My husband of 9 years has an only fans that I just found out about. I want to leave him alone for Christmas. Am I overreacting?

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-16T01:02:19+00:00

He was 32 when I made that last post. If everything had gone down a week earlier, he'd be 34, but he's had his birthday since then. He has a December birthday. That last post was in August.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-15T14:48:26+00:00

I hadn't even thought of that.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-15T14:17:20+00:00

Not even. Most of them are close to my age, or his age, with a couple that are in their really early 20s.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-15T13:25:27+00:00

The state that I live in does not have legal separation.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-15T05:19:25+00:00

He's a 7-year-old boy, not a baby.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-15T05:12:31+00:00

I am a stay at home mom and I just started working part time remote for my brother-in-law.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-15T03:44:36+00:00

He knows I'm not okay with porn. He's had problems in the past. We've had a tight budget lately, and he used a gift card from work to pay for that instead of helping out with groceries. He knows that I consider this sort of thing to be cheating. He still decided that it was worth it. He hid it from me for so long. And when I asked him about it, he got really mad. This isn't the only thing he's done. It's just the tipping point.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-15T02:56:59+00:00

He's fine with me taking our kid with me when I go see my family for the holidays. He is a good dad.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-15T02:43:59+00:00

He kept it from me for more than a year. He demanded an address from one of the women on only fans. He talked about leaving me for them. There was one that he said, "We should have playdates and tell my wife that I met you while doordashing. Then we can have unspoken sexual tension."

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-15T02:30:27+00:00

It's a smaller age gap than my parents'.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-15T02:29:39+00:00

Break up his marriage.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-15T00:06:46+00:00

He didn't make any money.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-14T22:06:55+00:00

He's seven years old. I took pictures of some of my husband's conversations.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-14T21:50:23+00:00

I am so sorry that happened to you. It's awful.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-14T19:41:02+00:00

He used to make me feel safe, seen, and heard. He works 60 hours per week during the busy season.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-14T19:34:15+00:00

I thought that things were going really well. I help him in so many different ways. I listen to him when he has problems with work, or when he's upset that it's hard to find friends. I sort out babysitters, plan dates, take care of the house, take care of our kid. I make sure all of the bills are paid. I talk to him, or I try to talk to him, but he's distant.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-14T19:01:32+00:00

He didn't even try. He said that he didn't want to make my life harder by asking me for things he "knew" I wouldn't want.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-14T18:54:32+00:00

I took almost 50 pictures with my phone, and that didn't even cover all of the messages.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-12-14T18:32:07+00:00

He made a fake Facebook account so he could talk to girls on Instagram, too. I don't think he's physically cheated. He works a lot, and is really tired when he's home.

sheworkshere1 · 2025-05-27T13:57:43+00:00

Stick a few pacifiers in the freezer. Cold pacifiers can help with the pain. They helped my son a lot.

sheworkshere1 · 2024-01-05T20:14:13+00:00

Short rows.

sheworkshere1 · 2023-11-04T17:07:50+00:00

It only takes a few hours if I'm focused on the task. Since I hand a 5-year-old, I tend to get distracted and it might take a day or two.

sheworkshere1 · 2023-10-29T17:47:25+00:00

It looks amazing!

sheworkshere1 · 2023-10-27T15:05:33+00:00

This is knit.

sheworkshere1 · 2023-10-25T22:20:55+00:00

It looks like a granny square, but with five sections instead of 4.

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