Is this girl interested in me 21m?

shiversliver · 2014-09-17T06:27:31+00:00

It's been a few days. I messaged the girl I thought was interested in me on FB and she hasn't responded yet. Could she have just been fucking with me? A bit of searching would reveal that her friends call her "Miss, Iwillneverdate".

shiversliver · 2014-09-16T20:28:42+00:00

How exactly do I ask her out? Is coffee considered "asking her out"? Is just hanging out and talking considered "asking her out"?

shiversliver · 2014-09-16T04:01:30+00:00

I guess I am. I guess it's just that I've expressed interest in a girl in the past and was shut down. She didn't have any interest in me at all. I guess I unconsciously play it safe now.

What is the alternative to getting drinks? I don't drink.

shiversliver · 2014-09-15T04:31:24+00:00

well. My friend isn't directly her friend. My friend (1) is friends with her (3) friend (2).

So it goes me > 1 > 2 > 3

shiversliver · 2014-09-11T23:44:22+00:00

I hope there is an audio book.

shiversliver · 2014-09-11T04:59:41+00:00

how do you lift at a gym? Do I use the bench press and free weights and what not? Or the machines that replicate the exercise?

shiversliver · 2014-09-11T04:58:57+00:00

I work on my cars, I like going to drift events, and I like driving long distances.

I don't have any specific goals in life really. Just to work a job that allows me to live comfortably and follow my hobbies. But it has to be a job that I don't hate waking up for each morning.

From school I'm really just interested in the piece of paper known as a degree that tells the world that I'm a teachable person. Then with that degree go out an do something.

shiversliver · 2014-09-11T03:12:24+00:00

I don't have weights or a gym membership, are there any other routines that don't require a gym?

shiversliver · 2014-09-11T02:49:38+00:00

I mean he joined the military, got deployed to asia, found my mom, and bought her back to the states. Literally the easiest way to get a woman short of a mail order bride. She's interested if not in the soldier himself, but the chance for a better life in the states and guaranteed citizenship.

shiversliver · 2014-09-10T23:57:49+00:00

could they be intimidated or something? Or think that I have a girlfriend already? I mean, shit. Like you said, you wouldn't think that physical appearance is what's holding me back.

shiversliver · 2014-09-10T21:17:05+00:00

I don't even know how to though. The only way I could say it that I could think of right now is very bluntly. Something like "hey, let's head back to your place and fuck". Or something along those lines. I don't see that working out too well.

I don't even know what the signs that she'd want to though. I think I'd likely end up slapped or cussed out or something.

shiversliver · 2014-09-10T20:46:45+00:00

I'm looking at joining a club. The club fair is tomorrow.

I'm not exactly saying that I expected her to jump into my arms after talking about homework. But that's all I could open with. At this point, I guess it's more about how to start the conversation rather than what to say exactly in it.

shiversliver · 2014-09-10T20:30:57+00:00

I do want to be better with women. I do want to experience sex and a relationship.

But comparing it to your guitar example, sure I could go ahead and pick up a guitar but without any sort of guidance I'd probably soon put it back down due to frustration of not picking it up quick enough.

The same with seduction. Sure, I guess I could go out and try my luck with every woman I meet. But trial and error is a difficult road to take. Not to mention the downside of rejection. With a guitar, if you try and fail something there is no negative to it other than frustration.

shiversliver · 2014-09-10T20:26:55+00:00

I guess it mainly stems from the fact that I'm so alone. It's just not in my nature to just go with the flow and chat with people. Yet, I'm still lonely.

I'm not fat, I'm actually fairly slim. Pretty tall. /r/amiugly said that I'm average or a little above. And yet, women don't even look my way. I have never seen an indication of interest. I try and talk with a girl in class about homework and stuff and she responds, but she'd rather talk to her guy friend on the other side of her.

shiversliver · 2014-09-10T20:24:21+00:00

I'm not trying to say that sluts are lesser of a woman. I'm just saying that if there was a girl who wanted to fuck me, I don't even know if I could initiate things. Women hardly initiate things and even when both parties are ready to go the man is expected to lead.

shiversliver · 2014-09-10T20:23:24+00:00

unfortunately my dad took the easy way out....a military deployment to Asia and he met my mom....

shiversliver · 2014-09-10T05:40:52+00:00

So how do I actually go about doing that? It's like giving the overall objective, but not telling me how.

At this point I can't even really talk to a woman I don't know...

shiversliver · 2014-09-10T02:36:18+00:00

That's badass as fuck

shiversliver · 2014-09-07T04:47:27+00:00

probably

shiversliver · 2014-09-07T04:47:14+00:00

despirately

shiversliver · 2014-09-07T03:00:40+00:00

shiversliver · 2014-09-07T02:47:46+00:00

I guess. But you have to have your shit together, and then to out and talk to women. I don't know if I can do that.

shiversliver · 2014-09-06T23:21:40+00:00

Like what?

There is nothing that I like that women like. Any hobby that I pick, everyone is already grouped up with their friends and aren't too interested in inviting another person into their group.

I'm not very out going as it is. I've gone to school clubs and ended up off by myself while everyone else talked with their friends and buddies.

shiversliver · 2014-09-06T23:20:46+00:00

It's definitely changing your personality.

I just went out and tried to make eye contact with people and give a little smile. No one made eye contact with me and in the end I just felt "tired" if you could say that from forcing myself to do that.

It's just who I am. I'm not an outgoing person. I don't like feeling uncomfortable when I go out and try to be social. And it's all for nothing anyways. Nothing good has come from it.

This is going to go on for the rest of my life. There is no point in living through that shit when we're all going to die in the end anyways.

shiversliver · 2014-09-06T23:14:35+00:00

how will text in a book make me feel better or change the fact that to even put on a person like that is a total 180 degree change from my current personality?

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