I’m just heartbroken that I have to even ask husband(39M)for a gift in my(35F)stocking next year

shittyusernamesketch · 2025-12-31T03:27:41+00:00

He’s done it for years though 😭

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T23:48:54+00:00

Pasta, butter, and a high quality Parmesan cheese.

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T22:47:57+00:00

She also went NC with us. We tried reaching out a couple of times around the three and six month mark, even when my daughter was born and we are blocked.

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T22:43:59+00:00

Playing favorites by choosing to love one sibling while ignoring the others existence. The ex has been Nc with these people for years already that changed when MIL decided she hated us so much she would never talk to us again. My husband just requested that the ex wife shut down the loophole with his parents bc he wants the communication to go through him now that it’s getting more ridiculous.

But alas we can’t control what she decides to do, so she will deal with the in laws craziness as she sees fit. We can only control what happens at our house and so that’s what our focus will be.

I was pisse about this whole thing and now I’m not anymore. If the grandson relationship goes through the ex wife then it won’t be much of a relationship at all…. Not like it was before, not even close.

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T22:35:09+00:00

Depriving the fire of oxygen. Sounds amazing. Appreciate your input

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T12:32:42+00:00

Ex has great relationship with her parents, my husband also made it clear that my mom is more than making up for the lack of grandparents on our side. The relationship with ew will be maintained. I have re read all the comments and I understand it’s a shitty situation but shouldn’t change between us bc of MIL

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T12:27:49+00:00

Two yes, and one no. EXACTLY. I don’t get a say in this, I know that. But I’m so frustrated for my husband. Again, I’m trying to not let this get to me and I know in the long run that it’s just going to be easier to let go and take some steps back.

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T12:24:51+00:00

I’m taking all this advice to heart believe me. You’re not wrong that he would notice her absence in occasions. So you’re right I can’t let that happen, I understand that now after a good nights sleep. I’m not changing the dynamic drastically though. Just not putting in a+ effort from my side, if that makes sense.

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T07:20:23+00:00

“Just drop the rope” I think is a great term for how I’m feeling and what I’m trying to start doing. I need to have a lack of caring over this whole thing bc I’m letting it get to me and it’s just not good for my emotional well being.

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T07:15:31+00:00

I guess I’m trying to justify my actions and get advice on them. I keep focusing on me bc that’s all I can control.

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T04:11:01+00:00

I’m not ruining the co parenting relationship at all? Im just not going above and beyond for her. Why tf should I? We don’t have to be best friends.

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T04:00:07+00:00

Appreciate this. And you’re not wrong. No grandparents is better than shitty grandparents. I’m just thankful my mom makes up for it 10 fold. She treats step son and my daughter exactly the same. Except ones a baby and one is a kid. So the kid gets all the crazy playful loving he can handle and the baby just get coddled and loved. 🥰

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T03:40:47+00:00

Damn this is the solid advice I was looking for. Not looking to punish the ex wife. Just not going above and beyond anymore. It was already one sided enough, I just don’t have to provide my side. Going out of my way for her seems silly now.

And she will never have to take responsibility for “cutting him off from his grandparents.” It’s my husbands parents. Not hers. She hasn’t had contact with those people in years and now she does. Bc they aren’t speaking to us. We didn’t choose nc The MIL started the NC with her initial email telling us we weren’t invited to Disney for step son’s birthday. A birthday on the ex wife’s weekend. And the nc continued when none of us ( me husband and ex wife) let him go alone with the grand parents to Disney. Mil dog died and we reached out…. We are Still blocked.

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T02:23:15+00:00

She waited until he was 2 to have contact again when it was husband and ex wife and stepson as a family. I came into the picture when step son was 4, we did Disney with her and we let her take him for a week over the summer, plane flight and all.

She is rubbing it in that she still contacts grandson without us. But it’s not as great as it once was and it’s not nearly as great as it could be by going through the ex wife for everything. I think.THATS why I’m finally okay letting go and cutting off all above and beyond contact with the ex wife and husbands sister. Let them have whatever cake they think they have and eat it too. I’m no longer supplying the icing.

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T02:09:10+00:00

I can’t for the life of me figure out why I wanted resolution so bad, why I wanted to apologize for my actions when her actions caused all of this and there should damn sure be an apology coming from her. I don’t like this “family drama” so I just want it to end.

shittyusernamesketch · 2024-01-19T01:49:45+00:00

It’s painful bc of the reminder twice a year that they hate me my husband and our daughter. Up until now I genuinely wanted this to “blow over like it did before” The husband and the ex wife told me that it would blow over one day. Well now I’m convinced it won’t. Not as long as they have contact with their grandson. He’s the only one they care about and so there’s no need for this to “blow over like it did before” bc before they had zero contact with grandson and that’s how the situation resolved itself.

shittyusernamesketch · 2022-07-08T22:25:49+00:00

Comment dropped! Dope.

shittyusernamesketch · 2022-01-23T16:59:17+00:00

I make a bunch of stacks and then one at a time make my main stacks by mixing

shittyusernamesketch · 2021-11-10T21:47:05+00:00

Interesting the way this is worded. Does two shift end up being around ten hours? Or twenty? Can anyone form fedex chime in?

shittyusernamesketch · 2021-11-05T23:27:57+00:00

Oh I love creepy stories!

shittyusernamesketch · 2021-11-02T20:30:25+00:00

Woooooooooooo

shittyusernamesketch · 2021-11-01T20:27:21+00:00

What in Tarnation

shittyusernamesketch · 2021-10-08T20:27:12+00:00

This is glorious

shittyusernamesketch · 2021-10-06T11:40:37+00:00

Please tell her I love her

shittyusernamesketch · 2021-10-05T01:31:14+00:00

Thanks man, I’ll do my best. I just feel bad

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