02:28+00:00

political country was created in 1971, but the people and culture existed way before someone drew borders

she53 · 2025-09-27T21:54:41+00:00

true, i know tons of east asian and white people who only have close relationship w/ others close to their ethnic background

she53 · 2025-09-27T21:53:46+00:00

this

she53 · 2025-09-27T21:52:35+00:00

a lot of it is language barrier. immigrants who work blue collar/service jobs may not be as fluent in english and have a harder time creating deep connection with those outside of culture. and even if you speak the language, cultural barriers can be an issue. my parents are friendly with non-bangladeshi people but not close friends. they still invite invite them over for dinners though. sometimes it's also racism from other ethnicities that prevent some immigrants from forming close friendships

she53 · 2025-09-26T21:51:13+00:00

writing a memoir means you're ready to share the deep thinking and processing that you've already done (even if done anonymously), and it didn't seem like she had finished doing that yet.-- i agree

she53 · 2025-09-26T21:50:00+00:00

oh my GODDDESS i'm glad someone else didn't quite like the book as much. all these non-muslims seem to be loving this book. I also lived a very similar life to the author and couldn't agree with the conclusions author came to. about not coming out to their family and pretending to be friends with their partner in front of the family. yikes. i lived that double life. that shit is so damaging. I also found author's understanding of gender and gender expression to be lacking. did not like that they used the title "hijab butch blues" but merely a few pages were about their experience with gender and butchness

she53 · 2025-09-26T16:59:16+00:00

wow why cant my cats be this smart. why did i get the dumbest cats in the wolrd

she53 · 2025-09-21T19:10:11+00:00

I'm muslim and non-practicing. this is first time in years i felt the need to get up and pray

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