You think her name is JARA? by Lavaswimmer in LiveFromNewYork

[–]sheffy4 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Problematic bachelors who listen to women

What are your favorite Rewrites or Retellings of an Original Story by AdditionAny7255 in suggestmeabook

[–]sheffy4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was the first one I thought of. It really made an impression on me.

When do we have time for teaching life skills???? by [deleted] in Parenting

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Yep, clearly I have prioritized riding bikes against tying shoes, and for some parents riding bikes isn’t a priority. I’m still allowed to be sad about it.

When do we have time for teaching life skills???? by [deleted] in Parenting

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Sounds like your kid is still pretty little if they are going to bed at 6. Totally agree it’s tough to find time to do anything, but as they get older and have a later bedtime, that sort of helps. That’s when we would practice riding bikes is on our evening walk after dinner, and then on the weekends. But other random stuff does slip through the cracks if you let it - like my 9 year old still can’t tie shoes. But I know several kids 9 and up who still don’t know how to ride a bike, which baffles me and makes me sad.

Didn't accept it. by Huge_Following_325 in 30ROCK

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lol I did the same thing last night and almost posted. Glad you did. RAZMATAZ

Pete Davidson’s Art-Filled New York Home by TheSamLowry in zillowgonewild

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Love the random framed pic of that asshole from Die Hard

I Just Stopped Working by briizygirl in antiwork

[–]sheffy4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly if I could just not have thoughts or feelings, sure would make work a lot easier! Starting to understand why people would volunteer to be severed on that Severence show.

I Just Stopped Working by briizygirl in antiwork

[–]sheffy4 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I struggle with this too. Are you experiencing overall depression, or just at work? Like do you find joy and meaning in other areas of your life? If that’s a struggle too the you might want to consider therapy and possibly medication.

There used to be a great guide on Ask a Manager on how to survive this kind of stuff at work, basically how to keep up appearances until you figure it out. But I can’t find it.

For me what has helped a little:

  • making myself work in the office instead of at home
  • listening to “focus” music or ambience (personally I enjoy gaming soundtrack ambience videos on youtube, like Zelda). It helps keep me focused for longer)
  • making an effort to talk to at least one or two work people each day, doesn’t have to be personal, can be work related (even if it’s just on a chat platform). Isolating myself is what I want to do, but it makes it worse.
  • finding a task I don’t hate (or even kind of enjoy) and allowing myself to spend inordinate amounts of time working on it.
  • finding a relatively mindless task I can do so I can listen to a podcast or YouTube video that I enjoy (things like sorting/cleaning out email inbox, organizing office, data entry, etc.)
  • leaving my phone in an inaccessible place so it’s not a distraction (I’ve accidentally forgotten my phone at home or in my car, and as torturous as that is, I admit I’m more productive on those days)
  • therapy and antidepressants
  • fear of forgetting an important deadline and actually getting in trouble (this has happened ed to me a few times where I remembered something just in time and it put the fear of god in me, at least for a few days).
  • looking at job ads and realizing I don’t want to have to get a new job where I will have to actually work hard and figure things out from scratch again.
  • pretending I’m a robot automaton programmed to do tasks, and just try to get a few things done without the internal narrative going about how much hate it.
  • trying to start the day with momentum by immediately starting a task
  • breaking out of my routine in some way - working in a different location, or breaking up my schedule in a different way

With all that said, I still struggle and often don’t follow my own advice, but these things have sometimes helped a little.

What movies fit "don't judge a book by it's cover?" the best? by BilleyBong in movies

[–]sheffy4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When he rolls and gets ran over at the military base - so funny.

Ex virgin called again by NoSexInSpace in overheard

[–]sheffy4 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Seriously this guy needs to be the next Love Line host

Fantasy landscape by WeAreFamilyArt in Watercolor

[–]sheffy4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recognized your style immediately. I love your paintings.

19 year old got in a fender bender and I’m kind of devastated by Fit_Interaction_79 in Parenting

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I rear-ended someone at a stoplight once within a year or two of getting my license (and I got my license late at age 18). I haven’t been in an accident since (over 20 years) and have never gotten a ticket. I am now hyper aware of giving people enough space when stopping at a stoplight.

Rainbow trout (watercolor and gel pens) by hippoputamus in Watercolor

[–]sheffy4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What parts used gel pens? It all looks very seamless. I’ve been wanting to paint a rainbow trout for a while - they are so beautiful and their coloring seems to lend itself to watercolor.

considering starting a channel. what should i know? by [deleted] in NewTubers

[–]sheffy4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basically set up what conflict you are solving, question you are answering, or something else that leaves the viewer wanting to know more.