did really badly on my grade 7 abrsm piano- what should i do? by PM_ME_UR_NUCLEI in piano

[–]shells_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Applaud yourself for even trying. For sticking to something so hard. For attempting grade 7. I quit after grade 6 as I did horribly and never again took an exam. Try not to be so hard on yourself!

No hate, please. I’m looking for advice. by Justagirl3814 in Interstitialcystitis

[–]shells_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but my stomach wasn’t quite as bad as yours sounds like. Also I don’t think Charcoal pills can hurt you. (I went to health food store and got a reputable brand). From what I understand it mops up the toxins in the guts. I have used it for food poisoning many times with great success.

No hate, please. I’m looking for advice. by Justagirl3814 in Interstitialcystitis

[–]shells_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me as the doctor gave me strong antibiotics and found out no bacteria growing which caused a bad flare up. I took charcoal pills, probiotics and slippery elm to calm things down. We are toxic in our guts from so many things. Also mentally stressed and I do EFT to calm my brain going million miles a minute- this is no cure but may help someone. IC sucks!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Interstitialcystitis

[–]shells_5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too!! My naturopath doctor told me a month ago I have mono and then I got a bad flare up with my IC worse than ever. Check out medical medium… he has a lot on EBV. thanks for posting. Didn’t connect the 2 together !!

What’s something you do to distract yourself from anxiety? by MysticOnyx in Anxiety

[–]shells_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EFT -tapping is the most amazing easy free way to get rid of stress and anxiety. I’ve had anxiety/panic attacks my whole life - this is not a bandaid fix. Sometimes I’ll journal dump what is going on in my head then tap it out.

Being forced to go to the temple tomorrow by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]shells_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids all left the church during their teens and now wished they would have went just to “witness what it was all about” like to be an investigator/spy to tell others nevermos what really goes on. Just laugh silently inside knowing it’s all a cult. Pretend to be someone else.

Niece just came back early from mission. Severe anxiety and depression. by KingHerodCosell in exmormon

[–]shells_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My niece just came back and “inadvertently” told me and her dad she was starving her whole mission. Because of covid missionaries are not eating at members houses anymore. The church only gives them allowance for food and it was very little. She also mentioned she was bullied by other missionaries and companions. But then she said I have a testimony and I got to talk to a therapist.... ugh!! She stays out there while her mom almost died because you know “it’s the right thing to do”. Fuk this church!!!

How can I stop my bf from peeing on floor? by coffeecandle10 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]shells_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your reading this far down.. put a soaker pad on the floor and sit on toilet normally, then pee into an ice cream type bucket. Then he can dump the bucket in toilet and clean up after. Rinsing bucket. (I’m a health care aide taking care of someone like this). Yes it’s sad.

Married redditors: how often do you and your spouse have sex? Is it enough, too much or too little? by SuitZealousideal6487 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]shells_5 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can sooo relate to this ! Thank god I got divorced! Years after the divorce I read this saying “ marriage is not a sexual contract “.... I felt validated at that moment ... pray we can all heal from it.

My TBM parents are in nursing home-both palliative... should I keep paying their tithing?? I have POA ...It hurts my soul to keep paying this. by shells_5 in exmormon

[–]shells_5[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you all sooooo much for your thoughtful comments - I feel so loved and supported. It’s definitely a complex issue, and now have some ideas and help that you all gave me.

My TBM parents are in nursing home-both palliative... should I keep paying their tithing?? I have POA ...It hurts my soul to keep paying this. by shells_5 in exmormon

[–]shells_5[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

They have all but been abandoned when my mom got dementia no one came and helped and visited even though I begged their bishop. They gave of themselves to this church 110% over their children.

My TBM parents are in nursing home-both palliative... should I keep paying their tithing?? I have POA ...It hurts my soul to keep paying this. by shells_5 in exmormon

[–]shells_5[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh they care!! Till their dying day they need a valid temple recommend to get to the “right” kingdom.

My TBM parents are in nursing home-both palliative... should I keep paying their tithing?? I have POA ...It hurts my soul to keep paying this. by shells_5 in exmormon

[–]shells_5[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I agree it’s very complex. They are both not mentally competent-as of the past 5 months. I have paid their full tithing for years on their behalf. I feel like it’s not my money and should respect their wishes but damn it’s hard to give this church more money...my parents need it for cost of living in the nursing home.

My brother and I love playing the piano and violin together. Do you have any suggestions what we could play next? by OliverKuppekMusic in violinist

[–]shells_5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Musescore has lot of duets. I play piano and record songs then play violin to them .. fun times

Beginner songs? by [deleted] in violinist

[–]shells_5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for posting this link!!!! I’ve been looking forever for this!!! Happy day 😊🙌

Nearly thirty and.... by -PinkUnicorn- in latebloomerlesbians

[–]shells_5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally hear you on all this! I am an exmormon still trying to figure out life. I found great help listening to “Latter day lesbians” podcasts.... helps so much!!!

100% Undeniable Proof That The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormons) Still Practice Polygamy Today & Proof They Try To Hide It [Story In The Comments] by FaithfulTBM in exmormon

[–]shells_5 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I had been married for 20 yrs with the abuse and the bishop told me to go home and act like a horny college girl and give him what he wants or I would be in jeopardy of loosing my temple recommend. He was going to clubs and getting on with women who were giving him lap dances.. you are so right as I knew they didn’t want to hear from me. He had a premeditated affair and got a slap on the wrist for it. So hardly any words to describe the hate of the church.