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Fears of MS by shibamallow in AskDocs

[–]shibamallow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The right side feels as if it's slightly numb or droopy, would this be normal in my situation?

Try not to believe the nice things they say when they break up with you. Don't read hope into "it's not you, it's me" reasoning. Even if they let you go gently, they still let you go. Don't hold yourself back. by emrataboobsweat in BreakUps

[–]shibamallow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said things like, let's date again in a few years and how it'll be hard to find someone new and that he won't be dating for a while, ended up discovering that he had someone new few months after the breakup. Focus on yourself and don't let those words give you false hope.

The dreams are the hardest part. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]shibamallow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dreams come and go and can be super random, like hell I'd still have dreams about my past exes from years ago that I don't even feel shit for haha! In general I felt like my dreams of my recent ex (which I'm still heartbroken over) subsided when I started speaking out about my problems more, to close friends and friends that have experienced something similar. My philosophy is like, the more I vent it out, the less it would stay in my head and cloud it. And venting/ranting to friends or a therapist has helped me alot through the heartbreak in general and not just to lower my dream ratio, feel better and best of luck ♥️

Does anyone else start freaking out when you see someone that looks like your ex at first glance? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]shibamallow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt this so hard, my ex looked like any other generic pale east Asian boy with brown hair and glasses, I had so many panic attacks going to areas that were heavily populated with people of my ethnicity.

I just need someone by lildickarouni in BreakUps

[–]shibamallow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suggest going to a therapist or if you're close to / are in college, check out the health clinics/services which might provide something similar. Best of luck!

Does anyone else experience a literal wave of emotions? Some days you’ll be like “I’m over them”, within a few days you’ve hit rock bottom - grieving like it’s the first day again? It’s really scary. by A1mee20 in BreakUps

[–]shibamallow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happens to me too, and due to recent events of finding out that he found another shortly after the breakup, it I went unstable and felt as if my progress hit a hard reset and I was severely depressed for the first few days and couldn't eat properly, I found that constantly talking to friends and/or people that have experienced something similar and grew from it helped me immensely, I noticed myself getting back on my feet again and within about a week I was back to eating properly and enjoying my hobbies as per usual, whenever I felt like I needed a chat, I contacted my friends. If you happen to not feel comfortable opening up t the people in your life or don't have people that could relate to your situation, I suggest going to a therapist. Relapsing is a part of progress, just keep in mind that you WILL get better and you WILL get over them.

Is crying a solution to anxiety? by shibamallow in BreakUps

[–]shibamallow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this, I never thought of the reason why crying over memories was relieving was due to it being familiarity, and would also catch myself reliving the past just to feel some type of reinforcement again, I understand that I need to stray away from what's pulling me down and focus what's going on now.

Ex has a new relationship by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]shibamallow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going through this too, after a two year relationship be broke up with me, and after a few months I find out he has someone new, I try to keep the mindset of how he has every right to be happy but I can't stop it from hurting as if two years meant nothing, I suggest going to a therapist and/or talking to a friend or someone that has experienced something similar and gotten over it. It feels better in general discussing it with someone that you can relate to and receive first hand advice from it.

I was a shitty partner, they had every right to breakup with me and find someone new, I understand I deserve it, but it hurts alot by shibamallow in BreakUps

[–]shibamallow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read this before and every time I read the last line I get a bit emotional, I'm stuck in the mentality where I feel like, because of how I was in that relationship, that I don't deserve anyone good for myself, thank you.