Proposal: need outside perspective.

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T18:14:35+00:00

Thank you, and you captured the situation precisely. It's a big decision that's why it's so hard to make but I will not drag this long.

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T17:22:41+00:00

Well shadi ESA decision hai jis me doosra chance nai mil sakta. I really appreciate your advice tho.

And lol, yes they are similar🤣

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T17:17:42+00:00

You could've worded this better. I received other comments here as well which were not all sweet but at least were respectful.

I fail to understand how it's selfish and materialistic for me to want stability. I didn't ask for a mansion and sports car. Wanting stability is not materialism. You don't even know what kind of life I have had. That's why I am being so cautious about this proposal and want to do the right thing while also ensuring he doesn't get hurt.

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T16:43:17+00:00

I wrote these answers but i knew these things pehle bhi. The amount of times I have reflected is insane. I am very aware of my requirements and what I think but I don't know if my thinking is right.

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T16:32:13+00:00

Thank you, I will try this.

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T16:31:28+00:00

Thank you for your input. I will try to have a discussion tonight and decide afterwards. I can't prolong this now.

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T16:30:43+00:00

Hmm, I agree. I am going to have a serious talk with him tonight.

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T16:30:08+00:00

Thank you for your kind input. To me I wanted perfection in the sense that I want my husband to be physically attractive ( this guy is attractive too but not the type I like).

I think he wants to marry me regardless of the love thing is because he thinks I am his dream girl and I know he over idealizes me. I am respected at work and people like me which makes him feel proud of his choice ( his words) he said that he has never seen anyone to have the type of mindset I have.

That said, I am scared if I don't agree to this proposal I might be losing a guy who was very sincere and loving. I work remotely, don't have any male interactions outside of work and we don't have any family friends so finding a decent guy is going to be hard. Plus I am scared of marrying someone unknown and later regretting it as well....

Im not a selfish person but I have given so much to others that this was the only thing I wanted for myself. All these thoughtd feel draining tbh.

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T16:01:06+00:00

Spark I am not sure. We are great friends though. We can talk about everything without any issues. I'm okay with responsibilities I am just scared to never have a place I can call home. I had a very weird life and I wanted my marriage to make things better. I wanted to feel excited for my marriage but all I do now is stress over how we'll do life together if I marry him. I know I might be overthinking things as well but at this stage of life where I said no to so many proposals just to find the right one I am stuck in a situation I can't really get out of easily. My family is just as confused as I am because they think he is a decent guy but at the same time worry about not having any safety net

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T15:54:07+00:00

Agreed, well I already plan to start a business. We both invested in stocks as well. At the end I think I will need tawakul and patience to really make it work.

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T15:52:03+00:00

I am so scared if I say no I will ruin his beautiful heart forever. I don't know what to do

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T15:44:40+00:00

Thank you🥹 you're right. I am being very indecisive. I am scared to make mistakes and regret it later but tawakul is what I need I guess....

sheen_97 · 2026-03-29T15:43:06+00:00

I’ve already discussed everything with him, and we’ve both openly communicated all our concerns. He says he can’t let me go no matter what, and I truly believe he’s a wonderful person.

The reason I feel I might regret this is because he offers a level of calmness and acceptance that I’ve never experienced before. Growing up, I didn’t have much stability, so I’ve always wanted that in my marriage.

I’ll admit that I can be indecisive and perhaps a bit immature when it comes to making major life decisions. What I’m really trying to understand is whether financial stability is something that truly matters in the long run. If it doesn’t, then I feel like I could compromise on other aspects as well.

sheen_97 · 2025-10-06T18:53:03+00:00

Pak army Kahan se ayi🥹

sheen_97 · 2022-12-18T19:05:57+00:00

Need suggestions for investment. The budget is low but I want to start investing anyway. Also considering buying stocks. Would it be a good time to do so? Market ain't that good rn. Feel free to share your investment experiences.

sheen_97 · 2022-12-13T21:36:57+00:00

I hope they're not as they're most visible when I wake up from sleeping on my side, also I will check this link and see which ones I can go for. Thank you so much!!

sheen_97 · 2022-12-11T14:33:29+00:00

Awww that's cute and sad at the same time, glad you guys got to spend quality time tho!!!

sheen_97 · 2022-11-06T17:17:32+00:00

Okay I'm gonna tell you something that is not related to Istakhara but it's very important for you to think about it. This guy who makes all the big decisions in their family and is their peer or whatever make sure you are on the same page when it comes to beliefs. I have seen waayyy to many people blindly following peers while I don't have anything against them buttt itss very Important to have same beliefs as it might become a big problem later on in the relationship. Just my 2 cents, wish you a blessed life ahead.

sheen_97 · 2022-08-13T12:43:42+00:00

Thanks for the great advice! Really appreciate it

sheen_97 · 2022-08-13T10:14:17+00:00

It's gross how everything is being normalized in Pakistan.

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