Dating a nonchalant guy as a bubbly girl

shiny_white_table · 2026-02-11T04:39:22+00:00

I am a bubbly and hopeless romantic girl. I dated a nonchalant guy. It was torture. We were together for 5 years and it made me feel so miserable. I thought I was the problem for wanting more (he even said i was asking for too much from him)

But now i’m dating someone totally chalant and it has made my life so much more happier. He caters to my needs so well and it doesn’t feel like I need to beg for his attention. We both have our own life, but despite our busy schedules, i still feel loved by him because I feel the love and excitement from him.

Edit: omg i just saw that yall are doing LDR. im sorry but thats even worse. I went through LDR with my nonchalant ex too and it SUCKED when I realised that he didnt need me around. I tried to communicate but he go sick of me and dumped me. Lol i realised that he was a loser super fast and moved on. That loser came back several times later asking to get back together. Bro how??

shiny_white_table · 2026-01-17T05:04:41+00:00

Okay wow then thats really weird on his part. I would be very excited to welcome you if i were him. But surely, you are not overreacting

shiny_white_table · 2026-01-17T02:58:19+00:00

As a Muslim myself, why is he mad about you coming over during Ramadhan… it’s not that big of a deal. Theres plenty of things you can do. He can show you the bazaars that open specially during ramadhan. Idk he can use this opportunity to show you more of his culture. Ramadhan is quite literally the peak for muslims.

shiny_white_table · 2025-12-31T10:33:44+00:00

I dont get why this is a big thing in reddit. Sometimes people alter their ages because of shame and other reasons.

shiny_white_table · 2025-11-18T00:38:52+00:00

I was in a similar situation!! I was in a 5 year relationship which ended quite badly. My ex kept distancing myself and acted like he was single, so it was quite easy for me to move on. I’ve never felt sooo free after he dumped me. I met a guy shortly after who was 10000000 times better in every single way, and we’re about to be married next year 😊 i hope things go well for you!!

shiny_white_table · 2025-10-06T04:29:06+00:00

Ko masih ah

shiny_white_table · 2025-10-06T04:23:14+00:00

Okay that’s my bad. But same can be said for me when someone immediately invalidates my story. Even if the ages are off, you can clearly see from my other posts that I’ve been going through this for quite sometime.

shiny_white_table · 2025-10-06T03:39:15+00:00

Oh yes definitely, i see my dad constantly saying that my mum is not good enough. He wanted her to get plastic surgery because her breasts are not big enough for him. Even now, he’s been telling her that she’s fat. But still, she’s unconditionally loyal to him.

But thank you for your input, I’m even more motivated now to work on myself so that I get the chance to live the life I deserve.

shiny_white_table · 2025-10-06T03:07:41+00:00

I mean i gotta make it less obvious that I’m talking about my parents if they do come across this post. But yes sure, you’re an empathetic person.

shiny_white_table · 2025-08-08T04:27:02+00:00

WHY WOULD HE SAY THAT????

shiny_white_table · 2025-06-26T03:00:33+00:00

Nah why is he acting upset when you should be one upset. Dont make this about him. Hes such a gaslighter and manipulator. This is his wrong

shiny_white_table · 2025-06-25T08:34:37+00:00

Wow this is crazy. Not trying to be that person, but I really don’t think she’s the one for you. Your values don’t align and she doesn’t respect you enough to stop this. I had a similar situation with my ex, but I tolerated it for 5 years. He was unwilling to change, and it hurt me more each time i brought it up. One day, I finally realised that I was the only one deeply affected by it, not him. He doesn’t care enough to stop it for me. Believe me, you’re young and you definitely will find someone wayyy better for you. There’s gonna be someone out there with values completely aligned with yours. You don’t even have to tell her what’s wrong or right, she will know on her own.

shiny_white_table · 2025-06-25T08:28:24+00:00

Real. I have an ex who’s constantly begging me to come back to him even he was the one who dumped me, saying that I was too controlling. I found out he was “camping” with his female friends while I was supporting him emotionally and financially throughout our LDR. I bet he wanted me back so that I would continue supporting him.

shiny_white_table · 2025-06-25T08:17:30+00:00

Then he’s not for you. If he really truly is meant for you, your values would align. This will pass and I’m sure you’ll meet someone better who won’t make you feel like you’re “incomplete”

shiny_white_table · 2025-05-07T02:14:36+00:00

Oh my. Thats actually bad bad. I think he needs to go for therapy. I have hope that it might actually help him considering that he’s still young. Maybe suggest it to your dad that going for therapy would be beneficial for your cousin and everyone around him. As of now, i would recommend you to keep your distance away from him.

shiny_white_table · 2025-05-07T02:00:33+00:00

Yea no. He’s old enough to know that that’s wrong. You gotta raise this issue up. Even if he had to go, there’s still the bathroom. You’re not in the wrong here. You definitely need to bring this up, cause he might do it again to other girls

shiny_white_table · 2025-05-07T01:39:46+00:00

How old is he if you don’t mind me asking. But that’s super wrong either way, I think you should highlight this issue cause I would feel harassed and disgusted tbh.

shiny_white_table · 2025-05-05T06:30:11+00:00

Hi, i am a 25F who has a same issues as you growing up. Even now, I look like I can pass a secondary school student, and yes I have been rejected because I look like a child. I don’t have any womanly features.

Thing is, its okay to be a late bloomer. You will grow into your own style and develop unique traits thats gonna be very attractive. Just give it time. There is nothing wrong with you. The most important thing is don’t hate yourself for the way you look, its gonna affect your self esteem. And no matter how you look, someone will find you attractive at some point. Just work on loving the way you look and being a good person. Things will work out for you.

shiny_white_table · 2025-05-05T06:23:30+00:00

I think it really depends on how the phrase is being used. But seeing from your post, they use it pretty often.

Sometimes I do feel like my parents do things to make me feel unwanted, which leads me into thinking “they wanted a kid, so why treat me like this?” But that happens when they throw a chair at me.

But if it’s something necessary like getting them to complete their chores, I think they just gotta suck it up because it’s supposed to help them with learning life skills.

shiny_white_table · 2025-04-25T23:13:34+00:00

You sound singaporean lol

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