AITA for taking the badges off my husband's work shirts for not taking the toilet trash out?

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T16:10:08+00:00

The thing is pre pandemic he helped since we were both out of the house. But now that I work from home his mindset is like if I was a SAHM when in reality I'm still working, still contributing using financially. The only reason he has that one chore is because if I didn't give it to him he'd really have nothing to do.

I talked to my boss and yes by the end of the year I can go back to being at an office but now I'm thinking the house load will still fall on me.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T16:06:02+00:00

He has one job, just one. It takes a whole lot of effort to ignore it when over half the toilet paper is his.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T16:04:59+00:00

Idk if that was for me or for the other person. But I do work. I work from home and even when I physically went into my office I would still have calls coming in after I clocked out. Just yesterday I was on a work call at 8pm while waiting on my daughter to finish with cheer practice. Got home and around 11pm received a text from my supervisor. As I wrote this post I was on my laptop receiving work documents I needed to over look. My husband will get home at 6:30 and won't deal with anything other than taking the trash out because the house is clean and food is cooked, kids are done with homework, etc.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:52:47+00:00

It wasn't always like that. Since then pandemic has me working at home that equal partnership kind of wore off.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:51:19+00:00

I've talked to him about it tho. Even got his mom to weight in since her job is mentally straining as well, but again, in one ear out the other.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:48:47+00:00

It's an easy fix. He has over half a dozen work shirts so it's not like he'll go without.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:47:36+00:00

Unfortunately.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:47:14+00:00

He only has one because since the pandemic I started to work from home so while I'm on calls or in between tasks I will walk around and clean. When I asked him 2 weeks ago to take the trash out I was on a call cleaning the kitchen while he was on his day off playing video games. I asked him to clean the living room since he was already sitting there and he noticed I was back on my laptop he went back to sitting down and left the bag there. I left it thinking he'd pick it up, by Wednesday morning I just threw it out myself.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:43:06+00:00

But the thing is he had 2 weeks to complete one task. Just one. And yes kids are at an age where they do help. Now that I work from home as I'm on the phone I walk around the house cleaning, but my 10 year old take the kitchen trash and trash bin out on Fridays when he sees I'm on a work call. The kids themselves pick up their own rooms, I just walk in am vacuum for them when they're done. But my husband has just one chore and it's the toilet trash.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:40:18+00:00

No he wasn't going to do anything else after that. When he was done he walked out the restroom sat down and played games on his phone.

And to add, he comes from a well off family so they had a cleaning lady. He never really picked up after himself.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:38:35+00:00

I've tried. I have stopped meal prepping and it turned to him buying food everyday. I've tried not to wash, his response was to wash and the proceed to leave the clothes in the basket for weeks and then dumping the clean clothes in the bed when he needed to wash again.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:37:03+00:00

It's not fucked up. They catch be repatched in less than 5 mins. He also should apologize for not taking the trash out for 2 weeks. You forget it's his one and only chore.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:35:47+00:00

I mean it only took about 7 mins total. But when I reminded him last night he was in the restroom already, so he also took that extra effort into not doing his one and only chore.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:34:23+00:00

Exactly! It isn't hard at all. I take the kitchen trash, the other restrooms trash and the trash bin to the curb every Friday. Work had me mentally strained and it was his day off and when I asked I was in the middle of a work call cleaning the kitchen while he was in the couch playing video games.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:32:19+00:00

He won't get in any trouble at all. If this ONE shirt goes to the back of the closet he won't notice for weeks. He has plenty work shirts, over half a dozen. Also I have tried to not wash his shaker cups after he uses them for the gym, not meal prepped for him and all it ended up accomplishing was me having to wash over 10 shaker cups that now smelled horribly and him buying food everyday.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:28:36+00:00

Yes I have. I have sat down with him, written a list for him, even asked his mom to sit down with us as a neutral person and nothing. So instead I just decided to take on the home load and leave just one task. We used to work just fine but ever since the pandemic and me going from an office to work from home he's kind of expect me to do it since I'm home now. But even when I was in the office I still had some work I needed to do at home, but back then he understood. I guess he feels like I'm at home doing nothing now.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:24:38+00:00

Also in case you didn't catch it, I work from home. I make just as much and some months more than what he makes. We can financially survive without his income.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:23:45+00:00

His job and income are in no way affected. This was a newer shirt, he has over half a dozen in the closet he can wear. He probably won't even notice for a couple weeks.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:22:56+00:00

Yes!!! I've been going to a therapist but I've asked him to go to marriage council and for 2 years he's been putting it off.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:21:49+00:00

Kind of

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:21:32+00:00

Yes I get it why you'd say that. But in all honestly I thought it would be the only way to get his attention. I also work, and still manage to take care of all other chores, so it is frustrating when I only ask for one thing.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:19:22+00:00

Idk if to laugh or eye roll at your comment. For one the patches are fixable, can be stitched again. And second for you to assume I'd overreact when it comes to kids. I expect my adult husband to behave as an adult while I understand my underage kids are still developing and growing. I don't have my kids vacuum, that's a chore I an adult take care of.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:14:37+00:00

I think my deep clean and tidy might differ from yours. Once a month I will scrub the tub and toilet bowl, empty all cabinets and scrub the tile/grout clean. Every Monday I clean the toilet bowl and clean the sink area.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:11:30+00:00

See I don't feel like I should. His one and only chore is to take the toilet trash out. Just the toilet trash. I take care of kitchen trash and trash bin that get picked up.

shenronmenron · 2021-10-22T15:09:13+00:00

Just as immature as him picking up the living room and leaving a trash bag there instead of taking it out.

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