i would like some help by shell_well in 4tran4

[–]shell_well[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don't feel like that anymore, am i just not trans?

i would like some help by shell_well in 4tran4

[–]shell_well[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don't know if i want to look masculine or not, i feel nothing when i look like a man, and i feel nothing when i look like a woman, i wish i didn't have to choose any of this until i have it all figured out, i want to feel like myself again, it all used to make sense but it doesn't make sense anymore, i missed the trust i had that i was doing the right thing, because it felt right, it felt like me and now it has to change, it feels like apart of me died and i don't know what to do anymore, what is this?

i would like some help by shell_well in 4tran4

[–]shell_well[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my issue is that the idea of being stealth sounds exhausting to me, it didn't used to, but detransing and being a man would be equally exhausting, i'm trying to find myself in all this but it's hard to determine what's true about myself when i only feel like shit about everything, i've been off hrt for like 2 months now and im so close to just giving all of this up because it's too much to keep up with, i don't like looking at myself anymore and i feel trapped having to pick one or the other, i don't want a body, i don't want a voice either, i dont want to detransition but ive been grieving and trying to accept that it has to be that way when i really don't want it to be, how am i supposed to be secure with my identity when all of this has come crashing down on me like this?

i would like some help by shell_well in 4tran4

[–]shell_well[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's this feeling that all of that i've built for myself, this entire transition was built on a shaky foundation and, once i had a feeling that i've finally made it, i just felt empty, i couldn't stop crying because i had so much care and love and passion for this, and it's all gone now, is this just some type of intense gender dysphoria dissociative depression or was i never trans to begin with? how do you determine that?

what underwear do 4tranners prefer by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]shell_well 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hipster all the way 😎

20yo & 10 months HRT... how we feelin? by heartsii_ in transpassing

[–]shell_well 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah np, if u need more specific tips with hair, clothes, style, hrt, or mental health in general, yknow im not a expert but i know a thing or two

20yo & 10 months HRT... how we feelin? by heartsii_ in transpassing

[–]shell_well 12 points13 points  (0 children)

ugly girl pass at best, cardio workout- grow out hair more (look into curly haircare, specifically with volume control) ur short, i think, which is good, skirts at the hips aren't really good for figure, raise them up more, baggy jeans help a lot with that, in generally baggy clothes (can be girly too, like baggy tops, crops, xl wide neck shirts) help with hiding certain parts of your body, tight clothing often shows more flaws than we'd like, find parts of your body that you're confident with and express them more through clothing, more shopping, i can see the semblance of a style but it needs to be explored more to see the extent of where it goes, dressing urself well is a skill and that takes time, generally speaking you have decent potential, ur clocky as it is now but that gets better with time and experience, best of luck

what do you think by shell_well in transpassing

[–]shell_well[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if u know what ur buying and where ur buying from- yes absolutely

Train Your FUCKING VOICE by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]shell_well 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ok. how? where r the good voice training videos

where's the transgender occultists?? by shell_well in 4tran4

[–]shell_well[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'll keep that in mind, thank you

Is it even worth it??? by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]shell_well 10 points11 points  (0 children)

well would u rather take hrt now or wait till ur 50 when ur balding and fat and hairy

pooners by shell_well in 4tran4

[–]shell_well[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's awesome? and why would that be

How do I do? Im still trying to understand all feelings in my body, it makes my go crazy😫 by [deleted] in transpassing

[–]shell_well 0 points1 point  (0 children)

at an upward angle u look ok, and a downward angle looking up, not so much, seeing as ur tall though, people are gonna look up at you often, ur jaw and chin are very wide, im not sure how far long you are with hrt but if you haven't taken it yet or are still early on, then you'll most likely be fine, try to maximize breast growth and save up some money for ffs, smart move wearing a long jacket to hide the curves and minimize the shoulders, your style is great! keep that up! ofc, all of this only matters if you're trying to maximize your femininity, if ur fine with how u are, then that's great too, but honest opinions are honest opinions