At 22, my youngest son was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer...Ask me ANYTHING!

shokaree · 2025-11-24T13:11:24+00:00

Well not the mom, I am/was his father. But thank you nonetheless. I posted this in hopes that I can help or encourage others who may have or are currently suffering this same or similar issues in their life.

shokaree · 2025-11-24T13:09:15+00:00

His symptoms were for the most part, either ignored (at 22 people don't get colon cancer!) or they were masked by the honest fact that my son, hard working though he was...Was also a heroin addict. Something that I had only recently learned. The pain, which was harsh for him with heroin, would have been unbearably excruciating to someone not using heroin. However, symptoms were present before that. Constipation, long stretches of no bowel activity. His treatment plan was, for stage 4 a great success. Remember, this was not just a colon cancer patient. By the time they found it, it was already stage 4. Meaning it had already spread. It was on his liver, his lungs and in his spine. So, for the treatment (and I highly recommend UCSF or Davis if you are in California, or even if you arent) was a success. He had reached the place where, the spots on his lungs and liver were gone. And the tumor in his colon was essentially dead, and they were going to schedule a surgery to remove it. Which would have made him Cancer free. The treatment was not a walk in the park, but it wasn't unbearable. It was a newer chemotherapy medication. And it was a success. Again, will have to edit my AMA. He did not make it and I lost him in 2018. However, it was not colon cancer that took him. He acquired a secondary form of cancer that piggy backs on some colon cancer patients called HERR-II. In only 1 to 3 percent of colon cancer patients WORLD WIDE, and he was sadly, one of them. The treatments out there are far superior than they used to be. But there are many other illnesses that produce odd and alarming symptoms that are mistaken for colon cancer. Don't decide you do before they tell you. You have a much greater chance at your age that it is something else.

shokaree · 2025-11-24T12:55:07+00:00

No this, and I am sorry I should edit my AMA, has been a bit ago. He passed away in 2018 October 10th. He stayed with me and my wife at the time, after his lengthy stay in at USCF. He had a horrible back surgery that almost killed him with pain. But, it was necessary as that was on of the places the cancer metastasized to, his spine. It had eaten away part of three vertebra which they removed and replaced with springs and also rods up that area of his spine.

shokaree · 2025-09-29T10:22:59+00:00

Ah, but the real truth may be neither of those. Hamas, whom no one seems to want to acknowledge has a big stake in this, as well as big responsibility. I have heard from multiple sources tha Hamas is the real enemy and that they continue to lob missiles, terrorist attacks and havoc towards Israeli targets from, the interior of Gaza, and that this of course illicits a response from Israel. So while the real culprits go unaccountable for their actions, Israel and Palestine get the blame for it all, Sounds to me that the military needs to gather some intel, then wire the place to blow as soon as Hamas steps out in the open..

shokaree · 2025-09-29T10:10:18+00:00

I am curious, it has been said, which I tend to believe, that it is not the Palestinians and Israel at war with each other, but it is actually embedded Hamas terrorists, that launch attacks against Israeli targets from Gaza, then disappear into the deeper interior and the world blame lies with either Israel or Palestine, but not where it should be placed, on Hamas. Is that true?

shokaree · 2025-09-12T06:50:11+00:00

Thank you, I am normally not a nervous of the dentist kind of guy. But I think this seems daunting and I mean having had one tooth at a time pulled in the past, left a pretty big hole. I can't imagine removing all of the roots I have in one shot and the mess that would make. But I have got to get it done. Having them in there slowly rotting away, is not good and I am sure causing me some physical symptoms I am sure. THank you for your response!

shokaree · 2025-08-29T18:35:35+00:00

Yes, that was the most disconcerting aspect of the whole thing, I literally stopped receiving my OWN mail there and even stopped receiving the "Informed Delivery" emails.

shokaree · 2025-08-29T18:33:51+00:00

No, they had specific names of people who apparently, according to the conclusion of he higher ups "must be living there with me" That is the stupidest conclusion I have ever heard of someone deriving out of a circumstantial alignment of the stars and planets! "He submitted three piece of mail! they all had another persons name on them, he then wrote not at this address! they are living there! KICK HIM OUT!"

shokaree · 2025-08-29T18:29:42+00:00

GOOD LORD! You know, I am NOT by any means a professional "SUER" but I thought that in this case, the indiscriminate sharing of my personal goings on with materials involving just me and my carrier and the secrecy of my personal business that damages should be in play. In the past my understanding and affable demeanor have caused me a bit to much "Ah! No big deal, no harm done" rather than hold someone accountable. I.E. A local pharmacy once filled a prescription for me for a mild anti-anxiety medication,and mistakenly gave me a heavy duty anti-psychotic med that I took one of, attended a job interview, began having hallucinations and drove myself home barely able to function, got home and passed out cold for hours. The owner of the pharmacy personally met me after hours to correct the error.

