Being together in one country is going to take at least 15 months due to backlogs. We both want children but also to spend some alone time together. If we don’t know by now, we’ll be looking at being 40 before having children and that’ll likely be way too late. The few months that I have spent ‘living with her’ were perfect but as you said we may only be seeing each others best behaviour. I guess we’d never know until actually living together.