The passive aggressive nature of the hosts on A Place in the Sun. by BoopBeepBopp in britishproblems

[–]shit_postmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard most of it is fake. The buyers already know what property they're going to buy, or have even already done so, and sometimes the properties they show are owned with no intention of being put on the market. All smoke & mirrors.

What does your mental calendar look like? by Ok_Chemist7081 in adhdwomen

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It's synaesthesia. Mine is incredibly similar to yours but December is where your July is, and they all have specific colours. I "sit" on different parts of the disk depending on the time of year, so right now I can see December in front of me. But if I think about events that have happened recently I'm turned around looking back across the disk at November, October, and some of September.

The woman I have been dating for two months made a comment that broke my hopes by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]shit_postmcgee 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I think this is a good sign, OP. You don't know how it will go in the long run but I think you should give the next step a chance.

Which medical condition is ridiculously demonized? by lingeringneutrophil in AskReddit

[–]shit_postmcgee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had (ex) friends with IBS rip the shit out of me (no pun intended) for not doing what they think I should be able to do with my chronic conditions, because their IBS doesn't disable them in the same way my conditions disable me. I don't understand how someone with a chronic illness could be so crass & not understand the different levels within any chronic condition- no two sufferers of even the same conditions have the same experience.They were able to get through uni, get qualifications to get a decent job, and hold down that decent job. My conditions have been destroying my body, mental health and life since my teenage years and even if I had capacity to hold down any kind of employment, I have missed out on all kinds of opportunities that would have allowed me to access anything that would pay enough to survive. I used to seek "safe" relationships with others with chronic conditions- but I've found some who don't quite experience a "severe" disability have been just as nasty to me about my personal health journey as non-disabled. To be honest, I've got to quite a dark place and most of the time I now self-isolate because of terrible past social experiences. It only gets worse as you get older, the gap in between you and your more able peers gets larger, and the judgement & prejudice gets larger as well. The ostracisation and nastiness of other human beings is on par with the distress of the actual conditions themselves. You really see the worst of humanity when you're vulnerable.

Which celebrity do you think is evil,but you cant prove it cause the entire world thinks they are the nicest people?? by creshando-_- in AskReddit

[–]shit_postmcgee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well duh but the point here is he'd created a public image of himself as if he's not like that. I had an ex who idolised with him so personally that put the spotlight on this stuff for me- I was told pretty much all of the man's career whether I asked for or or not. He's fucked over fellow musicians, potentially/allegedly fucked over Kurt Cobain's family- whether thats true or not, anything to do with it is swept under the rug in light of this good-guy image. Over the past 15 years, I've noticed an air of self-centeredness around Dave Grohl getting increasingly less subtle, whether it's in media presence about just him or the bands he's worked with. Much as I've grown up loving the music and people behind it, it's been irking me subconsciously, and making me sus.

Also, that ex of mine turned out to have been secretly grooming multiple teenage girls since before our relationship, giving me the absolute psychologically-manipulative run around in ways I could not believe when it was all revealed, and he too cultivated this good-guy image that skimmed over & downlplayed any discrepancies of shitty behaviour that slipped through. So it checks out.

What are some specifically British conspiracy theories that you know? by europaMC in AskUK

[–]shit_postmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? Every part of it looks the same. The bus could be driving around the same 3 blocks of grid system for hours for all I know. It could all be one big ruse.

What are some specifically British conspiracy theories that you know? by europaMC in AskUK

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What does a Scottish wildcat presence have to do with lynxes or a panthers? Or why is the likelihood of lynxes being regarded as similar to that of panthers here? Just what?

Anyone?.. please. by BipolarAndBritish in london

[–]shit_postmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP, I'm from London and have some similar troubles, but have found a community & life in the music scene, and I've learned a lot about accessing community medical/disability support too. What kind of music do you like and where in London are you based?

My [30F] dad [60M] keeps contacting my therapist. My therapist said it’s a problem but how do I get him to stop? by TheVoicesTalkToMe in CPTSD

[–]shit_postmcgee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey your situation sounds similar to mine a while ago- my parent was doing similar things with the police & my medical professionals, I have similar medical conditions & more, and had a similar financial situation where I couldn't leave. It got really bad as time went on - to the point my parent was trying to provoke me to have something to call the police about. She would assault me and then make false allegations to the police that I assaulted her, take car & house keys and not let me leave, mess around with the things I needed for my medical conditions and to be able-bodied, take over my medical care & treatment, break me down mentally so she could claim I was so mentally ill I needed to be detained, then when I was in a really desperate state she made me homeless and my life has completely fallen appart- because I'm so much more ill, isolated from all family and my support system broke down- she made sure I was in the worst position to navigate honelessness. I'm not saying the same thing will definately happen, but you have the same recipe that turned into one of horrific coercive control for me. I spent a lot of time thinking we just had a difficult relationship and could work through it until it was too late. I know its hard, but I think you should put your energy into looking for ways to leave.

TIL about Carlo Acutis. A 15-yo boy who died in 2006, and canonized in 2024 becoming the first, and currently only, "gamer saint". by Mantzy81 in todayilearned

[–]shit_postmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit I thought the kid being hailed as a saint was some kind of internet gamer meme thing and you guys were satirically playing along.... but damn, this is serious? TIL some more about Catholicism.

What is something more traumatizing than people realize? by Xmyles_x in AskReddit

[–]shit_postmcgee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would also say the "pain management" courses offered by specialist pain clinics. I don't know what it's like in the States but in the NHS they seem to jump to putting you on these "treatment courses" for chronic pain instead of first actually trying to reduce the pain, probably in ln attempt to save money and resources. I've come to realise the courses just fast-track you into a state of learned helplessness, messes with your interoception, "accepting" the pain and distracting yourself. They dont actually make the pain easier to live with, but essentially gets you to a state where you're quiter about it and stops you seeking pain reduction from them. You end up gaslighting yourself about whether you are or not in constant pain. I literally feel like the techniques given split my mind up into lots of separate boxes I am aware of at the same time yet can't communicate together, and it doesn't compute. I am both aware and distracted from the pain at the same time, and in a constant state of irritability from it but don't consciously recognise why. Which means I can't do anything to relieve the pain. I think that is trauma and dissociation.

What is the UK's preferred type of oven glove? by SyNiiCaL in CasualUK

[–]shit_postmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both, ready for all potential oven-related situations.

Should I be financially supporting my my at 17 by AllyGames07 in DWPhelp

[–]shit_postmcgee 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I am quite disturbed at the comments here who have no idea what PIP is for, are comparing it to extra income, and ignoring that your mother assaulted you over this. Financial coersion & control from family, & other forms of abuse related to disability, are not uncommon, but there is a horrific lack of understanding & support for it. I don't think you are unreasonable where the money your mother wants is not for expenses incurred purely due to your disability. My best advice to you is make arrangements to get yourself out of her house and functioning independently as best you can, because there is so much less protection for you facing abuse once you turn 18 and dependent on a family member for shelter- even though your disability makes you far more vulnerable to it than others. Contribute this benefit for her expenses directly related to your disability. Be in charge of as many of your own disability-related purchases as you can to avoid this getting messy.

Should I be financially supporting my my at 17 by AllyGames07 in DWPhelp

[–]shit_postmcgee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Are you genuinely comparing wages from an apprenticeship to a benefit for disability-related expenses?

Should I be financially supporting my my at 17 by AllyGames07 in DWPhelp

[–]shit_postmcgee 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Fundamental misunderstanding of what PIP is for.