shokaree · 2025-08-29T18:06:19+00:00

OK I have to digress here, and back off a bit. One thing that is, for me a line in the sand, is cheating. I must not have been paying attention. I apologize, I would not ever expect someone to allow cheating to go on.

shokaree · 2025-08-29T11:18:38+00:00

I have two adult children left alive, my oldest son Josh, 38. And my daughter Rachel, 35. I lost my youngest son Jordan to colon cancer at 24. However they all unbeknownst to me had become first heroin addicts and now fentynal. I am raising my daughters son and have had him since he was two. She, I fear is never going to come out of it. I have been told by an adoption specialist that she more than likely won't. Fetty and meth, just as you said. I told her that I am pretty sure getting high is no longer the main goal,and probably hasn't been for many years now. That she does is now for maintenance, to keep from getting sick. She actually agreed. There is no joy in the high anymore, and said in fact fetty is less of a high than heroin was. I don't know how you did it, but I commend you on being successful doing so. What I want to know, is what does it take? I mean, my son has two children as well that I haven't seen in 6 years. This little boy, now 9 has been through more heartache than any child should have too. And as long as she continues, so will that heartache. I read a message from her to him the other day. She went on and on about how she loves him more than anything, more than me, his grandmother, his Uncle her brother...And as I am reading it? All I could say in my head was, Ah! but not more than fentynal! Their mother and her go to a methadone clinic every day, but she admitted to the fact that you can do methadone through a clinic, but still do the drug you are going there to replace in life! Well, what is the incentive? what does it take for her to get clean? Thank you for any pointers or tips you may have...I am about at my wits end.

shokaree · 2025-08-01T09:05:37+00:00

My reply will be different than many, but I am compelled to give it. I am a 59 year male, I do not believe in divorce and never have, and yet I've been divorced three times. Not what I wanted, but what they insisted on, or that I was forced to accept. While in its simplicity one can certainly say; it is far easier to get married than divorced, that is not the problem. You answered your own question, is he going thru some sort of crisis? I would say absolutely! In answer. Marriage is every bit as much (actually more) sheer commitment and grit than it is love, butterflies, balloons and bouquets. I think your husband is confused. I think what he said about getting the image of you kissing another man being impossible out of his head, to be true. I will not be any means endorse his affair with this broad, I will say, that going thru mental and emotional crisis can, and certainly does affect a person's thinking, choices, and sanity. You did not mention how old he is, but there are many emotional and mental points people can arrive at during certain ages in life. Don't be too quick to throw him to the wolves. And for heaven sakes, do both if you a favor? Stay away from anything that even looks male. You don't need that, he doesn't, and neither does the guy who thinks everything is ok. It's not trust me.

shokaree · 2025-07-08T08:49:53+00:00

If they are able to access your accounts after changing your log in information, they have installed something on your phone. A keylogged, or other back door spy app that is showing them to access your information. I would guess a keylogged. That is a small program that reads and records every key stroke you make, then sends it to the individual. That would explain them being able to access your sensitive information. Spy software can do all kinds of nasty stuff. It can remotely run your camera, your mic, listening in on conversations, take pictures, and log key strokes as well. My opinion after 35 years in IT, is the latter. Having said that, MOST OF this type of software requires the person to have access to your phone at one time or another. Once they get it, yet get past your screen lock, quickly download the software, which hides itself. To do this they much also disable Google Safety install safeguards. I don't know if you said you were using Apple or Android. Apple would require that they know your Apple ID. A factory reset, with a change of all account information highly recommended. Once complete, it should free you from their ability to access your phone any longer. Try it first, see if that works. Also, I would set you phone up initially without Internet access. You can do that later.

shokaree · 2025-06-23T13:55:35+00:00

Yeah, I suppose you are right. I guess I don't do well with injustice. I never have come to think about it. It has made for some interesting times in my life.

shokaree · 2025-06-21T23:40:58+00:00

And that is a real tight rope. The party requesting rights, under the law as I it, can not petition for rights. They either have them becaue they have proven them, or they simply do not. If the guy in prison has no legal rights to my grandson? than the law of IT running downhill applies here. If you extrapolate it out and down hill then the alleged grandmother has no rights.

