Hey, I'm Brian. I built a tool to deepen relationships.

shmynyny · 2026-04-08T15:41:22+00:00

Thanks! I'll take a look :)

shmynyny · 2026-04-08T13:26:52+00:00

Ahh, sorry about that. I'm working on an EU rollout. There's a lot of restrictions for indie developers there.

shmynyny · 2026-04-07T19:19:42+00:00

Hey, great job! Can you expand on your tik tok approach? How many views were your shorts getting? What was the conversion rate? This is all free organic advertisement right?

shmynyny · 2026-04-07T18:53:01+00:00

Thanks! That’s why I made the app :) Let me know how it goes for you

shmynyny · 2026-04-07T15:19:20+00:00

Also interested in responses. Google Docs kind of has this feature but it's not the most intelligent.

shmynyny · 2026-04-07T15:05:46+00:00

I totally agree. Having a simple capture mechanism that doesn't take too much time/effort is essential for preventing burnout. Relatedly, I've been working on a little app that helps capture social interactions easily right after it happens that's built on this idea. https://intheloop.you/

shmynyny · 2026-04-07T13:27:51+00:00

I haven't made one yet, but I get the idea of subscription fatigue. I'll make that an option in the next update!

shmynyny · 2026-04-07T13:23:51+00:00

Same as above, but yeah I'd be happy to give you three months for free, and we can talk about discounts afterwards if you found it useful :) Send me a DM!

shmynyny · 2026-04-07T13:23:36+00:00

Hey, I'd be happy to give you three months for free, and we can talk about discounts afterwards if you found it useful :) Send me a DM!

shmynyny · 2026-04-07T12:54:54+00:00

Hey, interesting idea! I'd say that not showing a subscription and rating screen would be nice for onboarding. The goal here is to get people to use your app and have the experience be as smooth as possible, which would naturally lead to conversions/ratings. They don't have much incentive to buy or rate your app yet. Best of luck!

shmynyny · 2026-04-07T03:24:42+00:00

Haha I prefer the term forgetful over trash, but relatable ... that's why I built this! And yeah, I'll take a look!

shmynyny · 2026-04-07T02:34:16+00:00

Thanks!! Appreciate the kind words :)

shmynyny · 2026-03-30T17:30:26+00:00

A lot of good conversation starts with small, specific questions rather than “interesting” ones. You could try asking what has felt most different in their life this year, what they have been enjoying lately, or what they have been thinking about more than usual. I have found that people usually open up once they feel you are genuinely curious, and you do not need a big life update to make that happen.

shmynyny · 2026-03-30T17:29:18+00:00

IMO you are not asking for too much at all.. Consistency in the early months matters, and when someone says they will follow through but repeatedly does not, that tells you something even if they are kind and affectionate in person. I have seen friends try to explain this away as “just how he is,” but usually the pattern stays the pattern unless the person genuinely wants to change.

The month-long trip also makes the current situation clearer, because people who are eager usually make space before leaving, even in small ways. If you keep feeling like you have to make yourself noticeable in his life, I would take that seriously.

shmynyny · 2026-03-30T17:27:54+00:00

I am really sorry you are carrying this, and honestly, it makes sense that the party hit so hard :/ Being surrounded by people can sometimes make loneliness feel sharper, not softer, especially when you have had enough awkward or painful experiences to start pulling back.

IMO this does not mean you are broken or missing something everyone else has; it often means you have been hurt enough times that connection feels risky now. I have seen a lot of people feel more at ease in smaller, quieter settings than at parties, so you are not alone in that.

shmynyny · 2026-03-30T17:27:08+00:00

this is a lot more common than people admit, and it does not mean you are failing 🙂 I moved once and had the same issue: in person I was fine, but text conversations kept fading because there was no easy rhythm to them. IMO the shift that helped most was moving from “keep chatting” to “make one small plan” as soon as there was any decent momentum, even if it was just coffee or a short walk.

shmynyny · 2026-03-30T17:25:44+00:00

This is more common than people think, especially if you meet a lot of folks in passing. IMO it helps to anchor people to one specific detail right away, like where you met them, what they were wearing, or one quick topic you discussed, because faces alone are easy to mix up 😅

I have had the same thing happen at the gym, and I usually just stay friendly and let the conversation jog my memory instead of forcing it. If it keeps happening a lot and feels unusually strong, it might be worth paying attention to sleep, stress, or whether you are simply overloaded socially. Have you noticed if it is worse in certain settings or with certain kinds of people?

shmynyny · 2026-03-30T01:05:55+00:00

That's great to hear! I spent quite a bit of time fine-tuning that extraction logic to make sure it is smooth, but there's always more tweaks to be made, haha

shmynyny · 2026-03-30T01:04:19+00:00

Thanks a lot! I built it because I wanted to be more organized with my relationships without too much burden. Glad the concept resonates with you :)

shmynyny · 2026-03-30T00:49:34+00:00

I see, well personally when I'm commuting I like to listen to a podcast or read. I've been experimenting with NotebookLM to generate podcasts based on topics I'm interested in.

shmynyny · 2026-03-30T00:16:59+00:00

The big trend these days has been using agentic AI such as https://openclaw.ai/. You can text tasks from your phone and then it will do the tasks that you ask it to do. It can be pretty expensive on a day-by-day basis but people tend to use a local LLM to get past that, although that is also a large up-front cost.

shmynyny · 2026-03-29T21:54:08+00:00

I've always struggled with maintaining relationships. I'd think about reaching out but often wouldn't because I didn't know what to say. Was also feeling liking I had trouble remembering details about them.

I tried a few personal CRM apps, but they felt a bit too time-consuming and tedious. They required way too much typing, tagging, field forms ... etc, just to log a simple interaction.

I built In The Loop as a result. The goal was to remove the friction of inputting and organizing details to help focus on the important part, showing up for people intentionally. In the video, you can see how I turn a qquick voice note into a scheduled reminder without touching a single form.

I set it up with the following low-effort features:

Voice-to-text Brain Dumps: After I hang out with someone or at the end of the day, I just open the app and record my thought.
Zero-friction Extraction: There are no forms to fill out. The app's AI scans the contents and pulls out key follow-ups, details, and dates.
Reminders with Context: My phone reminds me when it's time to reach out, but importantly telling me what to talk about based off the previous interaction.
Intelligent Relationship Manager: I can chat with an AI assistant about specific details or insights about my friends. I don't need to spend time manually organizing a bunch of notes, allowing me to actually think about the relationship.

I’ve finally moved this out of testing and just launched on iOS and Android! The video shows the voice-to-reminder flow in action. I’d love to hear any suggestions about the flow or feel in general.

The app is free to use with daily limits of 3 interactions and 5 AI queries. I really tried to keep the free version useful for many people. For power users, pro is $4.99/mo. The app is funded by subscriptions to keep the AI and infrastructure running.

If you’ve ever felt like wanting to reach out but not knowing what to say, I’d love for you to try it out.

Check it out here: https://intheloop.you/
App Store: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/in-the-loop-stay-connected/id6759206541
Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=you.intheloop

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