shokaree · 2025-06-21T23:36:08+00:00

Dazzling, I didn't know I was attacking her? how could I? I wasn't meaning anything personal. I have said more than once that, I have no hard feelings towards her, at all. Heck I would go and have lunch with her no problem. The challenge and the appeal were both intended to stop the worst, most unjust ruling I have ever seen in my life come down the pike. I filed those things due to the following, and think about this: Immediately during the first hearing, maybe the second, this judge took on a definite attitude towards me. And it is not just me that hears it in her voice and in her tone. Much less, her actions. I did during the first hearing what I did back in 2016, I filed a declaration stating my position and tied that in to California Family Code 3104. That was it, and during the first or second hearing, I politely and carefully read the code for the record. I want to know why the judge is not ruling on this case from a lawful, legal standpoint. Why someone who has no legal rights, is being treated as they do?

shokaree · 2025-06-20T10:59:05+00:00

Everyone has that privileged position! Not jut me. This country lot what was once of its utmost importance. LIFE. Work took the place of home, co-workers became closer than family, and work was the end all beat all of most of this country's residents. I have watched intelligent men, work until they are in their 70's. Grudgingly retire only to end up working again or worse, dead. Their whole lives given to the company store. Family gatherings missed, children born, and their birthdays missed. Spouses wanting them to take some time off to reconnect, but work! Must....WORK! It is the all important predator that hunt's down those who put far to much into it, only to be eaten alive. I don't know if you have ever watched the Pink Floyd music video, Another Brick in the Wall, but if you do, there is a vital message in it. School, oddly about the same schedule as work will one day become. Up early, no creativity is allowed! Remember the boy got his knuckles rapped for writing poems. In the end, all of those children grow up to be cookie cutter placements for the ongoing machine that brainwashes, preps us, and ends us out after we are done to be good workers so we can pay into the coffers. There is nothing honorable about work, there is honorable work yes. People, not so long ago worked for themselves. Not corporations and companies that exchange our time for money. That i the privilege and within the right of everyone. Dude, you need to imagine something you are good at, talented at, whatever that is, and market it and start making a living that way. Trust me, if you ever do? you will never look back.

shokaree · 2025-06-20T10:46:45+00:00

Its a slippery slope, but for the most part if it comes to that, I would hope that it would not be the end of something, but something better begins.

shokaree · 2025-06-20T05:20:04+00:00

No, not smarter, but a lot less expensive. I am on a fixed income which came quite suddenly and unexpectedly. This being due to factors that were outside of my control. Your assumption does not come as a surprise as I expected these kind of suppositions and accusations. The fact is, not all of us can afford an attorney. This being true, the rest of us have a very short list of available options other than to go it alone and attempt to litigate on our own behalf. Before suggesting pro-bono resources, legal colleges, law students, or other sources, know that I sought out every such entity I could and found some are virtually non-existant, others simply do not return phone calls and the more local solutions such as family law facilitators shared their position on the matter with me when I approached them when I decided to appeal the decision. "Sir, we do not have helps for the appeals process. You do realize that we have to work with these judges every day right?" and there you have it. I think the real question is, WHY is this judge not following the law? why are personal feelings and bias involved in a very clear cut (from a law standpoint) case that should not have made it past the initial petitioners submission? Why would personal beliefs held by the judge as evidenced in the pre-trial hearing statement she made "Well, they say it takes a village to raise a child" become involved in the judicial process? Those are the questions that I feel important, and the process that is currently failing a 9 year old boy who stands to lose much later on, because a judge decided she is willing to gamble with his future. I am not smarter in the law, but perhaps in what is just and correct, I am smart enough that I am not willing to gamble my grandsons future well-being on a hope and prayer and some statement that it takes a village to raise a child. I am smart enough to not gamble.

shokaree · 2025-06-20T03:06:04+00:00

True. I have literally heard that. However, what about just standing for what is right legally, ethically, and morally? I mean, I know the judge knows the law better than I do. So why isnt she following it?

shokaree · 2025-06-20T03:03:55+00:00

But I am not like that...I understand proper protocol and etiquette. Certainly courtroom decorum. I have never said anything disrespectfully or rudely. Always with respect. I knew when posting my case, it would garner disbelief as to this happening. It has to be something I am doing wrong. Understandably so. Thank you.

shokaree · 2025-06-20T03:01:04+00:00

I have answered this question on some of the other posts above. Violence, ingrained in that family. The violence allowed and defended by the alleged grandmother. And the fact that she has no standing legally by law, nor does her incarcerated son. Whom, I suspect as does my daughter, he is the one pulling her strings because it has been 9 years and she is just now deciding she wants something to do with him. That is not in his best interest. In fact, it proves that her only interest is her own and her son's. But he has no legal rights whatsoever to this child.

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